Now it's okay to involve me.
Despite the fact that I've been around for 10 years and that I love and raise her two oldest children as if they were my own, The Ex will still tell them that I'm "not their mom so they don't need to listen to me." One time, The Ex couldn't get a hold of Husband so one of the kids told her she could call me for whatever she needed; she refused, stating that I'm "not involved in none of this." ( "This" meaning anything pertaining to Son or Daughter. ) The court order is very specific about the fact that The Ex and Husband should be the two people communicating about Son and Daughter. It reads, " Both parents should make every effort to communicate directly with each other, rather than through a spouse, significant other or the children. " We had this added because we got tired of The Ex telling Son or Daughter to give us messages from her, or The Ex's parents calling us to figure out plans with the kids and then th...