It's All My Husband's Fault

  2010 was pretty quiet.  The Ex realized that we could access police records and any time she called, a report was generated.  Husband and The Ex were in the middle of fighting for custody of Son and Daughter; a police report was the last thing that The Ex needed popping up.   There was only one report from 2010 and it was in mid-January.  This was the night that Boyfriend called Husband, saying that The Ex was a "f*cking b*tch" who only cared about money and that Boyfriend was "tired of [The Ex's] sh*t."  Boyfriend told Husband that he wanted to leave The Ex but couldn't because she had told him if he left, he would never see their daughter again ( Really loving to use a child as a trap; I can see the two of them are in this for the long run.  Not to mention that this just proves how unstable their relationship is and how badly Son and Daughter did not need to be around this )  Boyfriend also said things had "happened" between him and The Ex b...

  As I've said earlier, Husband and The Ex had a constant cycle - they got along, then they would fight, they'd split up, they'd get back together, repeat.  When this particular incident happened, they were separated but not divorced.  In fact, The Ex didn't file for divorce the second time for another year and half after this incident.  But anyway...   Two officers were dispatched; Husband had called the police and said his soon to be ex-wife had come to his place of employment and was causing a disturbance.  As the officers were on their way, Husband told dispatch they were going to be moving outside so they wouldn't disturb business.  When they arrived, the noted a truck parked directly behind Husband's car.  The Ex said that Husband had stolen her glasses and pushed her; she said all she wanted was her property out of their car.   Husband told the first officer that had was at work when The Ex showed up and tried going into his car to...

  The first report was in March.  The Ex called the police and said Boyfriend had taken her vehicle ( She let him drive it all the time.  It was only a problem when she decided it was a problem )  Two minutes later, The Ex told dispatch she had found Boyfriend and the vehicle, and said that Boyfriend was drunk.  Dispatch noted in the report that they could hear yelling and swearing.  The police showed up, Boyfriend gave the key to the officer and The Ex took the car and left. ( Son and Daughter were here for this incident.  Daughter explained to me, in detail, how "[Boyfriend] took Mommy's car"; how "[Boyfriend and his brother] were drinking beer and [Boyfriend's brother] threw a bottle down the stairs and it broke"; how "[Boyfriend] lied and told the police he didn't have the key, but then gave the key to the police."  Daughter had way too much information about this incident for her to be only repeating what someone else had said )   Th...

  The first one was from February.  The Ex and Boyfriend had been living together for not quite seven months; she was four months pregnant with their daughter.  According to the call log, The Ex called the police and told dispatch that Boyfriend was drunk and called her several times; Boyfriend said if The Ex came home and parked behind his car, he would run it over.  Boyfriend was already talking to officers at their address.  The Ex called back about 15 minutes later and was told an officer would be sent when one was available.  Five minutes later, Boyfriend agreed to stop calling The Ex and would stay at his sister's house; Boyfriend's sister showed up and agreed to watch over him because he was drunk.  ( This happened on a Thursday night.  It wasn't even the weekend ) ~   ~   ~   ~   ~   The next report was from June and involved a bar; The Ex was also in this report, despite being 8 months pregnant.  Around ...

  Along with the report from 2006, we got a report from 2007.  Some underage kids had been busted with some of his friends smoking cigarettes.  One of them was The Ex's brother, who was 15 at the time.   One of the kids was interviewed and at some point, their mother ended up on the phone with the officer.  The mother said two of the kids were headed to The Ex's house to babysit for Son and Daughter while The Ex and someone else ( I'm assuming it was The Ex's cousin ) went to New City. ( The Ex had been dating Boyfriend for about 2 months now )  The officer then talked to the kid again; the kid said they were supposed to go to The Ex's apartment and babysit so that The Ex and her cousin ( Again, I'm assuming ) could go out with their boyfriends.  The officer said he knew The Ex had two young children ( They were 6 and 4 at the time of this report ) and he was surprised by how much he heard of The Ex leaving her kids with family members so she can go ...

  Unknown to us, there were lots of things going on in The Ex's house.  She always had a problem with Husband and/or me, but we assumed it was just sour grapes.  Not getting along with your ex-spouse doesn't necessarily make a bad parent ( Unless you're trying to turn the kids against the other person.  Then you suck as a parent )  We knew small things here and there - The Ex missed the kids' practices and/or games; The Ex would leave the kids with her parents for days while she was out with Boyfriend; The Ex was having her teen brother babysit since he dropped out of school and wasn't doing anything.  But it wasn't until after Husband had gotten the temporary order giving him physical custody of the kids that we realized just what a terrible parent The Ex had been.   Since the case was still ongoing, we sent a request to the Hometown Police asking for copies of any cases involving The Ex.  We got copies of two reports; one we had heard about,...

  In 2009, The Ex gave Husband her email address.  For what, I don't know but she did.  Then placement changed, the kids came to live here, Husband told The Ex he would email her information.  Daughter wanted to be in cheerleading; Husband asked The Ex who agreed to Daughter participating but said she wasn't going to help pay for it.  Within two weeks of this happening, Husband emailed The Ex with info about Daughter's practice and performances ( Exactly thirty-one days after this email was sent, The Ex screamed at Husband that he hadn't discussed this with her )  The same day that Husband sent the email about cheerleading, he also emailed The Ex about a PTA meeting which she chose not to attend ( And then months later, she called the school and said she had "no idea" where the kids had been attending school )   Husband emailed her about the kids' therapy appointments; she never came to a single one of them. ( Way to support your children. ...