But Boyfriend "quit drinking" / school starts
In mid-August, we found out that Boyfriend had gotten stopped again for drunk driving. The Ex had kept saying that Boyfriend had "quit drinking" and even if he hadn't, part of the court order was that he was not allowed to drink when The Ex had the kids.
Because this was Boyfriend's fifth DUI, it wasn't a misdemeanor anymore; now it was a felony charge. We figured he'd post bond and be back out on the streets, like he did every other time he broke the law. Nope. Immigration put a hold on him; he could pay as much money as he wanted, he wasn't getting out. He spent less than four days in county jail before immigration came and picked him up.
The Ex said nothing to us about it. She dropped the kids off the week before school started and told them, "Remember, I won't be there [the first day of school]. I have [your sister]." (We later asked the kids when their sister by The Ex had started school. The kids said she started the week before they did. So it wasn't as if The Ex was forced to choose between the first day at two schools; she could have easily had one of her relatives take her daughter to school so that she could come seen Son and Daughter. The real reason she was missing their first day was that Boyfriend had a court hearing the same day; she was going to the hearing instead of coming to see her kids.)
The night before school started, The Ex called Son and said she was "going to be in the area" and wanted to know if she could stop by. ("In the area," eh? No coincidence whatsoever that Boyfriend was being held at the jail only 10 minutes from our house and his visiting hours were at the same time that The Ex was going to be "in the area." The Ex can come visit her alcoholic husband in jail, but can't come to her children's first day of school.)
After the first day of school, The Ex called Son again and asked how it had gone. The Ex asked who Son's teacher was; Son said it was the same teacher that he had the previous year. The Ex said, "What's her name?" Son said, "His name. It's Mr. [teacher]." (I swear to you that this actually happened. She doesn't even know the name of her child's teacher.)
The Ex left Husband a message a few days later, trying to verify the visitation schedule (Again, she can't keep track of it herself. She has to call and ask when she gets the kids) Husband called her back and said the upcoming weekend was hers and the following weekend was ours. The Ex asked why she wasn't getting two weekends in a row. Husband explained that because it was Labor Day weekend, that was our holiday and it overruled the regular schedule so what had been her weekend became ours. The Ex said, "Oh, so you're going to play like that, huh?!" (She says the weirdest things, I swear...) Husband told her he wasn't playing anything; the schedule was what it was.
After that weekend, everything just kind of exploded.
Because this was Boyfriend's fifth DUI, it wasn't a misdemeanor anymore; now it was a felony charge. We figured he'd post bond and be back out on the streets, like he did every other time he broke the law. Nope. Immigration put a hold on him; he could pay as much money as he wanted, he wasn't getting out. He spent less than four days in county jail before immigration came and picked him up.
The Ex said nothing to us about it. She dropped the kids off the week before school started and told them, "Remember, I won't be there [the first day of school]. I have [your sister]." (We later asked the kids when their sister by The Ex had started school. The kids said she started the week before they did. So it wasn't as if The Ex was forced to choose between the first day at two schools; she could have easily had one of her relatives take her daughter to school so that she could come seen Son and Daughter. The real reason she was missing their first day was that Boyfriend had a court hearing the same day; she was going to the hearing instead of coming to see her kids.)
The night before school started, The Ex called Son and said she was "going to be in the area" and wanted to know if she could stop by. ("In the area," eh? No coincidence whatsoever that Boyfriend was being held at the jail only 10 minutes from our house and his visiting hours were at the same time that The Ex was going to be "in the area." The Ex can come visit her alcoholic husband in jail, but can't come to her children's first day of school.)
After the first day of school, The Ex called Son again and asked how it had gone. The Ex asked who Son's teacher was; Son said it was the same teacher that he had the previous year. The Ex said, "What's her name?" Son said, "His name. It's Mr. [teacher]." (I swear to you that this actually happened. She doesn't even know the name of her child's teacher.)
The Ex left Husband a message a few days later, trying to verify the visitation schedule (Again, she can't keep track of it herself. She has to call and ask when she gets the kids) Husband called her back and said the upcoming weekend was hers and the following weekend was ours. The Ex asked why she wasn't getting two weekends in a row. Husband explained that because it was Labor Day weekend, that was our holiday and it overruled the regular schedule so what had been her weekend became ours. The Ex said, "Oh, so you're going to play like that, huh?!" (She says the weirdest things, I swear...) Husband told her he wasn't playing anything; the schedule was what it was.
After that weekend, everything just kind of exploded.
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