It's All My Husband's Fault

  Son has been back and forth since last summer about going to live in Tiny City.  Last summer he wanted to finish his senior year there because of Girlfriend but then they broke up.  Then he said he'd finish school here and move there after graduation.  Then he talked about staying here.  Then he started dating Girlfriend, got mad over who knows what and said he wanted to move there again.  Then he got a good job here and rethought the move. Back and forth, back and forth - it's been like this for months.   We all know that The Ex is toxic and has been manipulating Son for....well, basically his entire life.  She lies to him, he gets confused which leads to him getting upset, he internalizes his anger, and then eventually blows up.  It also doesn't help that The Ex and her family have no idea what personal accountability is and because of that, they don't teach Son what it is either.   Last week, things started going downhill with S...

  I'm so sorry that I've been MIA, but life here has been just absolutely insane.  I'm exhausted at the end of every day.  A big part of it is Son, and a big part of his behavior is The Ex.  But we'll get to that in the next blog post.  For right now, I'm going to talk about Mother's Day.   For the last 13 years, the court order has read that The Ex will get the kids beginning at 9am on Mother's Day, regardless of the year.  It makes sense; she's their mom, she gets them on Mother's Day.  Nothing has changed in that regard.  The thing that's nice for me is that since we got custody nine years ago, I also get to spend at least a little bit of Mother's Day with Son and Daughter.  Anyway...   I think about 3-4 days before Mother's Day, Daughter tried calling The Ex because she wanted to talk to her about spending more time here in the summer rather than spending the majority of time in Tiny City.  The Ex didn't answer but texted b...

  Just wanted to wish everyone a happy mother's day.  I've got things to blog about but for now, I'm just going to enjoy the day with my family ❤️ Hope you all have an amazing day!!

  A few hours ago, The Ex posted on Facebook: "My Little Man lost his 3rd tooth in school yesterday. He came home upset he couldn't find it. ( I don't understand this.  Do you guys remember last year when her kid lost his first tooth and they couldn't find that one either?  I wrote about it here .  Why does this kid not know where any of his teeth fall out?  I've never experienced this; are my children that abnormal? ) Even his teacher helped him look for it. ( Where are all these adults when this kid has his fingers in his mouth?  Why doesn't he ever tell anyone he pulled a tooth out?  Honestly, this makes no sense to me.. .) Today I told him he needed to write the tooth fairy what happened. ( Last I heard, The Ex's dad was the tooth fairy and was forking out $10/tooth to The Ex's daughter. ) He asked me to help him. ( Well, yeah.  He's in kindergarten.  He can't really write a letter by himself. ) I wrote a letter and had him copy it. ( ...

  After Husband told the mediator that he didn't think mediation was necessary because there was no longer a dispute over placement of Son, she called him and said that The Ex still wanted to have mediation to discuss summer placement of Daughter and transportation.  I talked to Our Attorney who agreed that there is no motion filed, any issues above and beyond Son's placement is not in front of the court at this point, and mediation is not necessary.  Husband called the mediator a second time and left her another message stating that the motion was solely for Son, the motion clearly stated that The Ex did not want the order changed regarding Daughter, and that Husband wasn't interested in changing anything and was happy with the order as it stood.   This morning, Husband had another voice mail: "Hi [Husband], this is [mediator's name] calling from [our county] Family Court Counseling.  I got your message.  Um, in regards to, um, you don't want anything chan...

  Friday morning, Husband went on break and found he had a new voice mail: "Hi [Husband], this is [mediator's name] from [our county] Family Court Counseling.  Um, I know that you had responded to my April 3rd letter saying that- um, from your perspective, that nothing more was needed in regards to your son and um, changing the order because he was gonna be graduating.  And, um, [The Ex] had responded.  And basically she said, she's good with that- with that child, but she's not okay with your daughter.  Um, I believe that's [Daughter].  And so she wanted to do mediation in regards to that.  Um, also in regards to the transportation.  I think with [Daughter] it has to do with the Mondays that you are- um, as far as like her summertime placement and those Mondays.  Um, again as well as the transporting.  Um, so I just wanted to get you scheduled for that session.  I'm looking at the afternoon of Monday, May 21st.  Like, at 1 o'...

  So to recap:  The Ex dropped off the kids late, then asked to pick them up directly from school while calling Husband childish and accusing him of wanting her to beg.  Husband said she could pick them up at 5pm in order to make it back to her daughter's concert in time.  The Ex replied by listing things she felt Husband had done wrong, called him a liar and heartless, said the kids "see through" both him and I, asked again about picking up earlier than Husband had agreed to.  Husband repeated she could pick the kids up at 5pm.  The Ex called both of us immature, whined about her daughter's concert, claimed again that Husband wanted her to beg and told him to "dream on," said Husband and I have been "jacks" to her for over nine years, and called Husband heartless a second time.  The Ex's younger sister then told Son that Husband was "being a dick" about exchange time.   After all of this chaos, The Ex's younger sister picked up t...