It's All My Husband's Fault

  The Ex was supposed to have placement on Friday at 5:30pm until Monday at 5:30pm due to the kids having off of school.  The issue is that Daughter had practice on Monday morning, so we weren't sure if she was going on Friday and coming back early, or staying the weekend here.   Thursday night, Son told The Ex that she should just leave Daughter here for the weekend because he didn't want to come back early on Monday.  The Ex replied that Son should tell Daughter she was staying, otherwise The Ex wasn't bringing them home until Monday evening because she had to work.  Son said nothing to anyone about this.   Friday afternoon, we still weren't sure what the plan was, so Daughter said she was going to call The Ex and ask.  The Ex answered; Daughter asked if she was coming home on Sunday evening.  The Ex replied that Son wasn't going to want to come home a day early.  Daughter replied, "Well, [Son] doesn't make the rules.  He's not an ...

  Son has been in counseling since October when The Ex told him/he told his doctor he was "depressed."  He's since been taken off his medication ( He wasn't taking it every day and told multiple people that Girlfriend "makes him feel like he doesn't need it," which isn't how real depression works, but whatever. ) but everyone agreed the counseling would be good, including The Ex.   His counselor talked to me for a bit yesterday and said it's been kind of a slow battle to get Son to accept responsibility for himself.  She said that he has a lot of pent-up anger toward Husband, which I agreed with.  The counselor said that Son was of the impression that he was "taken away from The Ex."  I said yes, because that's what The Ex has been beating into the kids' heads for the last nine years.  The Ex doesn't say that she lost custody, The Ex doesn't say that the kids went to live with Husband; The Ex says that Husband "to...

  The Ex has not logged into 2houses since January 26th.  That makes it thirteen days; she's required by the court order to check her emails daily.   This morning, Husband was lucky enough to get a rambling text AND a voice mail from The Ex.  The long-winded text message came at 7:19am and read: "I know you like to go through two houses for things but since this is tomorrow ( ...what?  "Since this is tomorrow"??? ) I'm texting you and yes I'll probably be calling and leaving a message also and it's not a probably I am. ( "I'll probably be calling...it's not a probably I am."  She's literally arguing with herself in her own text message. ) I have a doctor's appointment that's in [city name] tomorrow at 4 p.m. ( I don't care. ) and Dad will be going to get the kids tomorrow. ( I don't care about this, either. ) He just texted me and would like to know if he can pick them up straight after school ( No, because Daughte...

  This video is a couple of years old; I forgot about it until recently.  We were celebrating a friend's birthday and someone commented about The Ex shoving her kid into a table at his birthday party.  I blurred out the faces and identifying information, and cropped off the end when the kid starts crying.   I think I've told you before that The Ex and her family have a "tradition" of shoving the birthday person's face into their cake.  There's doing this as a joke....aaand, then there's doing it as The Ex did in this video.  Around six seconds, you hear a loud "thud."  I'm still not able to tell if it's the sound of The Ex's son's face hitting the tabletop or his chest slamming into the corner.  Either way, it sounds incredibly painful.   I honestly wish there was some way to require testing prior to one being allowed to become a parent.

  So sorry about the lack of updates.  The Ex has just been so very quiet.   The Ex and Daughter got into a semi-fight last weekend.  She was whining at Daughter about I don't even know what.  Something about wanting to see her/spend time with her, blah blah blah.  Daughter stood her ground, told The Ex that she gets upset at Son but takes her anger out on Daughter.  The Ex denied it.  Daughter pointed out how Son was always taking off and spending the entire weekend with Girlfriend ( They're dating again, by the way.  That's an entirely different blog topic all by itself. ) but The Ex doesn't say a word to him; she just gets mad at yells at Daughter when she didn't do anything wrong.   At some point, The Ex brought me up like she always has to.  The Ex complained that she feels like Daughter sees me as more of a mom than she does The Ex; Daughter replied that she doesn't even call me "Mom," she calls me by my first name. (...

  I'm so sorry for not updating more frequently, but....The Ex has gone completely silent.  She has gone for over a full month without logging into 2houses; if Husband emails her, she reads it and ignores him.  She will send a text every now and again, but that's about it.   She hasn't made it to a single basketball game of Daughter's this year but I've heard she's coming for Parents' Night.  It irritates me to a certain extent but it also makes me laugh; she thinks she's "proving" something by showing up for that one night, letting everyone see that Daughter is her child.  In reality, everyone is probably wondering who she is and why she's never around.  The last few times it's been Parents' Night, they just announce Daughter and then announce Husband and I as her parents; the one time she showed up, Daughter made sure to tell them to announce all 3 of us because you know there would be all sorts of hell to pay if we didn't ...

  The Ex is...I don't even know what word to use to describe this.  Holiday Crazy is nothing new, but this one is just plain silly.   Yesterday, Daughter called The Ex to see if she could stay with us this weekend since a friend is having a birthday party.  The Ex said yes, started asking about Son and what was wrong( He had a temper tantrum over the weekend and messaged her, which she didn't respond to. ), and then started talking about her family celebrating Christmas.  I thought I overheard something but wasn't positive until she messaged Son later.  I'm going to share with you some of what she said: "We're doing that elephant gift exchange here at the house ( She means that they're doing "White Elephant" for Christmas this year. ) [The Ex's nephew] is an it only because he's buying his own gift ( I think she was saying her one nephew isn't participating, but somehow wrote "is an it." ) and I told [Daughter] that if yo...