"I'm not going."
The Ex showed up for Daughter's game last week (This would be the game that Husband rescheduled just to ruin everyone's plans in New City, because he is all-powerful and has control over what entire school districts do with their basketball teams.) and gave Husband a check for $15, asked if they could move the exchange place to Different City. We got home on Friday night, sent her a message on 2houses asking where she'd like to meet on Sunday.
The Ex replied less than four hours before Husband was supposed to pick up the kids on Sunday, gave him an address. Immediately after Husband got the email saying that The Ex had messaged him on 2houses, his phone let him know he had a text message. I asked who it was and said, "It's probably [The Ex.] She's texting you to tell you that she sent you a message." Aaaaand, I was right.
Now mind you, The Ex still has not signed the stipulation saying that the two of them will communicate exclusively through 2houses. We're coming up on the one-month anniversary of her claiming that she wanted wording changed, and she has yet to indicate what wording she actually wants changed. We haven't pressed the issue because she's been using the website to communicate, so there's not really anything to argue over in court at this point. As long as she sticks to the website, then we're fine.
Then, Thursday night happened.
Husband and I needed to finish some Christmas shopping. Son and Daughter said they wanted to stay home, so we left them and took the two younger kids with us. We got what we needed & stopped for dinner. As we're eating, Husband's phone rings. He looks at it; it's The Ex. He lets it go to voice mail. As always, The Ex hangs up and calls right back. When Husband does not answer the second time, she leaves a message:
"Hey [Husband], it's me [The Ex]. I am calling because, um, [Daughter] has a 5 o'clock game in [Other City]. (Husband sent her two schedules, the original and the updated. Both schedules said, "Home Game." The updated schedule said, "*No Girls Game*" yet The Ex still thinks there is a game and that it's in another city.) I guess I'd like to know if that game is still on or not, 'cause I know you did a lot of changes. (Husband updated two basketball games. Two changes is "a lot.") Um...so if you could call me back, hopefully tonight? 'Cause I guess I need to arrange some plans for someone to pick 'em up. (Why? Why are you not able to pick up your own children?) Um...I, otherwise- well...it, just call me. Please. Um, I'm probably going to bed by 7:30 tonight. (She left this message at 7:02pm. She's literally giving Husband twenty-eight minutes to get back to her.) I know it's such short notice but, I......completely didn't think I was getting 'em this weekend. (Omfg. She just said out loud into Husband's voicemail that she doesn't even know when she's supposed to get her own children.) And then I thought, well if we switched; [Boyfriend] and I were talking that we had switched weekends. (The weekend switch had no effect on this weekend. This has been her placement weekend since February.) But anyways, um...let me know please. Um, she has a 5 o'clock game in [Other City] (No, Daughter does not have a game. Saying it more than once doesn't change the fact that there is no game.); I'd like the address, if you can send it on 2houses even. But I still would like to talk to you. Let me know. Bye."
Nineteen minutes later on 2houses:
"Hi [Husband]
Tried calling you. Had a few questions. Does [Daughter] still have a game tomorrow Friday 19th at 5pm in [Other City]? If so. (Not a. Sentence.) Please send me address and school name. Also. (OMG.) Is there any chance we can change the pickup/exchange to [City by The Ex's parents' house] again? Same place as before. We can even change the time to 5pm if that will help you out. Please let me know.
[The Ex]"
Shortly after that, The Ex sent Husband a couple of text messages asking for the address to Daughter's game in Other City; said she needed an answer because she was helping someone plan a funeral. (The deceased was survived by their spouse, 3 children, 5 grandchildren, and numerous other relatives and friends; I have no idea whatsoever why The Ex would be involved in the planning of this person's funeral.)
Husband replied on 2houses that Daughter never had a game in Other City, and that the updated schedule that he sent to her last week stated there was no girls game that week. He asked The Ex to let him know if she wanted to meet at 5pm or 5:30pm.
