It's All My Husband's Fault

  Despite having been divorced for a decade, The Ex still thinks she can control Husband.  When Husband won't do what she wants, then it's whine, pout, and complain about how mean he is.   Husband tried to make things easy and amicable for the weekend his sister was coming from out of town.  The Ex refused to switch saying that she had plans, but said she would talk to the kids about if they "wanted" to be here. ( So the plans, if they even existed, weren't concrete.  The Ex was just refusing to switch because she could. )  Husband had sent two messages; the first was remiinding her that he had switched so the kids would be present for her sister's vow renewal and the second was saying he was keeping the kids anyway. Apparently, asking her to respect Husband's side of the family is a big no-no: "I'm sorry, how many times have I switched weekends for you? ( According to the change requests on 2houses, none. )  Way to ( *too ) many. But, ho...

  Husband's sister sent me a text on Friday after Thanksgiving saying she and her husband were going to come visit us the weekend before Christmas, which happens to be The Ex's weekend.  Husband sent a change request explaining why he wanted to switch; The Ex read this on Saturday morning and ignored it. ( The Ex also told the kids to find out which sister was coming and to let her know, because that apparently makes some kind of difference whether or not she's going to let the kids stay with us. )   Monday morning, Husband resent the change request because it was still unanswered.  Five hours later, she didn't reply to the request but instead sent a message: "I'm sorry about not being able to switch weekends of the 11th and 18th.  We have plans ( Isn't it amazing how every single time we ask to switch a weekend, The Ex already "has plans"?  Uncanny, really. ) and I am looking forward to attending [Daughters] game on the 18th. ( The Ex could st...

  Yesterday, Husband sent a message to The Ex with an updated balance of what she owed him and asked her to please try to get caught up on the kids' medical bills.  She replied with, "Boo hoo, I'm not working, I had surgery, what are these bills for?"  Husband replied and explained how he reached said balance.   This morning: "You agreed to waive ALL past debts. ( Actually no, he didn't. ) Please review our agreement. ( Don't need to; I know what it says.  Perhaps you should review it. ) I'm sorry. ( Forrrr...?  I know you're not actually sorry for anything, but I still want to ask. ) Plus, I'm not paying any variable expenses per court order we agreed upon. ( 1. You are correct, you are not paying variable expenses.  2. Stop trying to sound smart because even if you disagreed but it was court ordered, you'd still have to do it. ) That order was agreed and signed by both of us in July of this year." ( Once again, The Ex is clai...

  Husband had sent a message to The Ex at the end of September; part of the message was to give her an update as to what she owes him for medical bills for both Son and Daughter.  The Ex read the message, replied to it but didn't say anything about the balance.   Husband sent another message Monday morning with another receipt for medical bills and gave her another updated balance.  Husband asked The Ex to please try to make a payment in the near future, because the court order was that the bills would be repaid in 30 days but the oldest bill was now 2 years old.  Husband stated he had applied a $1 payment from her in September and that the last payment he had gotten before that was in March.   Eight minutes later: ( This is astoundingly quick for someone who doesn't "have a proper phone" which makes it "very difficult to her respond to Husband's messages." ) "I haven't worked in a month.  ( Of course she hasn't.  She had a secure,...

  The Ex asked if her parents could bring Daughter home last Wednesday and asked if she could pick up Son directly from school on Thursday.  Initially we were going to tell her no for a couple of different reasons.  The first reason was because she took over a month to decide what she was going to do for Daughter's tournament and still never really gave a committed answer.  The second was because she was asking on Sunday and expecting an immediate answer.  The third was because she's a dickhead and we're tired of doing her favors only to have her badmouth us to the kids and complaining about us "never working with her" whenever we do tell her no to something she wants.   After thinking about it, we decided that we are better people than her and telling her "no" would really only make it harder on the kids.  As a refresher, this is what The Ex asked: "Next week Thursday, October 29th, I pickup [Son]. I was wondering if someone could pick him u...

  The Ex had her brother pick up Son on Friday.  He was, once again, half an hour early.  He also texted Son and told him to ask Husband if it was "okay" for him to park in front of our house while he waited. ( It's a public street so you can park there as long as you want to.  Walk yourself up to the door and ask if you think there's going to be a problem, and quit putting the kids in the middle. )   Sunday afternoon, Husband gets a message on 2houses: "Next week Thursday, October 29th, ( Okay...so THIS week, Thursday. ) I pickup [Son]. ( Do you also sedan, coupe, and convertible Son?  Or are you trying to say that you are going to pick up Son, which would be two separate words? ) I was wondering if someone could pick him up at 3:15 at his school, or [my work]? ( A)This has been on the calendar since July 22nd, B)I don't want you at my work, and C)you said you were picking up Son and are now asking if "someone" can pick him up.  Stay focused, ...

  I'm going to type out a timeline so you can really grasp just how stupid this woman is.   September 22nd, 2015   Husband informed The Ex that Daughter had a tournament this Saturday, October 24th.  Husband said that would be The Ex's weekend, and asked if she was going to leave Daughter here all weekend or if she wanted to switch weekends.  This message was never answered.   September 28th, 2015   Husband sends another message reminding The Ex about Daughter's tournament and said she also had another event on Sunday, October 25th.  Husband says that either a)The Ex can pick up both kids on Friday and bring Daughter to all of her events, b)The Ex can pick up only Son on Friday and leave Daughter here, or c)they can switch the weekend of October 24th with the weekend of November 7th.   October 2nd, 2015   The Ex finally replies at 10:30pm and asks if they switch weekends, if she'll "get the next 2 weekends including Hallo...