It's All My Husband's Fault

  If you've followed this blog for any period of time, you've probably noticed that The Ex has a tendency to always claim that she never has any money.  This whining is not lost on the kids.  A few weeks ago, Husband asked Daughter if she wanted to eat before she left; she said no and that she was going to have The Ex buy her dinner and then added, "With money she doesn't have."   About two months ago, I blogged about The Ex posting on Facebook and implying that Husband "buys" Son's love.  You can read that post here .   Daughter recently told me that The Ex was irritated because she had ordered hoodies with Daughter's basketball team logo on them, but had received an email stating that they were unable to fulfill her order.  Daughter said that The Ex had spent $74 buying a hoodie for Daughter, a hoodie or shirt for Ned, and two hoodies for herself. ( Quite a big spender for someone who "doesn't have any money," but okay. )   ...

  The Ex's narcissism is engrained in every single relationship that she has.  She started a fight with one of her sisters over the weekend by bringing up something which could have been dealt with more discreetly and more maturely.  Get ready for the dumpster fire that is The Ex and her family. The Ex:  It's come to our attention [older sister 2] that you invited [older sister's long-term boyfriend]??? I'm so sorry [older sister 2] but many of us don't feel comfortable with him coming. We wish u would have avoided this and asked us first if it was "OK" if he came??? BUT we c he hasn't changed. ( Who is this "we" she keeps referring to?  Obviously. somebody else in the family has been discussing this with The Ex behind the sister's back. )              WE really want you to come to our Christmas. We've planned this for a very long time... The Ex's niece:  Maybe a private message would've been better..just sayin ( I ...

    After The Ex asked if she could have Daughter on our weekend so that they could celebrate Thanksgiving, Husband replied saying that if she wanted Daughter, they could switch weekends and to let him know what she wanted to do. ( I blogged about it all in this  post. )  Since her original correspondence, The Ex has not logged into 2houses.  Not to check the calendar, not to read Husband's response to her question, nothing.  Not one single time in the past 17 days.   Of course, I discussed this with Girlfriend.  I told her that The Ex wanted Daughter on our weekend but outright refused to switch because Husband "owed her way too many."  Girlfriend replied, "Are you for real why can't she just be not crazy" ( Honestly, it's such a breath of fresh air knowing that someone else sees how absurd The Ex's behavior is. )  I told Girlfriend that The Ex had given us 3 days' notice and then still expected us to give up our weekend; Girlfri...

  It's that time of year again.  I previously blogged a summarization of the past years of Holiday Crazy which you can read here .  And now, here we are again.   About three and a half weeks ago, The Ex created a group chat and added all four of her siblings, both of her parents, her sister-in-law, Son, Girlfriend, Daughter, her nephews and her niece; not a single person from Ned's family was added to this group chat, including Ned himself.  The Ex sent a message to everyone saying, "Created this site to find out WHO is wanting to get together for Thanksgiving and Christmas AND WHERE??? SOON...VERY SOON" ( She's using Facebook Messenger; she thinks she created a website.  This is awesome . )  The Ex also wrote, "I really want to be able this year and every year from now on to have our whole family together. It means a lot to me if we can do this. Even if it's not on THAT DAY... I'll have to check [Daughter's] schedule to see if I have her. Pleas...

  The Ex must really be mad at Son.  Even though their defective relationship is almost completely her fault, she will never admit to that and just continue to blame Son, Husband, me, or anyone else as long as it is not herself.  She's posted things to Facebook lately which I'm pretty sure are intended to hurt Son's feelings.   Yesterday, she shared a post that read: "Daughters are a blessing, especially mine!"   That could be waved off; posting that she loves her daughters doesn't mean that she doesn't love Son.   However, a little over a week before that post she shared one that read: "I always need my daughter no matter what age I am. She has made me laugh, made me proud, made me cry, seen me cry, hugged me tight, seen me fail, cheered me up, kept me on my toes and has driven me crazy at times... But my daughter is a promise that I will have a friend forever."   Less than two weeks before that, she tagged Son in a post she shared which read:...

  It was recently my birthday.  Girlfriend posted a picture that I had taken of myself with the baby, tagged me in the post, and wrote: "Happy birthday!! Thank you for being such an amazing woman and supporting us the way you do. You are an absolutely amazing woman, mama and grandma. We love you so much [my name]!! [Son] wanted me to make it clear that this was from all of us. 😂😂"   It was so sweet, I honestly had to fight back the tears.   However, Girlfriend did not write this on my timeline.  She posted it on her own...which means that The Ex and everyone else in The Ex's family could see it.  All three of The Ex's sisters wished me a happy birthday, Son and one of The Ex's sisters "love" reacted to the post, and even The Ex's sister-in-law "liked" the post.   But part of me cringes a little bit when I wonder to myself how The Ex will react to this, particularly considering that she's been whining for almost 8 months about ...

  Since we started providing phones for Son and Daughter when they reached 12 years old, we've monitored interactions between them and anyone associated with The Ex.  I could care less what they text their friends or what they talk about; The Ex is sheer evil, her family isn't any better, and I'll be damned if I let them have free reign over these children.  Judge me if you want, call me a helicopter parent; I don't really care.  When you've been through what we have, heard what we've heard, seen what we've seen, then I guarantee you that you're going to start documenting everything until your kid turns 18.  It also helps that recording phone calls without notifying the other parent is legal in this state.   We hadn't checked Daughter's phone in months because honestly, she's already 17 and Son is 19.  Documentation is not nearly as vital as it was when they were 12 and 10, and The Ex was constantly mind-f*cking them.  I've continued ...