The next night, The Ex called Daughter and said she was on her way to pick the kids up. Shortly after that, The Ex called Daughter again and said her parents were picking the kids up. Son immediately began whining that he did not want to go to The Ex's parents' house all weekend and asked if he could stay here; I told him that was out of my control and The Ex had to make that decision. Son called The Ex and told her he wanted to stay; he got off the phone with her and told me that he was staying.
As we were driving home, The Ex called Son and told him that he was going with her parents. Son kept arguing with her and telling her that he wasn't going.
Sunday afternoon, Daughter sent Husband a text saying that the time and place were the same. Husband asked what she was talking about. The Ex then sent him a message on 2houses:
"Hi [Husband]
Pick up is still in [City by her parents']. 5:30pm will be fine at the same place. It's been a hectic week. I apologize for my lateness with this.
[The Ex]" (This message was sent 5 hours before Husband was supposed to get the kids.)
Husband replied, thanked her for letting him know, said he'd bring Daughter's school pictures and a paper copy of the schedule. Husband also said that Daughter texted him about the exchange place and time, and asked The Ex to again please not use the kids to communicate with him because it wasn't their responsibility and it violated the order.
An hour and half later:
"I never asked her to send you anything. (Okay, The Ex's parents asked Daughter to send it. Same difference, you're still using the child to communicate and it's wrong.) I'll talk with her. (About what? You're the one acting like an idiot, not Daughter.) She probably wanted to let you know. She's always letting me know things you should be telling me. (The only thing I can assume she's referring to here is when she calls Daughter and asks her questions, instead of posing the questions to Husband.)
Husband replied that this is not the first time we've had an issue with her using the kids to communicate; if there's something new with either of the kids' schools, then he tells her about it himself. Husband asked her to let him know what she was referring to when she says that Daughter lets her know things that he should be telling her. (The Ex read the message; never replied to it.)
I later found out that The Ex didn't see that kids at all that weekend. Her parents picked the kids up, took them to their house, and met Husband on Sunday to exchange the kids. The Ex forced Son to go to her parents for absolutely no reason other than she just didn't want Husband to have placement of him.
The Ex replied less than four hours before Husband was supposed to pick up the kids on Sunday, gave him an address. Immediately after Husband got the email saying that The Ex had messaged him on 2houses, his phone let him know he had a text message. I asked who it was and said, "It's probably [The Ex.] She's texting you to tell you that she sent you a message." Aaaaand, I was right.
Now mind you, The Ex still has not signed the stipulation saying that the two of them will communicate exclusively through 2houses. We're coming up on the one-month anniversary of her claiming that she wanted wording changed, and she has yet to indicate what wording she actually wants changed. We haven't pressed the issue because she's been using the website to communicate, so there's not really anything to argue over in court at this point. As long as she sticks to the website, then we're fine.
Then, Thursday night happened.
Husband and I needed to finish some Christmas shopping. Son and Daughter said they wanted to stay home, so we left them and took the two younger kids with us. We got what we needed & stopped for dinner. As we're eating, Husband's phone rings. He looks at it; it's The Ex. He lets it go to voice mail. As always, The Ex hangs up and calls right back. When Husband does not answer the second time, she leaves a message:
"Hey [Husband], it's me [The Ex]. I am calling because, um, [Daughter] has a 5 o'clock game in [Other City]. (Husband sent her two schedules, the original and the updated. Both schedules said, "Home Game." The updated schedule said, "*No Girls Game*" yet The Ex still thinks there is a game and that it's in another city.) I guess I'd like to know if that game is still on or not, 'cause I know you did a lot of changes. (Husband updated two basketball games. Two changes is "a lot.") Um...so if you could call me back, hopefully tonight? 'Cause I guess I need to arrange some plans for someone to pick 'em up. (Why? Why are you not able to pick up your own children?) Um...I, otherwise- well...it, just call me. Please. Um, I'm probably going to bed by 7:30 tonight. (She left this message at 7:02pm. She's literally giving Husband twenty-eight minutes to get back to her.) I know it's such short notice but, I......completely didn't think I was getting 'em this weekend. (Omfg. She just said out loud into Husband's voicemail that she doesn't even know when she's supposed to get her own children.) And then I thought, well if we switched; [Boyfriend] and I were talking that we had switched weekends. (The weekend switch had no effect on this weekend. This has been her placement weekend since February.) But anyways, um...let me know please. Um, she has a 5 o'clock game in [Other City] (No, Daughter does not have a game. Saying it more than once doesn't change the fact that there is no game.); I'd like the address, if you can send it on 2houses even. But I still would like to talk to you. Let me know. Bye."
