It's All My Husband's Fault

  Husband emailed The Ex last Monday about the two Group activities for Daughter.  No answer.   Husband emailed The Ex last Friday; attached a receipt for Group, attached a copy of a bill for Son's stitches from 11 months ago that The Ex has not made any payments on, asked again about Group activities for Daughter, and asked again about The Ex getting health insurance.  No answer.   Husband typed up a physical letter and mailed it to The Ex, also sending copies to the court and to Attorney 4.  Husband reminded The Ex that she agreed to check text messages and emails on a daily basis, that she would acknowledge the messages in 24 hours and reply in 48 hours.  Husband said that since this had been written into the order, The Ex had violated this almost two dozen times.  Husband pointed out that this month alone, he had sent The Ex six emails about Son and Daughter; she replied once and it was five days after Husband emailed her, not in 48 hours....

  In exchange for us getting every other weekend with Son and Daughter, we agreed to let The Ex have the kids any days that they have off of school.  Son and Daughter have off of school at the end of this month, which would be Husband's weekend but the order reads that he and The Ex will switch so she can get the makeup days.   Husband emailed her a week and a half ago, saying the kids had off and they needed to switch.  He says if it works for her, he'd like to keep the kids the weekend of the 24th; she can pick up the kids on Wednesday the 29th and keep them through the 2nd.   Five days later, she finally replies to the email( As a forward.  I still can't fathom why she clicks "forward" instead of "reply." ): "[Husband],   We were actually planning [her and Boyfriend's son] party that weekend. ( Their son turned 3 last week.  They're planning his party over two weeks after his birthday, because...um...yeah. ) I'm sorry but I won't ...

  Husband emailed The Ex last Tuesday telling her that if she was going to keep ignoring his emails and using the kids to communicate, he'd have no choice but to ask the court to find her in contempt.   Exactly 48 hours and one minute after Husband emailed her, The Ex tries calling him and sends a text message: "I just wanted to know if [Son] has a game or not. ( Husband told her in the email that Son wanted to go to the game whether or not he could play. ) If he does. ( Does she know what a comma is?  Does she realize that a period ends the sentence and that indicates the end of that particular thought? ) Did you fill out the form from school? ( Husband told her in the email that he would do it. ) Coach said it had to be handed in before school ends on Friday. ( Actually, he said 1-2 days before the game.  Unlike you, we don't wait until the last possible second to handle things. )  On Monday I sent both you and [Son] a text about this. ( This was also addre...

  We sat down for dinner Monday night.  Son asked if The Ex was picking them up. ( According to The Ex, Husband should just automatically know if/when/how she is picking up the kids and write notes on her behalf because....um...just because he should, so there.  Son is now asking US if The Ex is picking them up.  Clearly, this is not our issue if her own child is doubtful about whether or not his mother is coming to get him. )  We tell Son that we don't know because The Ex has not replied.   Son shakes his head and says, "Her email doesn't work." ( Oh my dear heavens, here we go again. )  I look at him and ask, "....again?!"  Son nods yes; The Ex is supposedly having problems with her email for the millionth time this year.  I ask Son, "Why is it that your mom is the only person to always have a problem with her email?"  Son shrugs. ( The answer would be, "Because my mom is a dumb ass" but then I probably would have told him not to say...

  Remember two Fridays ago, Son got hurt in his football game?  Apparently when the coaches and trainer say that Son seems "slightly concussed" and that we also needed to have his arm checked out, The Ex understood that to mean that he needed an x-ray on his arm and absolutely nothing else checked.   Monday rolled around, I pick up Son after football practice.  He gets into the vehicle and angrily asks me to pick him up after school ends on Tuesday.  I ask why; Son says that he tested at school and they're saying that he has a concussion, he needs to go see a doctor, and they won't let him play in the homecoming game that Friday ( I don't blame Son for being upset; I get it.  He's a freshman, it's homecoming and he can't even play in the game. )   We got home, ate dinner, Husband was going to email The Ex and update her on the situation.  A little while later, The Ex calls Son.  Son tells her that he has a concussion.  The Ex acts su...

  Friday was...special.  I was talking to Daughter on the way to school and when I said that The Ex had the coach's number, Daughter speculated that maybe The Ex had contacted him directly.   After my last blog post, I texted the coach and said I wasn't sure what was going on because Husband asked The Ex if she needed a note turned in, but she never got back to him.  I said Son had told me that morning that either The Ex or her dad was picking him up from the game and I wasn't sure if she had contacted him about it.  I also told the coach that Husband had given his number to The Ex a few weeks ago.   The coach texted back and said he did not hear anything and was not given a form, and without the form Son would not be allowed to leave.  I told the coach that this was explained the The Ex two weeks ago; also asked if we or she could just bring the note to the game.  The coach said no, the note needed to be turned in ahead of time.   Daug...

  Following up to the last blog post, we still have not gotten an answer from The Ex about if she wants us to give the coach a note or not.  As I type this, it's been exactly 96 hours since Husband emailed her; it's literally twice the amount of time she was required to respond, and still nothing.   Son asks last night if we will give him a note for his coach saying he's going home with The Ex's dad after the game.  We say we haven't heard anything.  Daughter says The Ex said she was coming to the game.  We repeat that we haven't heard anything and don't know what she's planning.   This morning, Son asks me again if I'll give him a note for the coach.  I explain to him that two weeks ago, Husband told The Ex that the team rides the bus to and from every away game, and that a note is required if that parent wants to transport the child themselves.  The Ex responded to that email and asked us to give the coach a note.  I told Son that Husb...