It's All My Husband's Fault

  The Ex called Husband on Thursday night at almost 6pm, left him a message asking to call her back.  Husband didn't get the message until later, so The Ex called him again a little after 9pm.  The Ex said she wanted to pick the kids up in the morning.  Husband told her no, they had school.  The Ex said, "Well, I know a lot of kids that go to parochial school ( Name one.  I dare you. ) and they all have off tomorrow." ( This is how uninvolved she is with her children's school.  She assumes they have Good Friday off, calls the night before and wants to change the schedule because she doesn't realize that they do, in fact, have school )  Husband repeated that the kids had school so they could not be picked up in the morning.   Easter Sunday, Husband called The Ex around 4:20pm to find out if the kids were getting picked up at her place in New City or at her parents' place in Hometown; The Ex said they could get picked up in New City and then ...

  Before we dive into 2011, let me backtrack a couple of months.  We didn't get the kids the weekend that our city had trick-or-treating, The Ex did.  Come to find out that the kids spent the entire weekend with The Ex's parents because The Ex had laser eye surgery that weekend. ( Instead of scheduling it on a weekend that we were going to have the kids, she scheduled it on a weekend that she would have the kids. )  The weekend after her surgery, her mom calls Husband and says the kids will probably be coming with them again for the weekend because The Ex is sick.  Husband says if she's that sick, then maybe he should just keep them.  Her mom says, "Well, she's not really sick.  Her eyes are hurting." ( Another weekend not spent with the kids.  Yet when Husband doesn't agree to certain schedule changes, The Ex yells about how she never gets to see the kids and wants to spend more time with them.  What? )  Husband casually asks her about ...

  The Ex called to wish the kids a happy Thanksgiving, then asked Daughter to put Husband on the phone.  The Ex began stating that they were splitting Christmas; Husband corrected her and said that was the old order, they hadn't "split" Christmas since 2006 and this was his year to have the kids for Christmas.  The Ex then changed to, "Well, we split their break and this is my year."  Husband again told her that the order said nothing about splitting Christmas Break.  The Ex began screaming that the kids had off and she wanted them for a few days.  Husband told her he wasn't sure which week it was, so he'd check and get back to her.  The Ex said, "So you're pretty much telling me no, I can't have them?"  Husband said he wasn't telling her no, he was telling her he wanted to check the schedule and he'd get back to her.  The Ex hung up on him.   A week later, The Ex began calling both of our phones saying she needed the kids...

  We took the kids to a city-wide event when Son started being dramatic.  He said his chest was hurting, then a minute later he would be laughing and playing.  Then he'd remember he "was in pain" and it went back to complaining.  We asked Son if it hurt so bad that we needed to go home; he said no, he wanted to stay and go to the football game.  Then, The Ex called to talk to the kids.  Son gets on the phone with her, starts whining that he's in pain and Husband "wasn't doing anything about it."  The Ex tells him to put Husband on the phone.   Husband gets on the phone.  "Something's wrong with him, why aren't you giving him medicine?!  He's in pain, something is wrong!"  Husband told her that we already asked Son if he wanted to go home and he said no; he was not in that much pain and if he was, we would handle it.  We told the kids we were going home; Son immediately starts pouting.   As the kids were getting into t...

  We had been waiting on pins and needles for this report to come in.  We already knew The Ex is a compulsive liar, so it was expected she was going to report all sorts of horrible things about us that were untrue.  As I stated earlier, we weren't sure what the new GAL's angle was.  We didn't know if he wasn't doing his job, or if he was just guarding himself because The Ex accused the former GAL of being biased against her.   Finally, the report came in.  New GAL was recommending that the kids be placed with us during the school year, with The Ex during the summer. ( HUGE sigh of relief. )  New GAL did a very balanced, in-depth report.  He noted that the kids were doing well in our house.  He said he was impressed that Husband had gotten the kids into counseling ( Apparently The Ex told GAL that she wanted to do it when the kids had still lived with her, but had never gotten around to it.  The Ex also said that if the kids were place...

  In January, The Ex had Attorney 1 send a letter to our attorney stating that Boyfriend had completed his alcohol counseling.  Attorney 1 said that because there was no formal prohibition on Boyfriend being in the home, if Our Attorney did not file something then they would assume we no longer requested the prohibition ( When the temporary order was written, a lot of information was left out.  The part about Boyfriend not having contact was left out, the part about Husband not paying child support was left out which resulted in The Ex getting an extra $1,200+ in 2009, etc. )  The case had been moved because neither The Ex or Husband lived in the county that the divorce was granted in.  The commissioner opted for The Ex's county because there was more information there ( police reports, school records, witnesses ).   One night, we were woken up by a phone call from Boyfriend.  Boyfriend called Husband and asked if he was still fighting The Ex for the...

  The kids started school by us; The Ex did not attend their first day, assuming because she was just getting out of work while the bell was ringing.  The Ex has an aunt that was running around telling lots of people in their family that The Ex was a terrible mom and she didn't know how The Ex hadn't lost custody of her other child to the state.   Thanksgiving rolled around.  It was our year to have the kids, so The Ex called just before 10am to talk to the kids.  She said she was going to the store and asked Husband to have the kids call her back in about an hour.  Husband did like she asked and waited until about 11am to have the kids call her back; The Ex didn't answer.  We ate Thanksgiving dinner with family and went home.  Husband had the kids call The Ex again around 8pm and again, The Ex did not answer.   The next morning, The Ex leaves Husband a message yelling about how he had the kids call her back when she wasn't home ( How wer...