It's All My Husband's Fault

   Son & Girlfriend recently had a party for Granddaughter's second birthday.  Girlfriend created a Facebook event and invited all of their guests.  The Ex never responded one way or the other; given that Grandson is 3 years old and The Ex has attended his very first birthday party but not the others, I didn't know if she was going to attend or not.   About 2 weeks before the party, The Ex had planned a couples' weekend and invited her best friend, the best friend's boyfriend, and also Daughter and her new boyfriend.  The friend ended up backing out but Daughter and her boyfriend went.  Daughter said she also pre-warned her boyfriend that Ned is extremely awkward, that he had a staring problem, and that he's a terrible driver; her boyfriend later told her that he thought she was kidding about all of it but she was, in fact, warning him about the truth.  Apparently, Ned will just stare right at you and not say a single word; if you look back at...

   Again, I'm sorry for the lack of updates.  Husband and I have absolutely no contact with The Ex anymore so our life is much more peaceful.  The only time we hear about her is typically when she starts her nonsense with Son, Girlfriend, and/or Daughter...which is exactly what happened a few weeks ago.   Girlfriend had posted and also sent me some pictures of the grandbabies during July 4th; I could tell from the scenery that they were all over at Ned & The Ex's house celebrating.  So that should have been a nice time, but it's never a nice time when your mother is a narcissist.   On July 10th, The Ex started messaging everyone in the family group chat:      "Having a birthday party for [The Ex's daughter] on Saturday, July 30th. She'll be 14      Dinner and yard games, fire later with sparklers and roman candles"      "Starts around 4pm"      "You can come a little earlier to play games"...

   I hope all you mommas (bio, step, adopted, unable to conceive, etc) had a beautiful day on Sunday.  Personally, my day was amazing.  I slept in, Husband grilled out exactly what I wanted to eat, I did practically nothing the entire length of the day, and Husband/the kids got me a personalized necklace with all four of the kids' names and their respective birthstones which made me cry when I opened it because I had literally been looking for something exactly like that for myself but didn't want to spend the money.   The Ex?  Oh boy.  Ohhhh, boy.   I didn't mention in earlier blog posts but Daughter and Guy broke up just before Christmas.  Daughter saw his true colors, realized all of the things that I had previously warned her about were true, and decided she was done.  I didn't blog about all the drama that was involved because I try to keep my family's personal stuff out of posts and just focus on The Ex's insanity.  However, t...

  Sometimes I wonder how The Ex managed to get as crazy as she did.  Then I'm reminded about the rest of her family and it all makes sense again.   A little while ago, Girlfriend messaged me saying that Son had just left the apartment freaking out because The Ex's younger sister had called him saying that The Ex's mom and older sister were in a "rollover accident."  Girlfriend didn't have much information other than that and asked if Daughter had heard anything; I asked Husband and he said that Daughter had absolutely no idea about the accident because nobody had called or texted her.  I told Girlfriend that I was trying to understand how on earth they had rolled the car; Girlfriend said they got t-boned at a stop light and she didn't know how that would result in a rollover, either.  I told Girlfriend that I wasn't trying to be an asshole but that The Ex's younger sister loves to be dramatic and blow things out of proportion; I said I didn't d...

   I feel like I'm going to forever apologize for the lack of updates.  Our life has just become so normal and boring since we are no longer required to tolerate narcissism in the name of shared parenting.  The only time there's a blip on our radar is when The Ex starts her crap with Son and/or Daughter.   Which is exactly what she's been doing lately, and it really hit the fan this weekend.  This is going to be a fairly long post because up until I started typing it all out, I somehow forgot all the stuff that The Ex has said/done to her kids since Christmas.   A little over a month ago, we celebrated a late Christmas with all four of our kids, Girlfriend, and both grandkids.  Husband and I got a condo for the weekend and we all stayed together.  While we were there, Girlfriend asked Son if The Ex was going to help contribute toward the cost of the hall rental for Grandson's birthday because Girlfriend's parents were paying for it and The Ex...

   With today being the end of 2021, I believe/hope/pray that this is the last incident of Holiday Crazy 2021 that we'll have to talk about.   Girlfriend messaged me on Christmas Eve saying she was hurt/upset because she was putting everyone's stockings together when Son walked in and commented that next year, they ought to buy more gifts because The Ex "goes nuts on Christmas and gets a lot of presents."  Girlfriend was upset because she's the one who had gone out shopping and bought everything; she felt like Son was insulting her and/or comparing her to The Ex.  I told Girlfriend that it's all about money with The Ex; I said it's not about what you bought or how much you spent, that's not the reason we have Christmas.  I also told her that Son was probably more comparing himself as a parent to The Ex more than comparing her to The Ex.  I said Son probably feels like he's "failing" because he "didn't do as much as The Ex did....

 She's back at it again, y'all.   Girlfriend messaged me last night super pissed at The Ex because she's starting crap about Christmas.  She sent me a bunch of screenshots of the conversations, told me that The Ex has brought up Christmas Day about 3 different times even though Girlfriend has already told The Ex what their plans were, and now The Ex is using her narcissistic manipulation to turn Son and Girlfriend against each other.   Despite having already previously asked and being provided an answer, The Ex messaged both Son and Girlfriend in a group chat last night.  Here's a transcript:      The Ex:  Can you [Son] and kids be at our house on Saturday at 10:30am      Girlfriend:  Tbh I'm not sure we can try to be but we're also having our Christmas here first ( Girlfriend said that The Ex asked a few months ago and asked again last week; Girlfriend told her both times that she and Son wanted to celebrate with their ki...