It's All My Husband's Fault

  Happy Mother's Day to all of you beautiful women out there.  Thank you for all the hard work you put into your kids regardless of there being a biological link or not.   We celebrated early yesterday with all four of the kids, plus Girlfriend and our grandbaby.  I figured they'd be busy with The Ex, Girlfriend's mom, and it also being Girlfriend's first ever Mother's Day so we opted to do it a day early.  Son even bought me a present which made me tear up. ( I think Girlfriend made him do it but considering how our relationship was at this time last year, it definitely touches my heart. )   The Ex, on the other hand, is being her crazy narcissistic self.  Daughter said on Friday night that she didn't even know if The Ex was picking her up today.  Daughter had texted her asking what time they were coming for her; The Ex replied by asking what time she'd be in Tourist City on Saturday. ( We were celebrating Mother's Day in Tourist City.  ...

  Ohhhhh, you guys...this has just been one hell of a crappy week so far, but leave it to The Ex to turn it all around and have me laughing.   Husband messaged her back on March 29th, even though we were fully aware that she had not logged into 2houses since February 25th.  Husband wrote that he had picked his first summer week, updated the calendar, and would pick his second summer week at a later date. ( For those of you who don't know, The Ex has primary physical custody during the summer; Husband gets every other weekend, alternating holidays, and two full nonconsecutive weeks. )   Then Husband addressed the real reason he was messaging her: The Ex still wasn't paying toward her half of the kids' medical bills and they were accruing interest as ordered by the court.  Husband didn't want to end up in court seeking a contempt order for her refusal to pay only to have The Ex claim she "didn't know" there was interest being added, she would have p...

  The Ex and Ned officially got married the day before Easter.   Daughter had been talking about it for a couple of weeks, saying lots of not-so-nice things.  She's come straight out before and said she didn't think the two of them should be getting married.  Early last week, Daughter commented to nobody in particular that The Ex and Ned needed couples therapy before they got married and then added, "And Mom( The Ex ) needs therapy by herself." ( Daughter isn't even 17 yet.  She recognizes the immaturity that her mother's relationship is built on and can identify her mom's mental/emotional instability.  Honestly, it's like she got none of The Ex's genes whatsoever. )  Daughter asked me "what would happen" if she stood up when they were asked if anyone objected to the wedding.  I told Daughter not to do that.  Daughter asked if it really would do anything or if it was just something they asked at weddings.  I said objecting would ...

  So apparently, this investigation into The Ex and/or Ned started when Daughter was on spring break and was at their house.  A social worker and a police officer came to the house and spoke to Ned.  Allegedly, he offered to let them speak to Daughter but they declined...only to contact our county three weeks later and ask them to speak to Daughter, which doesn't make any sense but whatever.   Since Daughter talked to the social worker, I've learned quite a few things.  The Ex admitted  out loud that the investigation was happening because of "a little bruise that [Lucifer] got from a spanking" and accused Ned's ex-wife of "pushing on it" to make it look worse than it was. ( So she basically admitted that not only do she and/or Ned spank Lucifer, but one of them hit him hard enough to leave a bruise.  I don't know what your thoughts on spanking are, but there should never be a bruise on a child as a result of having their butt smacked.  Ever . )...

  This is quite possibly my longest blog post yet, so grab some popcorn and buckle up for the ride.   Ned's ex-wife is claiming that Ned and The Ex are abusing Lucifer.  I found out that this complaint had been made a few weeks ago; Daughter knew about it but didn't tell us.  I can't say I blame her, as I'm sure The Ex instructed/threatened her not to say anything about it.   Daughter said that Lucifer's mom allegedly found a bruise on his butt and she's saying a bunch of other stuff has happened.  Daughter doesn't believe it.  I don't believe Ned is abusing Lucifer, but The Ex?  Well...I don't want to say that she is , but I also don't want to say that she isn't .  I know how she's treated her two oldest children their entire lives, so I can't say I'd definitely rule out her putting her hands on yet another child.   Apparently, Lucifer was interviewed at school without a parent or guardian present.  I heard that The Ex want...

  Husband just messaged me on his break.   He got a voice mail from a Human Services worker in our county.  She said she was requested by The Ex's county to speak with Daughter "regarding some incidences that have occurred in her mother's home."   I did call and speak with the worker; she said Daughter isn't being named as a victim, but since she's part of the household up there, they want to speak to her.   Honestly...how much shit can you put your kids through before the state realizes that you suck as a parent?

  Last weekend, Daughter and I were talking about having your period.  I'm not positive how we got on the topic, but that's irrelevant.  In the middle of us talking, Daughter said that The Ex "doesn't like her using tampons."  I asked why.  Daughter said, "I don't know.  She says, 'I was 18 before I used tampons.  I always used pads."  My mouth got ahead of my brain and I blurted out, "Yeah, well she also had a kid at 18, so..."  I immediately apologized for it; Daughter couldn't stop laughing.   Later that same day, Daughter got a phone call from The Ex's younger daughter.  She asked if Daughter knew where Son's baby book was.  Daughter said no, she didn't.  Her sister said that The Ex said they had the baby book for Son & Girlfriend's baby shower, but now they can't find it.  ( I've got so many questions and comments about this.  First, why is a 10-year-old asking where her brother's baby book is?...