It's All My Husband's Fault

  Friday was...special.  I was talking to Daughter on the way to school and when I said that The Ex had the coach's number, Daughter speculated that maybe The Ex had contacted him directly.   After my last blog post, I texted the coach and said I wasn't sure what was going on because Husband asked The Ex if she needed a note turned in, but she never got back to him.  I said Son had told me that morning that either The Ex or her dad was picking him up from the game and I wasn't sure if she had contacted him about it.  I also told the coach that Husband had given his number to The Ex a few weeks ago.   The coach texted back and said he did not hear anything and was not given a form, and without the form Son would not be allowed to leave.  I told the coach that this was explained the The Ex two weeks ago; also asked if we or she could just bring the note to the game.  The coach said no, the note needed to be turned in ahead of time.   Daug...

  Following up to the last blog post, we still have not gotten an answer from The Ex about if she wants us to give the coach a note or not.  As I type this, it's been exactly 96 hours since Husband emailed her; it's literally twice the amount of time she was required to respond, and still nothing.   Son asks last night if we will give him a note for his coach saying he's going home with The Ex's dad after the game.  We say we haven't heard anything.  Daughter says The Ex said she was coming to the game.  We repeat that we haven't heard anything and don't know what she's planning.   This morning, Son asks me again if I'll give him a note for the coach.  I explain to him that two weeks ago, Husband told The Ex that the team rides the bus to and from every away game, and that a note is required if that parent wants to transport the child themselves.  The Ex responded to that email and asked us to give the coach a note.  I told Son that Husb...

  Once again, The Ex is ignoring the emails she receives from Husband.  Three weeks ago, Husband emailed her and asked about school pictures for the kids.  Husband also stated in that email that for away games, Son rode the bus with his team to and from the game; if the parents wanted to transport their child, they would need to give a signed note to the coach.  The Ex managed to find enough free time in her busy schedule ( Please note that was typed with an excessive amount of sarcasm ) to order pictures from Son's school and to ask Husband to send the order form for Daughter, stating she would like to order something similar to what she ordered for Son's pictures.  The Ex also asked Husband to give the coach a note saying she would be picking up Son from his game that Friday, and asked him to give her the coach's email and phone number; Husband replied and said he would provide the note, and also gave the coach's contact info to The Ex.   Last week, we...

  Unfortunately, this is not a 70s sitcom; this story is NOT about a lovely lady nor is it about a man named Brady. ( I'm overtired. Leave me alone. )   I recently learned that another of Boyfriend's relatives was charged in January with possession of over 200 grams of THC with intent to distribute, maintaining a drug trafficking place, and possession of drug paraphernalia.  Dude got off ridiculously easy - a fine, drug treatment if deemed necessary, two years of probation, and the ability to have it expunged if he kept his nose clean.   Well, guess who got arrested Saturday at 5am?  Yup.  Both him AND his older brother.   The news is reporting that the cops responded to a call about vehicle break-ins, saw two guys on the street, the two guys took off and ran into an apartment, cops got a warrant and made 5 arrests.  Cops say they recovered almost 500 grams of THC and almost 9 grams of cocaine.   The younger brother's girlfriend is no...

  Son and I were talking the other night and he made a comment about not having time for anything other than school, football and homework.  I told him football would be over before he knew it and he'd be complaining that he wished he was still playing.  I told him that he did the same thing every year: said he wanted to play, then complained he didn't want to play, then played and said how much he loved it.   Son's response to that was: "If I complain next year, I want you guys( Me and Husband ) to force me to play."  I told him I wanted to get him saying that on video and laughed.  Son said, "No, seriously.  If I complain, just make me do it anyway.  I want to play, I just have to be forced because I'm lazy."   Aside from trying to make you smile, I am posting this a year in advance because I can all but guarantee you that we will have yet another fight with The Ex next summer/fall about whether or not Son is playing football.

  Husband is continuing to email receipts to The Ex, as the court order states he is supposed to do.  The Ex has been making payments toward variable expenses, at least so far.  I'm positive she doesn't want to be found in contempt again for the same exact thing and be required to pay $100 more to Husband for attorney fees just because she doesn't want to support her kids.   So far this month, Husband has sent four emails to The Ex; court order requires acknowledgment of communication within 24 hours and answering questions within 48 hours.  Email #1 was sent with a receipt, also letting The Ex know that we mailed her a paper copy of Son's football schedule( Just covering ourselves so if she tries to claim later that we didn't give her one, it's in writing that one was sent. ), and asking if she had health insurance for the kids or how soon she would be getting it. ( The Ex ignored this email.  I called child support and they're supposed to be sending a let...

  When I hear this particular phrase, it takes all my strength to keep me from rolling my eyes.  Don't get me wrong, there have been plenty of times that I have uttered this exact phrase to someone to express my regret at not being able to attend one of their events.  However,  The Ex has said this to Son and Daughter so many times that it is literally losing its meaning.   The Ex has been doing this for awhile, but I've just started to really take notice of it.  This is her go-to phrase whenever she doesn't attend something for the kids.  ( For those of you who are just joining us, here's a recap: when I met Husband, he lived 16 miles away from The Ex.  When he and I got together, they lived 26 miles away from each other.  When The Ex started dating Boyfriend and decided to uproot the kids and move in with him, that distance became almost 58 miles.  The Ex literally more than doubled the distance between our homes, and now complains t...

  Do you guys remember how back in February, we had written into the order that communication (text messages, emails, etc) would be at least acknowledged within 24 hours?  And that any questions would be answered within 48 hours?  Because Husband got tired of being ignored when he was trying to communicate about the kids? ( I could understand The Ex blowing him off if he was just bothering her.  I'd even encourage The Ex to blow him off if he was harassing or verbally abusing her.  But when Husband asks a direct question about something that will affect Son and/or Daughter and is ignored, well...that's just plain silly, now isn't it? )   From February through very early August, The Ex didn't follow that part of the order a total of eleven times.  In the two most recent of those emails, Husband had asked if they could switch a weekend so we could take the kids to the fair; both emails were ignored.  Husband sent an email to Our Attorney asking he...