We started off nice...
Husband's sister sent me a text on Friday after Thanksgiving saying she and her husband were going to come visit us the weekend before Christmas, which happens to be The Ex's weekend. Husband sent a change request explaining why he wanted to switch; The Ex read this on Saturday morning and ignored it. (The Ex also told the kids to find out which sister was coming and to let her know, because that apparently makes some kind of difference whether or not she's going to let the kids stay with us.)
Monday morning, Husband resent the change request because it was still unanswered. Five hours later, she didn't reply to the request but instead sent a message:
"I'm sorry about not being able to switch weekends of the 11th and 18th. We have plans (Isn't it amazing how every single time we ask to switch a weekend, The Ex already "has plans"? Uncanny, really.) and I am looking forward to attending [Daughters] game on the 18th. (The Ex could still attend the game, but she won't because she doesn't attend any events for Son or Daughter unless she's already going to drive here for a custody exchange.)
I'll talk with the kids on Friday and get their input on what they would like to do (...are you f*cking kidding me?? Since when do the kids set the placement schedule? Should we go back to the time when Son was saying he didn't want to go with your parents but you said he needed to, even though you didn't see him at all that weekend?) and maybe if they would like to be there that weekend, then the kids and I will discuss it. (The parents should be discussing it between themselves. The kids shouldn't be setting the schedule, period. And I know how your "discussions" go - you whine and complain and twist things so that it seems more opportune for them to be with you on that weekend, even if it's not.)"
Husband replied and said he'd like her to reconsider. He pointed out that Son and Daughter don't get to see his side of the family very often, and reminded her that he switched weekends so that the kids could be with The Ex when her sister renewed her wedding vows. Husband said he'd appreciate The Ex showing the same respect for his side of the kids' family. (We know it's not going to happen, but now it's out there.)
Well, guess what you guys. There's a clause in the divorce judgment that allows either parent to have the kids on what would be the other parent's placement days if there's a family event or something special going on that day. We never brought it up before, because The Ex will try to use this to her advantage. But when your sister is coming from the other end of the country, you're damn right we're using it.
Husband deleted the change request, changed the calendar to reflect that the kids would be with us the weekend that his sister was in town, and then sent a message to The Ex explaining how and why the kids would be with him for that weekend and thanked her for her cooperation.
And then....
Monday morning, Husband resent the change request because it was still unanswered. Five hours later, she didn't reply to the request but instead sent a message:
"I'm sorry about not being able to switch weekends of the 11th and 18th. We have plans (Isn't it amazing how every single time we ask to switch a weekend, The Ex already "has plans"? Uncanny, really.) and I am looking forward to attending [Daughters] game on the 18th. (The Ex could still attend the game, but she won't because she doesn't attend any events for Son or Daughter unless she's already going to drive here for a custody exchange.)
I'll talk with the kids on Friday and get their input on what they would like to do (...are you f*cking kidding me?? Since when do the kids set the placement schedule? Should we go back to the time when Son was saying he didn't want to go with your parents but you said he needed to, even though you didn't see him at all that weekend?) and maybe if they would like to be there that weekend, then the kids and I will discuss it. (The parents should be discussing it between themselves. The kids shouldn't be setting the schedule, period. And I know how your "discussions" go - you whine and complain and twist things so that it seems more opportune for them to be with you on that weekend, even if it's not.)"
Husband replied and said he'd like her to reconsider. He pointed out that Son and Daughter don't get to see his side of the family very often, and reminded her that he switched weekends so that the kids could be with The Ex when her sister renewed her wedding vows. Husband said he'd appreciate The Ex showing the same respect for his side of the kids' family. (We know it's not going to happen, but now it's out there.)
Well, guess what you guys. There's a clause in the divorce judgment that allows either parent to have the kids on what would be the other parent's placement days if there's a family event or something special going on that day. We never brought it up before, because The Ex will try to use this to her advantage. But when your sister is coming from the other end of the country, you're damn right we're using it.
Husband deleted the change request, changed the calendar to reflect that the kids would be with us the weekend that his sister was in town, and then sent a message to The Ex explaining how and why the kids would be with him for that weekend and thanked her for her cooperation.
And then....
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