It's All My Husband's Fault

  She is either completely stupid or completely insane.   Husband got a text message yesterday at 11:24am: "Hi [Husband]. ( Why does she have to write this in a text message that was sent to HIS phone?  Who the hell else is receiving this text message that she has to clarify that she's speaking to Husband? ) I'm at work right now ( Husband was at work too.  Nobody cares. ) and my phone isn't working. ( How many times has this been now? ) I would like addresses to both [City] for [Daughter] game ( Not Daughter 's game. ) tomorrow night and to [Other City] for [Sons] game on Saturday morning. ( You're missing the apostrophe, and wrestlers don't have "games." ) Please text me them. ( Why?  So you can later claim that you didn't receive the text until 6 hours after it was sent and then file for contempt against Husband again, just like you did for the kids' baseball two years ago? ) You can send them on 2 houses but just in case I can't r...

  I came across this on another blog and decided to do a good old copy-and-paste.  Parental Alienation Syndrome is very real and very scary.  Fortunately, both Husband and I have a decent enough relationship with both Son and Daughter that we get along with them for the most part, despite The Ex's constant attempts to make us the "bad guys."   I'll go through and put into bold each of these that Husband and/or I have experienced from The Ex, along with commentary: Some early signs of Parental Alienation: 1. Children perceive one parent as causing financial problems of the other parent ( When the kids lived with The Ex, she got almost $400 in child support every month and still "didn't have any money" and was "tired of paying for everything."  Now that the kids live here, The Ex doesn't have any money because she pays less than $200 each month in child support.  Son once angrily stated that "all [Husband] wants to do is waste [The ...

  Son told me last month that he was considering signing up for wrestling; he said the downside is that there are a lot of tournaments on Saturdays, which meant he wouldn't be spending time with The Ex.  I asked if there was any other reason he wouldn't want to join and he said no, that was the only one.  I told him that even if he joined, he'd still see The Ex; if Daughter had a basketball game on a Saturday, The Ex would come to the game and take them home with her after the game ended.  I told him that participating didn't mean he wouldn't see The Ex at all, it would just delay it a few hours.   That same night, Son mentioned that his cousin on The Ex's side had told him he'd pick Son up during the summer.  Son said he wouldn't mind staying a week or more at his aunt and uncle's, helping out on the farm, and spending time with his cousins.  I told Son that I wasn't trying to aggravate him or make fun of him, but I had an honest question:  why ...

  Saturday night, Husband gets a message on 2houses: "I was wondering if there was any chance I could pick up [Son and Daughter] around 4:30pm tomorrow. ( The Ex mistakenly thought that they were supposed to exchange the kids on Sunday, which means she literally posed this question 22 hours before she thought was supposed to pick up the kids.  Again, you have to love her lack of planning in every single aspect. ) Next Sunday you could pick them up at 4:30pm. Please let me know. Thanks"   Husband replied in less than 15 minutes that the Christmas break was to be split equally and she would get the kids at 5:30pm on Monday, not Sunday.  He said he was sorry but he couldn't do earlier than the regular exchange time.   Over an hour and a half later: "I just looked up the calendar you made for court. ( The Ex is referring to the proposed placement calendar that we brought to court in February, when we presented a stipulation outlining how many overnight stays...

  Christmas is my favorite holiday.  I love the meaning of it, that we're celebrating the birth of our Savior.  I love spending time with my family and close friends.  So naturally, The Ex would find a way to make the Christmas season completely dramatic for absolutely no reason whatsoever.   The Ex called Husband on Christmas Day.  But, it wasn't to talk to her children and wish them a merry Christmas.  No, she had something else on her mind: "Hey, it's [The Ex].  I was calling because I'm gonna need a copy of [Son's] birth certificate? ( I know a question mark is not the appropriate end mark for this sentence, but it completely fits the inflection in her voice. )  Um, if you have one.  Which I hope you do.  I was hoping you can get a copy made for me ( It's Christmas. ) and I'll pay you, and I can meet you somewhere tomorrow ( It's CHRISTMAS. ), 'cause I need to fax it in as soon as possible.  Um, I have a deadline.  ...

  The Ex showed up for Daughter's game last week ( This would be the game that Husband rescheduled just to ruin everyone's plans in New City, because he is all-powerful and has control over what entire school districts do with their basketball teams. ) and gave Husband a check for $15, asked if they could move the exchange place to Different City.  We got home on Friday night, sent her a message on 2houses asking where she'd like to meet on Sunday.   The Ex replied less than four hours before Husband was supposed to pick up the kids on Sunday, gave him an address.  Immediately after Husband got the email saying that The Ex had messaged him on 2houses, his phone let him know he had a text message.  I asked who it was and said, "It's probably [The Ex.]  She's texting you to tell you that she sent you a message."  Aaaaand, I was right.   Now mind you, The Ex still has not signed the stipulation saying that the two of them will communicate exclusi...

  Let's rewind to the beginning of November.  Husband emailed The Ex and said that Daughter wanted to play basketball.  The Ex didn't object in 48 hours, so according to the court order, that means she agreed to Daughter playing.  Husband scanned the schedule and emailed it to The Ex.  The Ex replied with a very angry email that included the statement, "I would not say no anyways to [Daughter] playing basketball.  I know she likes playing." ( Even though last spring, she said she disagreed with having to pay anything for Daughter's basketball shoes because she "didn't agree" to Daughter playing the sport. )   Twelve days later, Husband sent a change request through 2houses asking if they could switch this weekend and next weekend.  The Ex replied the next day, asking if he wanted to switch weekends and saying she didn't know what he wanted. ( *head against wall* )  Husband replied and said yes, he'd like to switch weekends.  Three days...