It's All My Husband's Fault

  Extracurricular activities have always been a source of contention for The Ex.  Because she is a narcissist who cannot imagine anything existing outside of herself, it's impossible for her to understand and acknowledge that not only do the kids want to participate in things, but that it's beneficial to them.  Instead of recognizing the good that these activities do in the kids' lives, The Ex needs to reflect the focus back to herself.  Examples: Cheerleading   Husband asked if Daughter could join cheerleading; The Ex said she wasn't going to help pay for it and weeks later accused Husband of never discussing it with her.  The Ex accused us of forcing Daughter to participate and claimed she didn't like participating.  The Ex asked if Daughter could miss a performance because she didn't want to wait a few extra hours to pick up the kids.  When Daughter was chosen to perform during halftime at an NBA game, she had three mandatory practices - Th...

  Remember when I wrote this in July?  Okay, I forgot to mention that prior to anyone's birthday, she uploaded three pictures of all of her kids and wrote how she took them to a movie for an early birthday present to Son, Daughter, and her daughter.  About two weeks later, she uploaded four pictures of herself, her daughter, Ned, Son and Daughter horseback riding, which was Daughter and her sister's birthday gift from Ned and The Ex.  The Ex's son just had his birthday party this weekend and exactly as I predicted, she made a big deal about it.  So let's recap how this year went: Son's birthday - no acknowledgement on his birthday, was taken to a movie with the rest of the kids, went horseback riding for his sisters' birthday present ( He told us it wasn't very fun because his horse was either old or sick ). Daughter's birthday - no acknowledgement on her birthday, was taken to a movie with the rest of the kids, went horseback riding for her and her ...

  Last week, Daughter had practice at her school until 5:30pm; this also happens to be the exact placement exchange time.  The day that Son and Daughter were supposed to get picked up by The Ex, she started messaging both of them asking where they were supposed to get picked up and said that Husband hadn't said anything to her.   Initially, I thought we should maybe just let it go because it's just the same old crap with her - she doesn't pay attention to what's going on, blames Husband for her ignorance, repeat.  But I decided that I'd like some form of answer; the calendar showed Daughter would be in School City until 5:30pm, so why was The Ex confused?  Husband messaged her saying the calendar has shown since July that Daughter had practice until 5:30pm, they got done early, Son & Daughter said The Ex was already going to Our City, I decided to bring them to our house rather than leave them at the school to wait for The Ex, and then The Ex was upset tha...

  I learned that not only was The Ex hounding Husband this past Friday, but she was also texting Son.  Here's a full recap of the day's events. ~  ~  ~  ~  ~ 12:25pm - The Ex texts Son: "Is grandma and grandpa picking you up today?" 12:33pm - The Ex emails Husband asking what's going on and why it's showing he has the kids this weekend, says she's going to call him 12:37pm - The Ex emails Husband saying she sees that the kids are staying for homecoming, and to tell the kids she misses them and loves them and to have fun 12:38pm - Son replies and says no, he is not getting picked up. 12:43pm - The Ex leaves Husband a voice mail that is over 2 minutes long saying she doesn't know what's going on, he needs to text or call her, and to tell the kids that she loves them and to have fun and that she wishes she "could be a part of that." 12:45pm - Husband replies saying he told her a week ago that Son wanted to stay for homec...

  I am about to pee my pants laughing.   Last Friday, Son texted me and asked if we could tell The Ex that he also wanted to go to homecoming; it falls on her weekend and The Ex had previously said it was okay for Daughter to stay here.  Husband updated the change request to say that Son also wanted to go and that they could switch this weekend for either October 8th or 15th, and for The Ex to let him know which weekend she preferred.   Having not received a response after four days, Husband deleted the change request, updated the calendar to show that he would have placement this weekend, and messaged The Ex to let her know; he again stated that they could switch for the weekend of October 8th or 15th.  The Ex logged in at 7pm and did not read the message.   That same night, we realized there was an issue with the 2houses calendar; it was combining all of the parenting schedules and saying that the kids were at both houses on the same day.  Husb...

  I am so completely at a loss for words right now.   Yesterday, Son & Daughter brought home their school picture order forms.  This is the eighth year that we've had custody of them, which means this is the eighth time that Husband has asked if The Ex would like to order pictures.  The Ex has two other children and should understand by now that each child gets one order form.   Husband scanned, uploaded and emailed the order form to The Ex yesterday afternoon and said: "[Son] and [Daughter's] school pictures are being taken on Monday. If you would like to order something, please let me know by Sunday evening at the latest. You can bring your payment when you pick up [Son] on Friday, September 23rd."   The Ex replied today: "Please make sure [Son] brings in 2 forms"   I am not exaggerating when I say that photo is my exact reaction.  Husband replied that that kids only get one form per child, the forms need to be turned in with...

  The Ex is being a downright bitch to Daughter.  Between the water park passes and saying she's not making extra trips to what I'm about to blog about, she is just being plain rotten to her own child.  I feel as if I should have been better prepared for this day but I think my morals keep hoping/wishing that The Ex will just. get. it. together.   Homecoming for Son & Daughter is on The Ex's placement weekend.  Originally Son wasn't sure if he was going but Daughter said she wanted to go.  In fact, she told The Ex that she wanted to go.  I told Son to decide if he was going or not because if he was, then Husband would ask The Ex about switching that weekend with another; if he was not going, then Husband would just ask if Daughter could stay here.  Son decided not to go so Husband sent a change request on 2houses with the reason for the request as, "[Daughter] would like to stay here the weekend of September 24th for homecoming."   Th...