Nineteen minutes later on 2houses:
"Hi [Husband]
Tried calling you. Had a few questions. Does [Daughter] still have a game tomorrow Friday 19th at 5pm in [Other City]? If so. (Not a. Sentence.) Please send me address and school name. Also. (OMG.) Is there any chance we can change the pickup/exchange to [City by The Ex's parents' house] again? Same place as before. We can even change the time to 5pm if that will help you out. Please let me know.
[The Ex]"
Shortly after that, The Ex sent Husband a couple of text messages asking for the address to Daughter's game in Other City; said she needed an answer because she was helping someone plan a funeral. (The deceased was survived by their spouse, 3 children, 5 grandchildren, and numerous other relatives and friends; I have no idea whatsoever why The Ex would be involved in the planning of this person's funeral.)
Husband replied on 2houses that Daughter never had a game in Other City, and that the updated schedule that he sent to her last week stated there was no girls game that week. He asked The Ex to let him know if she wanted to meet at 5pm or 5:30pm.
The next night, The Ex called Daughter and said she was on her way to pick the kids up. Shortly after that, The Ex called Daughter again and said her parents were picking the kids up. Son immediately began whining that he did not want to go to The Ex's parents' house all weekend and asked if he could stay here; I told him that was out of my control and The Ex had to make that decision. Son called The Ex and told her he wanted to stay; he got off the phone with her and told me that he was staying.
As we were driving home, The Ex called Son and told him that he was going with her parents. Son kept arguing with her and telling her that he wasn't going.
Sunday afternoon, Daughter sent Husband a text saying that the time and place were the same. Husband asked what she was talking about. The Ex then sent him a message on 2houses:
"Hi [Husband]
Pick up is still in [City by her parents']. 5:30pm will be fine at the same place. It's been a hectic week. I apologize for my lateness with this.
[The Ex]" (This message was sent 5 hours before Husband was supposed to get the kids.)
Husband replied, thanked her for letting him know, said he'd bring Daughter's school pictures and a paper copy of the schedule. Husband also said that Daughter texted him about the exchange place and time, and asked The Ex to again please not use the kids to communicate with him because it wasn't their responsibility and it violated the order.
An hour and half later:
"I never asked her to send you anything. (Okay, The Ex's parents asked Daughter to send it. Same difference, you're still using the child to communicate and it's wrong.) I'll talk with her. (About what? You're the one acting like an idiot, not Daughter.) She probably wanted to let you know. She's always letting me know things you should be telling me. (The only thing I can assume she's referring to here is when she calls Daughter and asks her questions, instead of posing the questions to Husband.)
Husband replied that this is not the first time we've had an issue with her using the kids to communicate; if there's something new with either of the kids' schools, then he tells her about it himself. Husband asked her to let him know what she was referring to when she says that Daughter lets her know things that he should be telling her. (The Ex read the message; never replied to it.)
I later found out that The Ex didn't see that kids at all that weekend. Her parents picked the kids up, took them to their house, and met Husband on Sunday to exchange the kids. The Ex forced Son to go to her parents for absolutely no reason other than she just didn't want Husband to have placement of him.
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