It's All My Husband's Fault

   Daughter and Guy did get back together.  I wasn't happy about it, but whatever; it is what it is.  In his defense, Guy has made more of an effort to spend time with Daughter and has been over to our house a number of times.  One of those times was when Son & Girlfriend came down to visit which was...interesting.   You see, Guy has been to The Ex's house in the past so Girlfriend was already somewhat acquainted with him.    I had a whole bunch of stuff typed out detailing the visit and why Girlfriend doesn't like Guy now, but realized that this blog is about The Ex and not anything else.  To make a long story short, everyone - Son, Girlfriend, and Daughter - all agreed that Guy is "completely different" when he goes to The Ex's house vs. when he comes to our house.  Why, I do not know exactly.  Girlfriend and I talked about it briefly and I told her that Guy is sucking up to the wrong parents; The Ex doesn't even know who...

  I blogged previously about how Son's therapist had recommended that he distance himself from The Ex in order to start making progress with his mental health.  This blog post is going to highlight exactly why it's necessary and I truly hope that Son makes the right decision for himself before things get even worse.   Awhile back, The Ex created a group chat on Facebook which included herself, Ned, both of her parents, all three of her sisters, her brother & his wife, Son & Girlfriend, Daughter, her niece, and two of her nephews.  The Ex uses the group chat to announce family gatherings, birthday parties, her kids' extracurricular activities, etc.  Son has left this group chat more than once, the most recent being in February.   Last Monday, The Ex re-added Son to the group chat at 5:57pm and then messaged the group about her youngest son's baseball schedule: "[The Ex's son] plays today at [field name] at 6pm. Field 1" ( No, I'm serious.  She l...

  This might be my longest blog post to date.  Grab yourself a drink and some popcorn, because you'll be here awhile.    Daughter has been seeing someone for over a year now; we'll call him Guy.  I'd really prefer to call him Douche because that's what he is, but anyway...that's not the point of this blog.  This particular post is going to be about Daughter and Guy, and how The Ex is royally f*cking with Daughter's head.   Now truth be told, I do not like Guy.  Daughter had a couple of "boyfriends" in high school and I never had a problem with any of them while she was dating them.  I liked them, had no objections to Daughter spending time with them, and liked seeing her happy.  Guy?  No thank you.  Daughter could be doing so much better, and I'm not even talking physical appearances.   The first problem I have is that Guy is slightly over four years older than Daughter; the two of them started "talking" when she was only ...

   For Husband and myself, life has been amazingly calm since we got our final money from The Ex and we haven't had any contact with her.  The only time she affects us is when she's messing with Son and/or Daughter's minds...I can't help myself, I get angry.  They didn't ask for her to be their mother, and they don't deserve for her to be their mother.   A couple of weeks after The Ex skipped out on Grandson's birthday party, Girlfriend told me that The Ex messaged Son saying that she was throwing a birthday party for her niece & nephew's daughters, and she wanted to know if Son & Girlfriend were going to come.  Girlfriend said that Son pointed out that The Ex wouldn't even come to her own grandson's party, but was now throwing a party for two kids that weren't her grandkids; allegedly The Ex replied, "Wow."  As in, "How dare you even be offended that I missed your son's party but am willing to host a party for two ...

  My last blog post was talking about Son's anxiety over Grandson's party and how he thought that The Ex was going to start a fight and cause a scene.  As it turns out, he had absolutely nothing to worry about.   The Ex didn't come.   Seriously.  She missed her own grandson's birthday party.  Before I get into the party itself, I'll go back a few days because there was a lot of tea that got spilled.  Buckle up, it's gonna be a bumpy ride.   Girlfriend told me on Thursday that they were over at The Ex's and said that The Ex was running her mouth and being petty.  On Friday, she told me that The Ex claimed that Son told her that I was planning on rolling my eyes at her during the party "just to piss her off"; Son looked at her and said, "I have never once said that."  The Ex also told them that she bought presents to give to Granddaughter at the birthday party so that she could "look better than everyone."  Girlfriend then went on...

  Grandson turned two this week! I honestly do not know how it's already been two years since he was born.  They're having his birthday party this weekend.  Originally they were planning on having the party at Girlfriend's parents' house for a few reasons.  One was that Girlfriend's grandma is paranoid about COVID and most likely wouldn't come if they had a big guest list.  Another is that they didn't really have the money for a hall.  Another is that they rented a huge hall last year and Girlfriend said she felt like it was excessive considering what they paid and how many people actually came.  Since they started planning the party, Girlfriend's parents found a smaller hall to rent so they paid for it and the party will be held there instead.    Son and Girlfriend came to visit with the kids last month.  While they were visiting, Son brought up Grandson's birthday party.  Son said he was kind of "freaking out" because everybody w...

   Husband's mom passed away a few weeks ago.  While it wasn't completely out of left field, we just...weren't ready.  Fortunately we were able to go to his home state for the funeral.   I am honestly surprised that my body can make such a copious amount of tears.  I have never cried this much in my entire life.  It didn't really start to sink in for Husband until the night before the funeral.  He couldn't sleep and then he just started crying, which lead to me holding him and crying with him.   Son didn't react well to the news.  He's been seeing a psychiatrist who has him on anti-depressants and mood stabilizers; Girlfriend said he was a wreck for a few days after I'd told him what happened.  During a video chat the day after the burial, Son had told Husband that he "couldn't bring himself to watch [the memorial video]" on the funeral home's website; he started crying which made Husband cry.  Son & Girlfriend came down to...