"You do this to hurt me and I know it."
Saturday night, Husband gets a message on 2houses:
"I was wondering if there was any chance I could pick up [Son and Daughter] around 4:30pm tomorrow. (The Ex mistakenly thought that they were supposed to exchange the kids on Sunday, which means she literally posed this question 22 hours before she thought was supposed to pick up the kids. Again, you have to love her lack of planning in every single aspect.) Next Sunday you could pick them up at 4:30pm.
Please let me know.
Thanks"
Husband replied in less than 15 minutes that the Christmas break was to be split equally and she would get the kids at 5:30pm on Monday, not Sunday. He said he was sorry but he couldn't do earlier than the regular exchange time.
Over an hour and a half later:
"I just looked up the calendar you made for court. (The Ex is referring to the proposed placement calendar that we brought to court in February, when we presented a stipulation outlining how many overnight stays The Ex had with the kids at that point in time vs. how many overnight stays The Ex would have if we went to an alternating weekend schedule and in exchange allowed her to have the kids every Thanksgiving break, Labor Day weekend, and any days off of school. The calendar is not part of the court order but was submitted to the court along with the stipulation.) December 28th, it says; "petitioner due to winter break". (This sentence is so horrifically constructed that I believe a small portion of my brain just exploded.) By court order, I'll be picking [Son and Daughter] up by 5:30pm tomorrow. (Okay, except that the calendar is not the court order. What the court order DOES say is that Christmas break is to be split equally. If The Ex is allowed to pick the kids up on Sunday, then she's getting roughly 60% of the kids' break; a 60/40 split is not equal.)"
Husband replied and explained that the calendar she was referring to was based off of last year's winter break, because this year's school calendars were not available at that time. Husband clarified that the order reads that the break is to be split equally; the kids have off of school for a total of eight days, which means four days are to be spent with him and four days spent with her. Husband again stated that The Ex could pick up Son and Daughter on Monday at 5:30pm according to the court order.
Sunday night at 5:39pm:
"Hi [Husband], it's [The Ex]. I'm here at your house to pick up the kids, because that's what the court order states. (No, it does not state that. The court order states that the break is to be split equally; you are a day early.) Today is my day to pick them up. (No, it's not. Just saying it does not make it true.) Um, I guess I'll give you five minutes to return this call because you keep cancelling the phone.......calls on me. (Husband didn't even have his phone on him. I don't know how one would "cancel" an incoming call.) I know you're getting my calls and you're not returning anything. (Husband is responding on 2houses. Husband is NOT returning any phone calls, because you're a pathological liar and Husband will not be communicating with you unless it is in writing. Is it sinking in now??) Um, 'cause I'm calling the police. I'm tired of your games. (Husband replied to your communication almost immediately. You don't know how to read the court order. How can you even begin to fathom that this is Husband playing any type of game?) You do this to hurt me and I know it, so... (No, Husband does not make you stupid and unable to read and comprehend a court order. You do that all by yourself. If you are "hurt" by this, then maybe you should try being a bit smarter.) I guess the next call you get will be from the police. (Insert ridiculously long pause here as she tries to come up with something more to say.) And just remember, you made that calendar and brought it in. Not me. (Oh, good. I'm glad she cleared that up. Here I was, thinking SHE had brought in the proposed calendar for Husband's stipulation. No wonder it didn't make sense.) Next time you make a calendar, you just have to make sure it's- everything's correct on it. (We based it off of what we had available at the time. From that information, it was correct.) Five minutes. (I don't care if you give him an hour; Husband will not be returning your phone call.)"
At 6:07pm
"Hi, this is Officer [name] from the [Our City] Police Department calling for [Husband]. If you could return my call at XXX-XXX-XXXX. Either ask for me or Officer [other name], reference a custody issue. Thank you."
Husband called back; the officers weren't available. Naturally, they called back when he was in the bathroom so I spoke to the officer and explained the situation. The officer was very polite, said that they told The Ex that they could not enforce vague orders and she would have to go back to court if she wanted it clarified. I told the officer that the order was specific; it stated that the break was to be split equally, The Ex was misinterpreting the order and basing her argument off of a calendar that was not a court-ordered calendar. Officer said it should really be about what's best for the kids; I said he was absolutely right. I said that Husband had off on Monday and as far as I was aware, The Ex had to work; it's very hard to say it's in Son & Daughter's best interests that they go to The Ex's house and babysit her other children while she's at work, when they could be spending their day off with their father.
I will not be surprised if/when Attorney 4 files a contempt motion against Husband. If and when the date of the hearing comes, I will thoroughly enjoy watching The Ex stammer on the stand while trying to explain why she didn't show up at our house on October 22nd to pick up the kids; according to the "court ordered" calendar that she's referencing, she was supposed to have placement that day too. Oh, that's right - it's because the calendar was based off of last year's school calendar and isn't perfected down to the exact day. It was a guideline, not a schedule.
I wonder if she's even able to understand how increasingly stupid she is.
