It's All My Husband's Fault

  I almost feel as if we should just automatically expect The Ex's crazy to rear its ugly head every single holiday season.  Here's a breakdown of how Thanksgiving/Christmas has played out since I've been in the picture: 2006 The Ex told Husband she would drop the kids off around 7pm on Christmas Eve.  Husband told her he would pick them up instead so she didn't have to drive.  The Ex then refused to tell us where her sister lived and wouldn't answer her phone; we got the kids at almost 8pm. 2007 We went out of town to visit family for Thanksgiving and got back late; The Ex left Husband a message screaming at him for forgetting the kids' hats and gloves in our vehicle, saying we needed to drive them back down to New City or we'd have to pay her for new ones.  Three weeks after this, she intentionally dropped the kids off three hours late and then screamed at Husband again about our Thanksgiving trip.  Two weeks after this, the kids were told they were...

  Despite having been divorced for a decade, The Ex still thinks she can control Husband.  When Husband won't do what she wants, then it's whine, pout, and complain about how mean he is.   Husband tried to make things easy and amicable for the weekend his sister was coming from out of town.  The Ex refused to switch saying that she had plans, but said she would talk to the kids about if they "wanted" to be here. ( So the plans, if they even existed, weren't concrete.  The Ex was just refusing to switch because she could. )  Husband had sent two messages; the first was remiinding her that he had switched so the kids would be present for her sister's vow renewal and the second was saying he was keeping the kids anyway. Apparently, asking her to respect Husband's side of the family is a big no-no: "I'm sorry, how many times have I switched weekends for you? ( According to the change requests on 2houses, none. )  Way to ( *too ) many. But, ho...

  Husband's sister sent me a text on Friday after Thanksgiving saying she and her husband were going to come visit us the weekend before Christmas, which happens to be The Ex's weekend.  Husband sent a change request explaining why he wanted to switch; The Ex read this on Saturday morning and ignored it. ( The Ex also told the kids to find out which sister was coming and to let her know, because that apparently makes some kind of difference whether or not she's going to let the kids stay with us. )   Monday morning, Husband resent the change request because it was still unanswered.  Five hours later, she didn't reply to the request but instead sent a message: "I'm sorry about not being able to switch weekends of the 11th and 18th.  We have plans ( Isn't it amazing how every single time we ask to switch a weekend, The Ex already "has plans"?  Uncanny, really. ) and I am looking forward to attending [Daughters] game on the 18th. ( The Ex could st...