It's All My Husband's Fault

  Son has been back and forth since last summer about going to live in Tiny City.  Last summer he wanted to finish his senior year there because of Girlfriend but then they broke up.  Then he said he'd finish school here and move there after graduation.  Then he talked about staying here.  Then he started dating Girlfriend, got mad over who knows what and said he wanted to move there again.  Then he got a good job here and rethought the move. Back and forth, back and forth - it's been like this for months.   We all know that The Ex is toxic and has been manipulating Son for....well, basically his entire life.  She lies to him, he gets confused which leads to him getting upset, he internalizes his anger, and then eventually blows up.  It also doesn't help that The Ex and her family have no idea what personal accountability is and because of that, they don't teach Son what it is either.   Last week, things started going downhill with S...

  I'm so sorry that I've been MIA, but life here has been just absolutely insane.  I'm exhausted at the end of every day.  A big part of it is Son, and a big part of his behavior is The Ex.  But we'll get to that in the next blog post.  For right now, I'm going to talk about Mother's Day.   For the last 13 years, the court order has read that The Ex will get the kids beginning at 9am on Mother's Day, regardless of the year.  It makes sense; she's their mom, she gets them on Mother's Day.  Nothing has changed in that regard.  The thing that's nice for me is that since we got custody nine years ago, I also get to spend at least a little bit of Mother's Day with Son and Daughter.  Anyway...   I think about 3-4 days before Mother's Day, Daughter tried calling The Ex because she wanted to talk to her about spending more time here in the summer rather than spending the majority of time in Tiny City.  The Ex didn't answer but texted b...