It's All My Husband's Fault

  I can't remember off the top of my head how much detail I've gone into regarding The Ex's siblings and parents.  We used to get along very well with her oldest sister, the one who always said the kids were better off with us.  Then she got all mad at us for withholding the kids, quit talking to us, deleted us on Facebook, re-added me but we don't really talk the way we used to.  Previously, we would text each other or even get together and hang out at the kids' events ( Hers and ours ).   Saturday night, I get a text message from this sister after I haven't really spoken to her since December when we wished each other a merry Christmas.  The sister wants to know if we have the kids on June 8th.  I say yes, we do.  Sister asks, "Do u think they can come to [her son's] graduation party?"   Let me pause for a moment and explain this.  This woman posted on Facebook in March that she was looking for halls to rent for this party.  She...

  So after all the baloney with The Ex changing the date on the stipulation, we finally had court.  Our Attorney told me to email Attorney 4 and make a proposal in an attempt to settle this faster than having everyone testify.   Attorney 4 emails Our Attorney well after hours, says she is not going to communicate with me because "[Our Attorney] is the attorney of record; not her." ( I think Attorney 4 is beginning to get irritable because she feels very foolish knowing I understand her client's case better than either one of them does. )  Attorney 4 goes on to complain that Our Attorney sent a subpoena to The Ex's employer and that Attorney 4 was not given notice; Attorney 4 says she was never asked for updated paystubs and writes, "Had I been asked I would of provided them." ( That should read, "I would HAVE provided them," not "I would of provided them."  I cannot fathom how this woman earns the type of money that she does. )  Attorne...

  After the "Want to get together?" email that The Ex sent, Husband replied saying he'd like to keep communication in writing and asked The Ex to answer four direct questions.  The Ex didn't reply, so a few days later Husband emailed her again and reminded her what the court order said about replying to each other's emails.  He also let The Ex know which two full weeks he would like in the summer with the kids and said he was still waiting for an answer about whether or not she would let him keep the kids on Labor Day weekend for the family wedding.   An hour later: "Did you not get my email I sent you. Maybe you should look again. [The Ex]"   Husband replied that he did get her email, replied to it that day, and said he would forward it to her again.  Upon forwarding, Husband realized that he had replied but sent it to The Ex's old email address ( The one that "locked her out" because it "said it was open on a phone somew...

  As stated in the blog posted just before this one, we had entered into the court order that emails would be acknowledged and answered no later than 48 hours after they had been sent.  The Ex literally violated this less than a month after it was ordered.   Beginning of April, Husband sent a receipt.  The Ex did not reply.  While this is "technically" a second violation of the court order, but Husband wasn't really asking her a question so we're not too concerned with that one.   Two days later, Husband emailed The Ex and asked her about us getting the kids on one of her weekends for a family wedding.  The Ex didn't answer. ( Third violation of the court order )   Husband emailed The Ex on Monday with some paperwork that the school had sent home, asked if she wanted to participate.  Husband also asked if The Ex had insurance through her work yet.  Husband asked The Ex to please let him know, she hadn't been answering his emails an...

  After the court hearing in February, Attorney 4 emailed Our Attorney and said that The Ex was willing to sign a stipulation so we wouldn't have to go back to court over child support.   Attorney 4 also asked for copies of all of the variable expenses so that she could discuss them with The Ex.  Attorney 4 said that The Ex was "concerned" about certain variable expenses:  Son's contacts and the kids' tuition.  Attorney 4 said The Ex had emailed Husband saying she couldn't afford contacts for Son.  Attorney 4 said that school choice was not a joint decision, Husband never asked The Ex to help pay tuition before, and that The Ex "cannot afford to make lump sum payments on tuition."   I emailed back and said that Son's eye prescription had changed and he was not able to use his old glasses - since he was in tackle football, contact lenses made more sense and Son's contacts were cheaper than Daughter's glasses that had been purchased only ...

Husband started emailing The Ex in September 2009, yet The Ex did not send an email to Husband until October 15, 2012.  Husband had emailed her about her son's birthday party; the email had no subject.  The Ex acknowledged this email to a police officer, but didn't immediately reply.  The Ex and Husband talked on the phone about the party; a couple of days later, The Ex and Husband talked on the phone again about her kids' baptisms.  Husband told her that he didn't know if he'd be able to get Son and Daughter to the baptism because of the time it was scheduled at and his work schedule.  After hanging up, The Ex replied to Husband's email and added the subject "Re: Birthday Party/Baptism" "[Husband],  Thanks for bringing [Son] and [Daughter] to [The Ex's son] birthday party.  It meant a lot; not only to me but to [Son] and [Daughter] and the rest of the family. ( Okay, so this is going good so far.  She's being nice )  I...

  2013 started with us still withholding placement, so most of the voicemails were centered around how The Ex had come to pick up the kids and "didn't know why" Husband wasn't letting her have them.  There was some fun about the Christmas party that The Ex's family was having.  The Ex had talked to Husband and told him that the party was at her sister's house.  On Tuesday, Husband emailed The Ex asking for confirmation about everything.  No answer.  On Wednesday, The Ex's sister sent Husband a text asking if the kids were coming to the party; Husband replied that he had emailed The Ex about it the day before.  Husband then sent The Ex a text that said he had emailed her on Tuesday and to please read his email and reply.   Thursday night, The Ex leaves a voicemail at 6:59pm:      "Hello, it’s [The Ex]! Um, I did get your text message. ( He sent the text 25 hours ago asking her to check her email and reply to it; she still had not...