It's All My Husband's Fault

  The bottom line is that I like to know things.  I'm even more inclined to know things when they affect my family.  So when we found out that The Ex was cheating on Boyfriend, we naturally wanted to find out more about New Guy.   In the last few weeks I have learned:      New Guy is also married.      New Guy adopted his wife's first child.      New Guy and his wife have another child together.      New Guy and The Ex work together.      The Ex has used New Guy's truck, which is registered in his wife's name, to pick up Son and Daughter from our house.      The Ex is using Daughter as a "middle man" to let New Guy know when Boyfriend is or isn't around, so New Guy knows if he can call The Ex or not.      Both Son and Daughter are completely aware that The Ex is having an affair on Boyfriend.   New Guy is programmed into Daughter's phone und...

  The Ex sent a message on Thursday: "I just wanted to update with you about my insurance. ( "Update with you."  Not "update you" or "give you an update."  I don't know, I think it's weird. ) HR has corrected the errors on the policy. ( Oh, would this be the policy that you repeatedly told me and/or Husband "like a little child" was not your policy?  Except that now it is your policy and there were "errors" on it? ) She doesn't know if I will have another insurance card or not. ( You probably will because none of your dependents were listed on the copy that you gave to Husband, which should have been a good sign to you that you had none of the kids signed up on what was "not your policy." ) About getting [Son] coverage. ( Sig. H. )  I have to fax a copy of his birth certificate as soon as possible. ( She literally said this exact same thing forty-two days ago.  It's still not done?! ) Once they receive i...

  It's now been 50.5 hours since The Ex angrily stated on Monday evening that "enough is enough" and that she would "let us know TOMORROW!?!" ( "Tomorrow" being yesterday/Tuesday. )   We have heard nothing from her.

  To cover all bases before making any accusations, we contacted both the dentist and doctor's offices; we provided The Ex's insurance information and asked them to please verify coverage for both Son and Daughter.  Both offices said that the insurance companies were showing it to be a valid policy under The Ex's name, but they weren't recognizing Son or Daughter as being covered under that policy.   Husband messaged The Ex and said that we contacted the offices, who indicated that the kids were not covered.  Husband said we contacted the customer service number on the back of the card that The Ex had given us, and it was indicating that she was enrolled in an "employee only" policy.  Husband asked why The Ex would lie about this, pointed out she said the deadline to submit Son's birth certificate was 12/27 but her card had been issued on 12/23; he pointed out that The Ex kept asking him for info and blamed him for Son not being covered, when she knew al...

  I am taking some slight satisfaction in the fact that The Ex has officially lied herself into a corner.   The Ex came to Daughter's game on Friday night, walked up to us and gave Husband a copy of her insurance cards. ( Even though she claimed to only have one card, she managed to photocopy both the front and the back of the card at the same time.  Isn't that impressive? )  Husband asked if it was for both kids.  The Ex said no, Son was not covered; she said someone at her work was "checking into it for her" to see if Son could still get covered if The Ex provided the required documents.  Husband said to let him know what they gave her for an answer and thanked her for the card.   I called the customer service number on the back of the dental card and tried to verify coverage for Daughter.  The automated system said it didn't recognize her birth date.  Hmmm....that's weird.  I called the number on the back of the medical card and tried...

  After the drama on Monday night when The Ex very predictably blamed Husband for her lack of coverage, Husband sent another message on Wednesday.  He said that Daughter's coach had let us know that her game was moved back an hour; Husband said he updated the calendar on 2houses.  Husband said he looked through our papers and didn't have the kids' birth certificates ( The ones that The Ex needs him to give her copies of, because God forbid she should have to take any initiative whatsoever and request a copy from the states they were born in.  No no, this is Husband's responsibility. )  Husband said that this was now the seventh ( Yup, you read that correctly ) and final time he'd be asking for her insurance info.  He said Daughter should be covered even if Son was not, and that if The Ex continued to refuse to provide her information, Husband would have no choice but to request that the court take action.   I'd like to take a minute and post a pictur...

  I predicted it ten days before it happened.  For a refresher, go read this blog post .   Husband messaged The Ex yesterday morning and sent a receipt with an updated balance that she owes him for variable expenses and medical bills; Husband reminded her that these were supposed to be repaid in 30 days and it was now over two months for a majority of the balance.  Husband said he was asking for now the fifth time for The Ex to provide her insurance information; he said she had read all of his previous messages and ignored his requests, and he hoped they could resolve this without a court hearing.   Husband also sent a message about the kids' days off of school next month, saying that Daughter had a Friday off but also had an out-of-town basketball tournament that same weekend.  Husband said to please let him know if The Ex was able to get Daughter to all of her games on time and would like to switch weekends.   The Ex replied to the first messag...