It's All My Husband's Fault

  Boyfriend had been arrested in 2012 for his fifth-offense, felony DUI.  At that time, I learned that Immigration & Customs Enforcement(ICE) has a detainee search option on their website to see if they have someone in custody; you can also get their case status information by calling the court's toll-free number.   Boyfriend was supposed to have his final hearing next month in the immigration court.  A few months ago, they rescheduled his date until 2019.  It seems kind of bizarre to drag it out this long but really, it's good for both parties.  It's good for the immigrant because they can show that they're paying debts and staying out of legal trouble, which means it would be harder to deport them; it's good for ICE because if the immigrant fails to stay out of trouble, it solidifies their case and would support the judge's ruling for deportation.   The other day, there was a news article about a multi-state immigration sweep that had just co...

  Daughter told me that yesterday, The Ex texted her "like, 3 paragraphs" about who was coming to pick them up on Friday and said that she was going to email Husband. ( She excluded the part where The Ex told Daughter that she and Son should bring extra clothes with them from our house so they'd have something to wear on Saturday because The Ex wasn't going to see them until around 5pm. )  Daughter said she didn't understand why The Ex didn't just email Husband in the first place or why The Ex felt that Daughter needed to know about it. ( I just love her to pieces; she is so ridiculously smart. )   Almost 12 hours after texting this to Daughter, The Ex sends Husband a message on 2houses with the subject "Pick up this Friday": "[The Ex's sister] and [The Ex's cousin] will be picking up [Son] and [Daughter] on Friday.  They'll be leaving from work and will be there any were ( *anywhere ) between 5:30pm-6pm." ( Well, I'm gla...

  Yesterday, Daughter and I were having a conversation about someone else and the following was said:      Me:  [This other woman] is not my favorite person.      Daughter:  Know who my favorite adult person is?      Me:  Who?      Daughter:  You.      Me:  ....seriously??      Daughter:  Yup! *big smile*   I'm pretty sure at that moment in time, my heart exploded.  Moments like this make it all worth it.

  Boyfriend had two court hearings last Thursday, which resulted in him having both a good and a bad day. The first case was for him violating the restraining order that The Ex had taken out against him.  The second case was a contempt motion filed in The Ex & Boyfriend's divorce case.   The bad news was that someone was found in contempt during the family court hearing.  I'm assuming it's Boyfriend because The Ex hasn't gotten a penny from him in child support so he owes her over $2,000 at this point; I am also assuming that he hasn't been abiding by the court-ordered exchange time which is what led to rant against Husband about "knowing by law that she has 24 hours to pickup the kids" because she is "dealing with this with [Boyfriend]."   The good news is that Boyfriend was being charged with six counts of violating a restraining order, operating after revocation, and bail jumping.  The Ex was expecting Boyfriend to get jail time as par...

  So after not having logged into 2houses for eleven straight days, The Ex sends a message to Husband with the subject "Pizza money" and said: "When I picked up [Daughter] on Saturday I paid for [The Ex's brother's] pizza. ( The school had a pizza sale fundraiser; The Ex and some of her family bought pizzas. ) I paid you $30.  I had thought he ordered pizzas with mushrooms but he didn't. ( The Ex filled out his order form. ) I shouldn't have paid you $30, it should have been $25. ( I just love that she's so aware of the fact that she "overpaid" by an entire five dollars, yet still owes us money from the kids' medical bills from nearly two years ago. ) Please minus $5 from the kids bill that I owe you and update it. ( Not "deduct $5 from the bill" or "apply the extra $5 toward the bill" - "minus $5" because we're doing second grade math. ) I've made a $30 payment and you sent an update of the balanc...

  Boyfriend just sent me a friend request on Facebook.   I'm almost inclined to accept just to piss off The Ex, but we're not going to make any rash decisions.

  To recap the last 48 hours with The Ex: she blew up Husband's inbox, asked to switch weekends, changed her mind about switching weekends, asked to pick up the kids on Saturday morning, accused Husband of starting arguments with her or telling her "bull crap", made up a law that doesn't exist, brought up her second divorce/custody battle, announced that she was going to pick up the kids on Saturday morning, and then said that she might have her dad help her and pick up one kid on Friday night and one kid on Saturday morning.  So really, she didn't clarify anything and everyone was much more confused than if she had just not sent a message to begin with.   Husband responded to all of this insanity with a straight-to-the-point, factual reply; he closed it by asking The Ex to figure out what she wanted to do and let him know.   Last night, The Ex replied: "[Son] will be picked up on Friday and [Daughter] on Saturday at 11am"   It's short and di...