It's All My Husband's Fault

  Friday night, we talked to Son and explained why we were taking things away from him.  We then went and talked to Daughter and told her that Son had lost his phone for lying, so if they went back up to The Ex's house-   Daughter interrupted and said, "Don't let him leave?"  Uh, no.  I told her that if The Ex wants to let him leave her house, I have no control over that and it's not my business; however, Daughter was not to let Son use her phone.  He lost access to his for a reason.  Daughter said she understood.   That same night, I was driving Daughter over to her friend's house for a sleepover.  She started saying that she didn't know if The Ex is going to let Son out of the house anymore.  I asked why The Ex wouldn't let Son leave.  Daughter said that Son has been pretty bad lately up at The Ex's.  Daughter said that one day, Son wanted to go to his girlfriend's house; The Ex allowed him to go and told him to be hom...

  Anyone who has ever been around a teenager knows how moody and indecisive they can be.  This is why children aren't allowed to make decisions in family court matters; they will "hate" one parent one day and "hate" the other parent the next, and would constantly be moving back and forth.  Children can express their opinion to their guardian ad litem, but it's ultimately up to the parents; if they cannot agree, then it's up the the guardian ad litem to assess the situation, make a recommendation, and then the judge will rule what he/she sees as the best choice for the child.  Anyway...that's not the point of this blog post.   Son signed himself up for football this past spring before the school year ended.  For a recap on how The Ex has reacted in previous years, read this .  There was a football activity scheduled Sunday night, and football camp was scheduled from Monday through Friday of this week.  We bought Son new cleats, took him in for a...

  Daughter told us about Ned proposing to The Ex.  I simply said, "Oh...okay," because her personal life isn't anything that I have any control over.  My only question was, "How do you and [Son] feel about it?" ( You know, something any normal parent would have asked their child or children before planning on getting married again. ) Daughter sighed, said she didn't know how she felt about it, and said it was "too much work to think about it." Eventually she said she was happy for The Ex because she was happy about the engagement. ( So, she's not really happy that her mom is marrying Ned but she's not going to object. ) She also made a comment at some point that was along the lines of, "They're gonna be engaged forever."   Now, here's where the fun starts.  I've mentioned in the past that Ned has a son, and I've already said that my assumption is that when this relationship goes to hell in a hand basket, The Ex...