It's All My Husband's Fault

  As the years have gone by, The Ex has constantly blamed Husband and/or me for everything that goes wrong.  We've learned to brush our shoulders off, ignore the asinine behavior, and continue on with our lives.  And while I recognize that mental disorders such as narcissism do not discriminate, I am just left astonished by the way that The Ex has started treating Daughter.   Last week, the kids had off of school on Friday.  According to the stipulation we worked out nearly three years ago, this means that The Ex would get placement Thursday night at 5:30pm.  However, Daughter had a basketball game on Friday at 6pm; Husband already stated to The Ex that he did not agree that she would be responsible for bringing Daughter to her games because a)The Ex made Daughter skip practice and b)The Ex brought Daughter to her games after they had already started.   Wednesday evening, Daughter comments that The Ex "doesn't know if she's picking [Daughter] up ...

  The Ex must really be upset about something in her personal life, because she just cannot stop with her constant tirades against both Husband and myself.  Unfortunately, she has her meltdowns with/toward Son and Daughter, who are both left speechless by her outbursts.   Last week at school, Son was being stupid with one of his friends and took it too far.  The school dean called me to let me know, said they gave him two 1-hour detentions, and that Son had apologized profusely to his friend for what he did.  The dean and I laughed, talked about what a great kid Son really is, and how he needs to think things over rather than just acting on them.   This would be all good and fine, except for the fact that Son told The Ex about it.  When he said that  he was told that they needed to call his parents, The Ex asked why she wasn't called and commented, " I'm your mom.  Let me guess: they called [my name]?"  Son said yes, they had c...

  New Years' Day, Husband wakes up to find a text message on his phone from an unknown number: "Good morning! This is [The Ex].  Don't know if you have my new phone number. ( You never gave it to him, why would he have it?  Found out the kids have had this number for 2.5 weeks; thanks for not letting us know how to reach you in case there was an emergency with the kids.  Parenting win! ) Just wanted to let you know that I will be dropping [Daughter] off later today. ( Daughter was supposed to stay through Monday evening because of winter break, but had practice on Monday.  This is the first we heard about Daughter coming home early. ) Before 8pm. ( So, Daughter will be home sometime in the next twelve hours.  Thanks for narrowing that down. ) She says that she can't miss practice. ( Husband literally told her this forty-two days ago.  This is not new information. ) On the schedule it says it's TBD. ( She's referring to the schedule that was handed out...

  So, gonna have some graphic language in this post.  Figured I'd warn you.   The other day, The Ex was complaining to Daughter that she didn't think she should have basketball practice at the end of the month; she said Daughter should tell her coach that it's a holiday and they don't need to practice. ( The Ex has never played any sport in her life and has no idea what she's talking about.  The only reason she's saying this is because she doesn't want to have to plan on picking Daughter up on Friday; she wants to come to her game on Thursday night and leave from there with Daughter. )  Daughter replied that the coach scheduled practice because he didn't want them having an entire week off in addition to all the holiday food that we're all going to consume.   The Ex responded to Daughter's statements about her coach by yelling that Husband is "a piece of shit and doesn't care." ( The coach scheduled practice, so Husband is a pie...

  I'm waiting for Our Attorney to call me back so I can discuss this with her, but I'm relatively sure that Husband is going to be filing a restraining order against The Ex.

  A few weeks ago, it was Ned's birthday.  This is what The Ex wrote on his timeline: "When I moved to [Tiny City] last April I wanted to concentrate on my kids. ( You ran away from your marriage to Boyfriend and within two months, started dating Ned while you were still sleeping with New Guy.  At no point in your life have you ever concentrated on any of your children. )  I started working in May at [store] and met the most wonderful person. [Ned's first and last name]. ( She used to call Boyfriend her "wonderful husband."  Now Ned is "the most wonderful person." ) Thank you for giving me your phone number. ( I have no idea what Ned was thinking; part of me wonders if the loneliness signified by the end of his marriage was more than he could handle.  This is a complete rebound relationship for the both of them and I shudder to think of how their kids are going to be affected by their stupidity. ) My life and my kids lives have forever been changed by y...

  Sometime within the last week, Daughter asked me if she could stay here next weekend instead of going to The Ex's, as she was invited to a teammate's birthday party.  I told her that Husband would ask The Ex and see what she said.  Two days ago, she asked if we had emailed The Ex.  ( To be entirely honest, we have such an insane amount of things going on right now that we both forgot until Daughter said something. )  We sent an email asking if Daughter could stay, explained the reason why, asked for an answer and said thanks.   The Ex replied the next morning: "Can I get [Son] straight from school then?"   Husband replied a little over an hour later and said that if she was willing to leave Daughter here, then she could pick up Son that day directly from school.  He also asked that she make sure any homework that Son might have get completed over the weekend and brought home on Sunday. ( I realize that Son is old enough to do take care of t...