It's All My Husband's Fault

  The Ex hasn't unleashed her Holiday Crazy on Husband or myself this year.  I'd like to say I'm thankful but she released it on a number of other people in her family, which Son and Daughter were exposed to and honestly, I think that's worse than if she would have just yelled at us for it.  But anyway...   The Ex's family had planned to celebrate Christmas on the 21st at a hall, but then The Ex started the fight about Older Sister 2's boyfriend and how "they" didn't want him coming.  They ended up getting together at The Ex & Ned's house on the 21st anyway; not everyone was able to make it, but there were still at least 15 people there.  Then on Christmas Day, they had another get-together at The Ex & Ned's house which was the two of them, The Ex's youngest two kids, Son, Girlfriend, the baby, Daughter, and The Ex's parents.  Lucifer was not there. ( Daughter posted a picture of all the presents that were wrapped and I...

  I had wondered if The Ex was going to participate in Facebook's "10 Year Challenge" that was popping up all over the place.  She didn't, so I took the liberty of doing it for her.  This is actually a 12-year difference, but close enough.   Now you'll have to excuse me while I go pour bleach in my eyes. 

  I was filling out the order form for Daughter's basketball pictures.  ( You know, the ones where The Ex said she wanted a photo package and Daughter's senior banner for a grand total of $135? )  Daughter asked if I was filling out the form "for everything."  I said I was writing down what I wanted, I didn't know what The Ex wanted.  I asked if The Ex still wanted the $90 package; Daughter said no, she wanted something else.  I asked if The Ex still wanted the senior banner because I had called the school to ask and they said that we were able to buy more than one if we wanted.  Daughter said, "No, she said she was 'just kidding' about the banner." ( So...The Ex said she wanted a $45 banner as a joke?  Or a more realistic scenario is that a)The Ex thought the banner was free and said she wanted it, or b)The Ex thought we'd pay for it and she could have it. )  Daughter told me what The Ex wanted to order; it came to $42.   I asked how ...

   After the family fight that The Ex caused by addressing her sister in a group chat and stating that "they" don't want her long-term boyfriend coming to their family Christmas celebration, Daughter says that now they don't think they're celebrating Christmas together anymore.    The day after Nephew 3 said that he and his fiancee weren't coming, The Ex's brother asked if they were doing anything for Christmas and said he was going to start planning something else.  The Ex replied: "So, let's start with the Hall... it's $100.00 now. I may get back $50.00... IF IT'S CLEAN...( The Ex told everyone on December 4th that the hall was $50 and she'd get $25.  Less than a week later, she says that the hall is $100.00 and she might get $50.00 back.  And then she acts shocked when people accuse her of lying. ) On top of that, I'm not renting something for people to eat, open presents and leaving. ( ...I am utterly confused as to what else ...

  If you've followed this blog for any period of time, you've probably noticed that The Ex has a tendency to always claim that she never has any money.  This whining is not lost on the kids.  A few weeks ago, Husband asked Daughter if she wanted to eat before she left; she said no and that she was going to have The Ex buy her dinner and then added, "With money she doesn't have."   About two months ago, I blogged about The Ex posting on Facebook and implying that Husband "buys" Son's love.  You can read that post here .   Daughter recently told me that The Ex was irritated because she had ordered hoodies with Daughter's basketball team logo on them, but had received an email stating that they were unable to fulfill her order.  Daughter said that The Ex had spent $74 buying a hoodie for Daughter, a hoodie or shirt for Ned, and two hoodies for herself. ( Quite a big spender for someone who "doesn't have any money," but okay. )   ...

  The Ex's narcissism is engrained in every single relationship that she has.  She started a fight with one of her sisters over the weekend by bringing up something which could have been dealt with more discreetly and more maturely.  Get ready for the dumpster fire that is The Ex and her family. The Ex:  It's come to our attention [older sister 2] that you invited [older sister's long-term boyfriend]??? I'm so sorry [older sister 2] but many of us don't feel comfortable with him coming. We wish u would have avoided this and asked us first if it was "OK" if he came??? BUT we c he hasn't changed. ( Who is this "we" she keeps referring to?  Obviously. somebody else in the family has been discussing this with The Ex behind the sister's back. )              WE really want you to come to our Christmas. We've planned this for a very long time... The Ex's niece:  Maybe a private message would've been better..just sayin ( I ...

    After The Ex asked if she could have Daughter on our weekend so that they could celebrate Thanksgiving, Husband replied saying that if she wanted Daughter, they could switch weekends and to let him know what she wanted to do. ( I blogged about it all in this  post. )  Since her original correspondence, The Ex has not logged into 2houses.  Not to check the calendar, not to read Husband's response to her question, nothing.  Not one single time in the past 17 days.   Of course, I discussed this with Girlfriend.  I told her that The Ex wanted Daughter on our weekend but outright refused to switch because Husband "owed her way too many."  Girlfriend replied, "Are you for real why can't she just be not crazy" ( Honestly, it's such a breath of fresh air knowing that someone else sees how absurd The Ex's behavior is. )  I told Girlfriend that The Ex had given us 3 days' notice and then still expected us to give up our weekend; Girlfri...

  It's that time of year again.  I previously blogged a summarization of the past years of Holiday Crazy which you can read here .  And now, here we are again.   About three and a half weeks ago, The Ex created a group chat and added all four of her siblings, both of her parents, her sister-in-law, Son, Girlfriend, Daughter, her nephews and her niece; not a single person from Ned's family was added to this group chat, including Ned himself.  The Ex sent a message to everyone saying, "Created this site to find out WHO is wanting to get together for Thanksgiving and Christmas AND WHERE??? SOON...VERY SOON" ( She's using Facebook Messenger; she thinks she created a website.  This is awesome . )  The Ex also wrote, "I really want to be able this year and every year from now on to have our whole family together. It means a lot to me if we can do this. Even if it's not on THAT DAY... I'll have to check [Daughter's] schedule to see if I have her. Pleas...

