It's All My Husband's Fault

  Husband emailed a copy of Daughter's basketball schedule to The Ex and let her know about the scrimmage that was on the 10th; he also reminded her of the medical bill balance, that her last payment had been almost two years ago, and asked when she'd be making another payment.   The Ex logged in, read the message, and said nothing.   Husband emailed her again, reminded her that she agreed to respond to any questions within 48 hours, said it had been five days with no reply from her, and asked again when she would be making a payment.   The second email was sent one week ago.  The Ex hasn't logged into 2houses for 10 straight days.   But the holidays are coming, so I'm sure there will be something coming in the next month or two.

  The Ex has been quiet.  We haven't heard anything since the end of September when The Ex had a hissy fit because we wouldn't let her rearrange the placement schedule on her terms. I blogged about it ( You can read about it  here . ), but the summarized version is that The Ex wanted Daughter the weekend of September 29th, asked to switch for a weekend she wasn't even in town, announced we were switching because she was going to leave Daughter here on her weekend, and adamantly refused to switch for the weekend of November 10th that Husband had offered so that The Ex could still have Daughter when she wanted.   Volleyball is officially over for this season, which means basketball is about to start.  We haven't gotten a schedule yet from Daughter's coach so I called him the other day, asking if he had an idea of what days and times practices would be so that I could let Daughter's work know what her availability would be.   Daughter's coach called b...

  Daughter had asked if we would let her get her nose pierced for her birthday.  Husband wasn't thrilled about it at first, but he finally said yes and I took her in.    Daughter has had the piercing for almost 3 months now.   Daughter told me last night that The Ex just recently realized that Daughter's nose is pierced, and told her that "it's ugly."  After getting over the initial shock, I told her that out of everyone, The Ex is the ONLY person to say that; Husband didn't even want Daughter to have it done and now he thinks it looks cute on her.   She also said she had told some of her friends about this; one of them commented that The Ex really seems to be judging Daughter's appearance lately.  Daughter said that this is how it always is with The Ex.   My heart really hurts for her.  She shouldn't have to put up with this.  Daughter is such a sweet, loving, helpful person; she'd give a stranger the shirt off her back if ...

  Last week was Parents' Night at Daughter's school.  The morning of, Daughter said she had asked The Ex if she was coming; she told Daughter that she "didn't know."   We got to the school a little early, I talked to the athletic director for a few minutes.  A little while later, Daughter said she needed to find the AD and talk to him.  Daughter said that she had only listed The Ex as a "maybe" for Parents' Night, but she just found out that The Ex was coming so she said that she "had to make sure" they announced The Ex's name along with ours. ( The way she said it implied she knew that she was going to get an earful if The Ex's name wasn't announced.  Am I the only one who finds it a somewhat interesting that Daughter has them read The Ex's name only if she attends the event?  All of the other events that The Ex has missed, Daughter told them only to read my and Husband's names. )   So The Ex shows up with Ned in ...

  You guys, I am really sorry.  I thought I had told you about The Ex's hair in the past.  Apparently, I did not do that.   She has nice hair.  In fact, I would be quite envious of her hair if she didn't style it the way that she does.  She's had the same "go to" style (if you can call what she does a "style") since before she and Husband got together.  Husband's family will occasionally ask me if The Ex "still does her hair like that."   Her hair is naturally curly, but then....I'm not sure what she does to it, exactly.  The curliness is good, I think whatever she is doing there is okay.  But oh my word...the worst part...   She has bangs cut, straightens and curls them at angles that defy gravity, and then sprays them down with what is probably close to fourteen cans of hairspray.  Honestly, I want to touch them just to see if they break off in my hand.   Son was once mocking her by holding his hands at his fore...

  Someone must be badmouthing Girlfriend because she posted on Facebook the other day and wrote, "Dose ( *Does ) making (* a ) post about me make you feel better about yourself?"   A few people commented trying to encourage her.  Then, along came The Ex, and her comments are just stellar.  I'm really struggling to make sense of what she wrote, but nothing connects.  All I can figure is that she was pretending to be encouraging Girlfriend but was really trying to post passive-aggressive attacks on someone, possibly Husband or myself, and just came off sounding like a total idiot. "People like that have nothing better to do with their life... They are uncaring selfish people that think they have friends, but really don't...bc the really good people that don't like others, are still good to them. They only pretend to b friends with those people bc of the good in them... Your a great person. Love You"   Okay, there is so much here to comment on....

  Let's rewind a couple of weeks.  The Ex emailed Husband on Monday, September 3rd, saying she wanted to switch the weekends; she said she wasn't going to be around the weekend of the 8th and claimed that Daughter wanted to switch for the weekend of the 29th.  Husband emailed back that same night saying because Daughter had a tournament on the 8th and The Ex would not be around, Daughter would stay home with us; he said if The Ex wanted Daughter on the weekend of the 29th, they could switch for the weekend of November 10th.  The Ex didn't read this email.   Last week, Husband emailed and said that Daughter wanted to stay for homecoming.  The Ex didn't read this email, either.   Yesterday morning, The Ex replied to the homecoming email at 7:07am: "Since she's with u during homecoming, ( Daughter is not "with us."  It's The Ex's weekend.  Husband is telling her that Daughter wants to participate. ) she can stay with you for that weeke...