It's All My Husband's Fault

  We'll start at the beginning of my relationship with Husband; these are things I saw/heard/read first-hand so there's no bias.  I know these things to be fact, not just something I'm repeating.   Husband told me upfront he was divorced and had two kids.  I was leery of this because my sister had dated someone with a child; it ended badly, my sister was heartbroken over losing someone who she had come to consider her own child.  I didn't want to get into a mess like that but fortunately, I did.   When we first started dating, I was not going to get involved in their dissolved marriage.  I knew how divorce worked - everything was always the other person's fault and never your own, "If only they would've..."  I knew he wasn't a perfect person and had probably made just as many mistakes as she had which contributed to their divorce.  I was not going to take "his side" just because we were dating.   I met the kids maybe one week into ...

  They knew each other as kids, dated a short period of time in their late teens/early twenties, she got pregnant so they got married.  So they should have lived happily ever after...right?  Um, no.  Unfortunately for the kids, this is not a Disney movie; this is real life.  They had stupid parents who got pregnant without planning it, flew by the seat of their pants, acted young and dumb, had a second kid together and ended up getting divorced.   The Ex filed for divorce the first time ( Yes, there was more than the "first" time ) when she was nine months pregnant with their daughter.  Their daughter was born, they decided to "work it out" and had the divorce action dismissed.   Two years later, The Ex filed for divorce again.  Again, they decided to "work it out" for the kids.   A mere seven months later, she filed for divorce the third time.  She actually approached him at some point during the proceedings, claiming ...