It's All My Husband's Fault

  To cover all bases before making any accusations, we contacted both the dentist and doctor's offices; we provided The Ex's insurance information and asked them to please verify coverage for both Son and Daughter.  Both offices said that the insurance companies were showing it to be a valid policy under The Ex's name, but they weren't recognizing Son or Daughter as being covered under that policy.   Husband messaged The Ex and said that we contacted the offices, who indicated that the kids were not covered.  Husband said we contacted the customer service number on the back of the card that The Ex had given us, and it was indicating that she was enrolled in an "employee only" policy.  Husband asked why The Ex would lie about this, pointed out she said the deadline to submit Son's birth certificate was 12/27 but her card had been issued on 12/23; he pointed out that The Ex kept asking him for info and blamed him for Son not being covered, when she knew al...

  I am taking some slight satisfaction in the fact that The Ex has officially lied herself into a corner.   The Ex came to Daughter's game on Friday night, walked up to us and gave Husband a copy of her insurance cards. ( Even though she claimed to only have one card, she managed to photocopy both the front and the back of the card at the same time.  Isn't that impressive? )  Husband asked if it was for both kids.  The Ex said no, Son was not covered; she said someone at her work was "checking into it for her" to see if Son could still get covered if The Ex provided the required documents.  Husband said to let him know what they gave her for an answer and thanked her for the card.   I called the customer service number on the back of the dental card and tried to verify coverage for Daughter.  The automated system said it didn't recognize her birth date.  Hmmm....that's weird.  I called the number on the back of the medical card and tried...

  After the drama on Monday night when The Ex very predictably blamed Husband for her lack of coverage, Husband sent another message on Wednesday.  He said that Daughter's coach had let us know that her game was moved back an hour; Husband said he updated the calendar on 2houses.  Husband said he looked through our papers and didn't have the kids' birth certificates ( The ones that The Ex needs him to give her copies of, because God forbid she should have to take any initiative whatsoever and request a copy from the states they were born in.  No no, this is Husband's responsibility. )  Husband said that this was now the seventh ( Yup, you read that correctly ) and final time he'd be asking for her insurance info.  He said Daughter should be covered even if Son was not, and that if The Ex continued to refuse to provide her information, Husband would have no choice but to request that the court take action.   I'd like to take a minute and post a pictur...

  I predicted it ten days before it happened.  For a refresher, go read this blog post .   Husband messaged The Ex yesterday morning and sent a receipt with an updated balance that she owes him for variable expenses and medical bills; Husband reminded her that these were supposed to be repaid in 30 days and it was now over two months for a majority of the balance.  Husband said he was asking for now the fifth time for The Ex to provide her insurance information; he said she had read all of his previous messages and ignored his requests, and he hoped they could resolve this without a court hearing.   Husband also sent a message about the kids' days off of school next month, saying that Daughter had a Friday off but also had an out-of-town basketball tournament that same weekend.  Husband said to please let him know if The Ex was able to get Daughter to all of her games on time and would like to switch weekends.   The Ex replied to the first messag...

  The court order says that The Ex will get the kids on any days they have off of school; if these days land on Husband's weekend, then the two of them will switch weekends.  This upcoming weekend, Son has off of school on Friday but Daughter does not.  Two different schools, two different schedules.   Husband sent a message to The Ex alllll the way back on January 7th explaining all of this, and asking if she would like to switch weekends or if she just wanted to leave the schedule as it currently was.  I have a screencap showing that this message was read by 9:39pm the same day it was sent.  The Ex did not reply.   Husband sent another message to The Ex on January 15th saying that he had asked what she'd like to do about this weekend and since she had not responded, we would be leaving the schedule as it is.  Again, a screencap showing that this message was read by 6:44pm the same day it was sent. ( This was the message blogged about last time. ...

  She is either completely stupid or completely insane.   Husband got a text message yesterday at 11:24am: "Hi [Husband]. ( Why does she have to write this in a text message that was sent to HIS phone?  Who the hell else is receiving this text message that she has to clarify that she's speaking to Husband? ) I'm at work right now ( Husband was at work too.  Nobody cares. ) and my phone isn't working. ( How many times has this been now? ) I would like addresses to both [City] for [Daughter] game ( Not Daughter 's game. ) tomorrow night and to [Other City] for [Sons] game on Saturday morning. ( You're missing the apostrophe, and wrestlers don't have "games." ) Please text me them. ( Why?  So you can later claim that you didn't receive the text until 6 hours after it was sent and then file for contempt against Husband again, just like you did for the kids' baseball two years ago? ) You can send them on 2 houses but just in case I can't r...

  I came across this on another blog and decided to do a good old copy-and-paste.  Parental Alienation Syndrome is very real and very scary.  Fortunately, both Husband and I have a decent enough relationship with both Son and Daughter that we get along with them for the most part, despite The Ex's constant attempts to make us the "bad guys."   I'll go through and put into bold each of these that Husband and/or I have experienced from The Ex, along with commentary: Some early signs of Parental Alienation: 1. Children perceive one parent as causing financial problems of the other parent ( When the kids lived with The Ex, she got almost $400 in child support every month and still "didn't have any money" and was "tired of paying for everything."  Now that the kids live here, The Ex doesn't have any money because she pays less than $200 each month in child support.  Son once angrily stated that "all [Husband] wants to do is waste [The ...