It's All My Husband's Fault

  Daughter had asked if we would let her get her nose pierced for her birthday.  Husband wasn't thrilled about it at first, but he finally said yes and I took her in.    Daughter has had the piercing for almost 3 months now.   Daughter told me last night that The Ex just recently realized that Daughter's nose is pierced, and told her that "it's ugly."  After getting over the initial shock, I told her that out of everyone, The Ex is the ONLY person to say that; Husband didn't even want Daughter to have it done and now he thinks it looks cute on her.   She also said she had told some of her friends about this; one of them commented that The Ex really seems to be judging Daughter's appearance lately.  Daughter said that this is how it always is with The Ex.   My heart really hurts for her.  She shouldn't have to put up with this.  Daughter is such a sweet, loving, helpful person; she'd give a stranger the shirt off her back if ...

  Last week was Parents' Night at Daughter's school.  The morning of, Daughter said she had asked The Ex if she was coming; she told Daughter that she "didn't know."   We got to the school a little early, I talked to the athletic director for a few minutes.  A little while later, Daughter said she needed to find the AD and talk to him.  Daughter said that she had only listed The Ex as a "maybe" for Parents' Night, but she just found out that The Ex was coming so she said that she "had to make sure" they announced The Ex's name along with ours. ( The way she said it implied she knew that she was going to get an earful if The Ex's name wasn't announced.  Am I the only one who finds it a somewhat interesting that Daughter has them read The Ex's name only if she attends the event?  All of the other events that The Ex has missed, Daughter told them only to read my and Husband's names. )   So The Ex shows up with Ned in ...

  You guys, I am really sorry.  I thought I had told you about The Ex's hair in the past.  Apparently, I did not do that.   She has nice hair.  In fact, I would be quite envious of her hair if she didn't style it the way that she does.  She's had the same "go to" style (if you can call what she does a "style") since before she and Husband got together.  Husband's family will occasionally ask me if The Ex "still does her hair like that."   Her hair is naturally curly, but then....I'm not sure what she does to it, exactly.  The curliness is good, I think whatever she is doing there is okay.  But oh my word...the worst part...   She has bangs cut, straightens and curls them at angles that defy gravity, and then sprays them down with what is probably close to fourteen cans of hairspray.  Honestly, I want to touch them just to see if they break off in my hand.   Son was once mocking her by holding his hands at his fore...

  Someone must be badmouthing Girlfriend because she posted on Facebook the other day and wrote, "Dose ( *Does ) making (* a ) post about me make you feel better about yourself?"   A few people commented trying to encourage her.  Then, along came The Ex, and her comments are just stellar.  I'm really struggling to make sense of what she wrote, but nothing connects.  All I can figure is that she was pretending to be encouraging Girlfriend but was really trying to post passive-aggressive attacks on someone, possibly Husband or myself, and just came off sounding like a total idiot. "People like that have nothing better to do with their life... They are uncaring selfish people that think they have friends, but really don't...bc the really good people that don't like others, are still good to them. They only pretend to b friends with those people bc of the good in them... Your a great person. Love You"   Okay, there is so much here to comment on....

  Let's rewind a couple of weeks.  The Ex emailed Husband on Monday, September 3rd, saying she wanted to switch the weekends; she said she wasn't going to be around the weekend of the 8th and claimed that Daughter wanted to switch for the weekend of the 29th.  Husband emailed back that same night saying because Daughter had a tournament on the 8th and The Ex would not be around, Daughter would stay home with us; he said if The Ex wanted Daughter on the weekend of the 29th, they could switch for the weekend of November 10th.  The Ex didn't read this email.   Last week, Husband emailed and said that Daughter wanted to stay for homecoming.  The Ex didn't read this email, either.   Yesterday morning, The Ex replied to the homecoming email at 7:07am: "Since she's with u during homecoming, ( Daughter is not "with us."  It's The Ex's weekend.  Husband is telling her that Daughter wants to participate. ) she can stay with you for that weeke...

  The Ex had emailed Husband last Monday, saying she wouldn't be around this past weekend and asking if he wanted to switch for the weekend of the 29th.  Husband replied that same day; she still hasn't read it.  I find it rather paradoxical that she asks if he wants to switch, but refuses to read his answer.  Is she of the impression that just because she left Daughter here, she'll be entitled to a make-up weekend at her leisure?  Honestly, nothing this woman does makes any sense at all.   If you read my past few blog posts, Daughter said that The Ex had made plans to go somewhere with Ned on the weekend of the 8th and claimed that she had thought that it wasn't her placement weekend.  Since the email last week, I've learned that The Ex is going to be gone not just the weekend of the 8th, but the weekend of the 15th as well.  So really, it didn't matter which weekend was hers; she wasn't planning on seeing Daughter at all because she's running o...

  Daughter already gave us a heads-up last week that The Ex wanted to switch weekends; she said that this upcoming weekend, The Ex had already made plans to go somewhere with Ned and her two younger kids.  I asked why she planned something on her placement weekend; Daughter said that The Ex "didn't think" it was her weekend.  Daughter asked if she had looked at the calendar. ( Translation:  You're an idiot, Mom. )  I don't know what excuse The Ex had for it.  Daughter then said that The Ex wanted to switch this weekend for a later weekend because Ned is having his annual party on Husband's weekend, and The Ex wanted Daughter to be there for the party.   Thursday night Daughter was on the phone with her; I heard her tell The Ex no less than three times to email Husband about switching weekends.  The Ex said she was going to hang up with Daughter and email Husband right away.  Unsurprisingly, she did not.  The Ex waited three and a half ...