It's All My Husband's Fault

  The Ex had a job for almost 6 years until she was fired for "attendance issues."  This was 2 years after she was required to start paying child support.   From March 2012 until April 2013, she collected unemployment and didn't work at all; Boyfriend supported her and their kids.   Once she ran it of unemployment benefits, she got a part-time job cleaning hotel rooms. Around the time she decided to be an adult and actually attempt to support herself, child support filed for contempt against her because she wasn't paying as ordered and wasn't completing work searches as required.  The Ex filed a motion asking for her child support to be reduced.    At the hearing in August 2013, The Ex was ordered to complete no less than 10 job searches per week until she found a job that would give her at least 40 hours per week and pay at least $10 per hour.   The Ex finally got a full-time job through a temp agency in January 2014 and was hired ...

  I got copies of the petition for the restraining order filed against Boyfriend.  The petition itself was relatively boring.  What was interesting was the written statement that The Ex attached to it explaining why she was asking for the order.  After reading it, I'll go right ahead and admit it:  I'm angry. "I met [Boyfriend] in March of 2007 and at that time he was a heavy drinker( But you still chose to uproot your two children and move in with him?  Thank you for admitting that in writing. ) and over time the drinking progressively has gotten worse. ( But you chose to marry him and have two kids with him. )  He has an order from immigration that states he is not allowed to drink, which he still does on a regular basis (a minimum of 2-3 days a week). ( You are also ordered by the family court not to allow Boyfriend to drink while the kids are in your placement.  Again, thank you for admitting in writing that you are not following the court o...

  The week started with The Ex sending angry texts to Husband, yelling about him not answering his phone or returning her calls even though she hasn't called him for over a month.  That was followed by another message on 2houses wherein The Ex replied that she "knew [Husband] would throw a fit" in response to him asking one single question.  To summarize, Husband received on Monday a total of five text messages, one email and four messages on 2houses; the majority of them were hostile and/or accusatory.   Tuesday afternoon: "Hi.  You said you fixed/updated the Memorial weekend. ( Actually, what he said was the calendar changed when the site updated and that it should be fixed as of the time he sent the reply message. )  It is still not fixed. ( Wait until you hear why! ) Pick up that weekend should be Monday at 5:30pm" ( That's her reason.  The exchange time is not listed so the calendar is "still not fixed." )   The calendar primarily shows ...

  Son asked when The Ex was picking the two of them up this weekend; we tell him that we don't know because honestly, we don't know.  Son asked if he was getting picked up on Friday and Daughter was getting picked up on Saturday.  Again, we said we don't know.  We tell them what we do know:  The Ex asked to switch weekends saying it was too much for her to drive here twice in a row, then said the weekends we could switch wouldn't work for her and she'd figure something out.  She told us this on April 24th and we heard nothing since then.  That is to say, it's been relatively peaceful and quiet over here.   On Sunday, 2houses sent an email to everyone who has an account saying that they were updating the website.  They said the mobile apps could also be updated but if the apps weren't working, then you would need to log in using the website; they warned there might be issues but to try again shortly after and the site should be back up. ...

  Back on March 9th, Husband sent a message to The Ex letting her know that Daughter wanted to be in the school play.  The Ex never responded, positively or negatively.  On March 19th, Husband updated the calendar to reflect that the school play would be on May 8th & 9th.   Last night, The Ex sends Husband a message: "[Husband], ( The website clearly indicates at the beginning of the message that it is being sent from The Ex to Husband.  There is no reason to write his name.  I'm beginning to suspect that someone is writing this for her and she is merely copy-and-pasting the text. ) Do you think it's possible that we switch the weekend ( I don't know why but the construction of this sentence bothers me. ) of May 8th; due to [Daughters] class play. ( 1)That is not the proper use of a semi-colon, 2)you should have used an apostrophe in "Daughter's", and 3)it is not a "class play" when the entire school is involved. ) Driving up 2 days in a...

  A little while ago, New City began using a system that reports all police activity and puts it on a map.  The public is able to enter their address, select up to a five mile radius, and sign up for daily, weekly, or monthly notifications on crime around their neighborhood.   Yesterday, there was a posting for "warrant service" at an address very, very close to The Ex's home; the service only lists the first two house numbers and the street name instead of the full address.  I laughed out loud and said, "Wouldn't that be something if Boyfriend got arrested again?"   I decided to look into it.  There is a site called "VINE Link" utilized by a majority of the United States.  This site allows you to search for inmates and register for notifications when there is a change in status.  It's a great site for anyone who's been a victim of a crime; it's also handy in situations like this.  I went to the site, typed in Boyfriend's name and f...

  I told you all last Friday that something was coming.  Now that things have been put into motion, I'll explain to all of you exactly what is/was going on.   A few weeks ago, The Ex picked up the kids from our house in a completely different vehicle.  Husband and I are about 99% sure that New Guy was driving; the little stick figurines on the back window would indicate he was driving his wife's vehicle.   The next morning, The Ex was texting Daughter and telling her not to let Boyfriend leave the house.  Daughter asked where The Ex was; The Ex replied that she was finishing paperwork and would be home soon.  Later that evening, Daughter texted New Guy and told him that The Ex had papers that she needed New Guy to hold for her until she needed them in two weeks ( Two weeks would have been last Friday. )   I initially thought that The Ex was going to serve Husband with some kind of paperwork, but I thought more about it and it didn't make sense. ...