  The Ex must really be mad at Son.  Even though their defective relationship is almost completely her fault, she will never admit to that and just continue to blame Son, Husband, me, or anyone else as long as it is not herself.  She's posted things to Facebook lately which I'm pretty sure are intended to hurt Son's feelings.   Yesterday, she shared a post that read: "Daughters are a blessing, especially mine!"   That could be waved off; posting that she loves her daughters doesn't mean that she doesn't love Son.   However, a little over a week before that post she shared one that read: "I always need my daughter no matter what age I am. She has made me laugh, made me proud, made me cry, seen me cry, hugged me tight, seen me fail, cheered me up, kept me on my toes and has driven me crazy at times... But my daughter is a promise that I will have a friend forever."   Less than two weeks before that, she tagged Son in a post she shared which read:...

  It was recently my birthday.  Girlfriend posted a picture that I had taken of myself with the baby, tagged me in the post, and wrote: "Happy birthday!! Thank you for being such an amazing woman and supporting us the way you do. You are an absolutely amazing woman, mama and grandma. We love you so much [my name]!! [Son] wanted me to make it clear that this was from all of us. 😂😂"   It was so sweet, I honestly had to fight back the tears.   However, Girlfriend did not write this on my timeline.  She posted it on her own...which means that The Ex and everyone else in The Ex's family could see it.  All three of The Ex's sisters wished me a happy birthday, Son and one of The Ex's sisters "love" reacted to the post, and even The Ex's sister-in-law "liked" the post.   But part of me cringes a little bit when I wonder to myself how The Ex will react to this, particularly considering that she's been whining for almost 8 months about ...

  Since we started providing phones for Son and Daughter when they reached 12 years old, we've monitored interactions between them and anyone associated with The Ex.  I could care less what they text their friends or what they talk about; The Ex is sheer evil, her family isn't any better, and I'll be damned if I let them have free reign over these children.  Judge me if you want, call me a helicopter parent; I don't really care.  When you've been through what we have, heard what we've heard, seen what we've seen, then I guarantee you that you're going to start documenting everything until your kid turns 18.  It also helps that recording phone calls without notifying the other parent is legal in this state.   We hadn't checked Daughter's phone in months because honestly, she's already 17 and Son is 19.  Documentation is not nearly as vital as it was when they were 12 and 10, and The Ex was constantly mind-f*cking them.  I've continued ...

  Putting aside the volleyball issue, there was still plenty of drama surrounding The Ex's son's birthday party. Apparently, The Ex had planned this haunted-house themed party and it was going to be a whole big deal and members of the family, including Daughter, were supposed to dress up and be part of this haunted house. ( I ought to upload the video that The Ex posted when her daughter was 4 and her son was 1.  The Ex and Boyfriend decided to take them to a haunted house/train thing; her daughter was scared out of her mind.  As this happened, The Ex filmed it on her phone.  The Ex didn't take her daughter away from what was scaring her, she didn't stop recording; you just hear this traumatized child screaming and crying throughout the whole. damn. video. )   The night before the party, The Ex sent Daughter a long-winded text message complaining about...well, everything: "Ordered 6 pizzas from [local pizza place]. 1 cheese, 3 pepperoni, 2 sausage. I'll ...

  Anyone who has followed this blog for some time knows and understands that while The Ex might say  that she wants her kids to play sports or be involved in extracurricular activities, what she actually means is that she doesn't care what they do just as long as it fits into her schedule and what she wants to do; if it poses any form of an inconvenience to her, then she doesn't want them to participate.   To go back a little bit and refresh everyone's memory, years ago Husband and The Ex came to a stipulated custody agreement.  In exchange for us getting every other placement weekend rather than only one weekend each month, The Ex would get any weekends that included a Friday or a Monday off of school; if the day off of school fell on a weekend that would be Husband's, then they would switch weekends so that The Ex got the extra day of placement.   Daughter had a volleyball tournament scheduled recently; Husband updated the calendar to reflect this on Augu...

  Saturday afternoon, The Ex shared a post that read: "Let this sink in. I gave you $10, he gave you $20. You felt that he was better just because he gave you more. But he had $200, all I had was $10"   I've seen the post before, I get the meaning behind it.  Don't appreciate something because it's "bigger," appreciate the effort that someone makes.  It totally makes sense to me and I agree with it.   But holy.  Shit.   The Ex couldn't just leave it at that.  Oh, heavens no.  The Ex not only had to tag Son in the post, but then she turned a life lesson into an attack on Husband's character and behavior.  And really, it's almost an attack on Son too.   When she shared the post, she also wrote: "Something for people to think on... especially for those teenagers ones... My oldest too...[Son first & last name] YES your dad always had more money... This is how it went in your eyes and heart ALWAYS😔 But I never stopped lovin...

  Girlfriend has continued to tell me throughout the week how frustrated she is with The Ex.  She first told me last Sunday that they were suddenly responsible for watching the kids for an entire week; you can read about that here .   Tuesday, she messages me saying that the two kids refuse to pick up after themselves and she felt like their maid.  She said she knew for a fact that they picked up when The Ex was home, but suddenly refused to do it.  She said that she told The Ex's daughter to pick up her mess and she replied, "Well Mom just normally cleans up after us and doesn't complain."  I told Girlfriend that I doubted that story because I can't imagine The Ex not complaining.   We've had a lot of rain here lately; she said that The Ex's youngest child ( The sick little bastard who watched Lucifer get punished for months on end for hiding toothbrushes when it was him hiding them all along and letting Lucifer take the fall for it ) rolled her re...