Queen of Hypocrisy
I feel it's important to acknowledge each child on their birthday; I want them to understand that they're important to me in their own unique way. I probably feel more strongly about this than I should because between the six kids that we and The Ex have, four of them have birthdays in July. It's easy to feel like you got thrown together with everything else so I always try to make an acknowledgement of each individual child. On the other hand, this is what The Ex has done since she joined Facebook:
2012
No post on Son's birthday.
Posted 34 words about Daughter's birthday.
Uploaded six pictures of her niece's baptism, THEN posted 39 words about Son's birthday which included making sure to let us all know that she "wasn't on Facebook" on his birthday. (Yes, she was)
Posted 64 words about her daughter's birthday and another 22 words about her niece/goddaughter's baptism. Uploaded a photo of her daughter with her birthday cake.
Uploaded 2 photos of her son's birthday; wrote 68 words, a majority of which were about how she missed Son & Daughter and hoped they'd be at his party. (She never told us about the party but told Facebook she hoped the kids would be able to make it)
Later uploaded 4 pictures from her son's birthday party, none of them had Son or Daughter in them; wrote another 48 words about her son's birthday.
2013
Nothing at all about any of her kids.
2014
Uploaded 5 pictures of Son, including one of him sleeping with his mouth open. Wrote 48 words about how she missed him and wished she could have spent the day with him (His birthday was on our weekend; she never asked to switch) and hoped he liked his birthday "ballons". (The previous night, she came to drop off Daughter at Son's football practice. She pulled 2 balloons out of her car and forced him to hug her in front of the entire team; the whole thing was painfully awkward to watch.)
Uploaded 2 pictures of Daughter, wrote 52 words about her birthday and included a very inaccurate memory about how Daughter "loved picking toe jam from everybody" when she was little. (Husband said when she was little, Daughter hated having lint between her own toes; as soon as her socks came off, she would make sure her toes were clean. She did not pick toe jam, much less from other people's feet... *gag*) Daughter must have been embarrassed by this because she asked The Ex via Facebook to remove the post; The Ex refused.
Uploaded 3 photos of her daughter on her birthday, wrote 57 words telling everyone that she got 6 "ballons" and a tablet. (This was while telling Son & Daughter that we were taking all of her money)
Later uploaded 11 pictures of the kids' birthday party. Half of the cake was decorated for Son, while Daughter and her sister shared the other half. (I still don't understand why she didn't just buy them each a small cake rather than wasting the money on a professionally decorated TMNT/Frozen cake that didn't personify two-thirds of the children it was supposed to be for. And yes, this cake actually existed.)
Nothing about her youngest son's birthday.
2015
Nothing about anyone's birthdays.
Shared a picture on Son's birthday with some mother/son saying, wrote that she loved Son & his brother.
2016
Nothing on Son's birthday.
Nothing on Daughter's birthday.
Shared 2 Facebook memories of her daughter's birthday, uploaded 4 photos and a 27-second video of her daughter opening her presents from her and Ned while The Ex sang to her, wrote 43 words about all of it, tagged 13 people, and wrote she wished Son & Daughter could have been there.
*Edit* Since I wrote this post originally, The Ex wrote 39 more words about how her daughter wanted to go bowling for her birthday, uploaded 5 more pictures, tagged 11 people, said they were going horseback riding the following weekend and finished it with, "And yes [Son], your (*you're) going" (I realize Son is at "that age" where it's not cool to do certain things, especially with your family. However, if we were celebrating Son's birthday then I'd make sure we were doing something that he wanted to do, not announce on Facebook that he's required to do what I want him to do for his birthday.)
Her younger son hasn't had his birthday yet this year, but I can guarantee there will be something posted.
But you must remember that according to The Ex, I treat "my" children differently and Husband only has consideration for the children that he and I share. We are such horrible people; what a shame we can't be more like her.
2012
No post on Son's birthday.
Posted 34 words about Daughter's birthday.
Uploaded six pictures of her niece's baptism, THEN posted 39 words about Son's birthday which included making sure to let us all know that she "wasn't on Facebook" on his birthday. (Yes, she was)
Posted 64 words about her daughter's birthday and another 22 words about her niece/goddaughter's baptism. Uploaded a photo of her daughter with her birthday cake.
Uploaded 2 photos of her son's birthday; wrote 68 words, a majority of which were about how she missed Son & Daughter and hoped they'd be at his party. (She never told us about the party but told Facebook she hoped the kids would be able to make it)
Later uploaded 4 pictures from her son's birthday party, none of them had Son or Daughter in them; wrote another 48 words about her son's birthday.
2013
Nothing at all about any of her kids.
2014
Uploaded 5 pictures of Son, including one of him sleeping with his mouth open. Wrote 48 words about how she missed him and wished she could have spent the day with him (His birthday was on our weekend; she never asked to switch) and hoped he liked his birthday "ballons". (The previous night, she came to drop off Daughter at Son's football practice. She pulled 2 balloons out of her car and forced him to hug her in front of the entire team; the whole thing was painfully awkward to watch.)
Uploaded 2 pictures of Daughter, wrote 52 words about her birthday and included a very inaccurate memory about how Daughter "loved picking toe jam from everybody" when she was little. (Husband said when she was little, Daughter hated having lint between her own toes; as soon as her socks came off, she would make sure her toes were clean. She did not pick toe jam, much less from other people's feet... *gag*) Daughter must have been embarrassed by this because she asked The Ex via Facebook to remove the post; The Ex refused.
Uploaded 3 photos of her daughter on her birthday, wrote 57 words telling everyone that she got 6 "ballons" and a tablet. (This was while telling Son & Daughter that we were taking all of her money)
Later uploaded 11 pictures of the kids' birthday party. Half of the cake was decorated for Son, while Daughter and her sister shared the other half. (I still don't understand why she didn't just buy them each a small cake rather than wasting the money on a professionally decorated TMNT/Frozen cake that didn't personify two-thirds of the children it was supposed to be for. And yes, this cake actually existed.)
Nothing about her youngest son's birthday.
2015
Nothing about anyone's birthdays.
Shared a picture on Son's birthday with some mother/son saying, wrote that she loved Son & his brother.
2016
Nothing on Son's birthday.
Nothing on Daughter's birthday.
Shared 2 Facebook memories of her daughter's birthday, uploaded 4 photos and a 27-second video of her daughter opening her presents from her and Ned while The Ex sang to her, wrote 43 words about all of it, tagged 13 people, and wrote she wished Son & Daughter could have been there.
*Edit* Since I wrote this post originally, The Ex wrote 39 more words about how her daughter wanted to go bowling for her birthday, uploaded 5 more pictures, tagged 11 people, said they were going horseback riding the following weekend and finished it with, "And yes [Son], your (*you're) going" (I realize Son is at "that age" where it's not cool to do certain things, especially with your family. However, if we were celebrating Son's birthday then I'd make sure we were doing something that he wanted to do, not announce on Facebook that he's required to do what I want him to do for his birthday.)
Her younger son hasn't had his birthday yet this year, but I can guarantee there will be something posted.
But you must remember that according to The Ex, I treat "my" children differently and Husband only has consideration for the children that he and I share. We are such horrible people; what a shame we can't be more like her.
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