"I was wondering if there was any chance I could pick up [Son and Daughter] around 4:30pm tomorrow. (The Ex mistakenly thought that they were supposed to exchange the kids on Sunday, which means she literally posed this question 22 hours before she thought was supposed to pick up the kids. Again, you have to love her lack of planning in every single aspect.) Next Sunday you could pick them up at 4:30pm.
Please let me know.
Thanks"
Husband replied in less than 15 minutes that the Christmas break was to be split equally and she would get the kids at 5:30pm on Monday, not Sunday. He said he was sorry but he couldn't do earlier than the regular exchange time.
Over an hour and a half later:
"I just looked up the calendar you made for court. (The Ex is referring to the proposed placement calendar that we brought to court in February, when we presented a stipulation outlining how many overnight stays The Ex had with the kids at that point in time vs. how many overnight stays The Ex would have if we went to an alternating weekend schedule and in exchange allowed her to have the kids every Thanksgiving break, Labor Day weekend, and any days off of school. The calendar is not part of the court order but was submitted to the court along with the stipulation.) December 28th, it says; "petitioner due to winter break". (This sentence is so horrifically constructed that I believe a small portion of my brain just exploded.) By court order, I'll be picking [Son and Daughter] up by 5:30pm tomorrow. (Okay, except that the calendar is not the court order. What the court order DOES say is that Christmas break is to be split equally. If The Ex is allowed to pick the kids up on Sunday, then she's getting roughly 60% of the kids' break; a 60/40 split is not equal.)"
Husband replied and explained that the calendar she was referring to was based off of last year's winter break, because this year's school calendars were not available at that time. Husband clarified that the order reads that the break is to be split equally; the kids have off of school for a total of eight days, which means four days are to be spent with him and four days spent with her. Husband again stated that The Ex could pick up Son and Daughter on Monday at 5:30pm according to the court order.
Sunday night at 5:39pm:
"Hi [Husband], it's [The Ex]. I'm here at your house to pick up the kids, because that's what the court order states. (No, it does not state that. The court order states that the break is to be split equally; you are a day early.) Today is my day to pick them up. (No, it's not. Just saying it does not make it true.) Um, I guess I'll give you five minutes to return this call because you keep cancelling the phone.......calls on me. (Husband didn't even have his phone on him. I don't know how one would "cancel" an incoming call.) I know you're getting my calls and you're not returning anything. (Husband is responding on 2houses. Husband is NOT returning any phone calls, because you're a pathological liar and Husband will not be communicating with you unless it is in writing. Is it sinking in now??) Um, 'cause I'm calling the police. I'm tired of your games. (Husband replied to your communication almost immediately. You don't know how to read the court order. How can you even begin to fathom that this is Husband playing any type of game?) You do this to hurt me and I know it, so... (No, Husband does not make you stupid and unable to read and comprehend a court order. You do that all by yourself. If you are "hurt" by this, then maybe you should try being a bit smarter.) I guess the next call you get will be from the police. (Insert ridiculously long pause here as she tries to come up with something more to say.) And just remember, you made that calendar and brought it in. Not me. (Oh, good. I'm glad she cleared that up. Here I was, thinking SHE had brought in the proposed calendar for Husband's stipulation. No wonder it didn't make sense.) Next time you make a calendar, you just have to make sure it's- everything's correct on it. (We based it off of what we had available at the time. From that information, it was correct.) Five minutes. (I don't care if you give him an hour; Husband will not be returning your phone call.)"
At 6:07pm
"Hi, this is Officer [name] from the [Our City] Police Department calling for [Husband]. If you could return my call at XXX-XXX-XXXX. Either ask for me or Officer [other name], reference a custody issue. Thank you."
Husband called back; the officers weren't available. Naturally, they called back when he was in the bathroom so I spoke to the officer and explained the situation. The officer was very polite, said that they told The Ex that they could not enforce vague orders and she would have to go back to court if she wanted it clarified. I told the officer that the order was specific; it stated that the break was to be split equally, The Ex was misinterpreting the order and basing her argument off of a calendar that was not a court-ordered calendar. Officer said it should really be about what's best for the kids; I said he was absolutely right. I said that Husband had off on Monday and as far as I was aware, The Ex had to work; it's very hard to say it's in Son & Daughter's best interests that they go to The Ex's house and babysit her other children while she's at work, when they could be spending their day off with their father.
I will not be surprised if/when Attorney 4 files a contempt motion against Husband. If and when the date of the hearing comes, I will thoroughly enjoy watching The Ex stammer on the stand while trying to explain why she didn't show up at our house on October 22nd to pick up the kids; according to the "court ordered" calendar that she's referencing, she was supposed to have placement that day too. Oh, that's right - it's because the calendar was based off of last year's school calendar and isn't perfected down to the exact day. It was a guideline, not a schedule.
I wonder if she's even able to understand how increasingly stupid she is.
Yay! Loving all the updates! Sorry you have to deal with so much crazy!
ReplyDeleteJust got your blog from FB (Stepmom to Stepmom). So glad I came to visit. Nice to know we're not alone sometimes!
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