Whew.
The Ex has been busy with her crap lately. Not so much with Husband or me, but definitely with Son and Daughter.
The Ex had previously told her family that she wanted to have a huge get-together on the 4th of July; she wanted to celebrate all of the birthdays, Mother's Day, and Father's Day that they had missed together because of the pandemic. Daughter also told me that The Ex said she might add Daughter's graduation party into the mix as well.
It almost seems as if The Ex really doesn't care about Daughter's graduation, considering that she was just going to lump her graduation celebration in with everything else. Not only that but a few weeks ago she had sent a video to her family of herself talking about what an "awesome job" her youngest son had done with his at-home schooling. The Ex claimed that her son, who was in 2nd grade, had "3X as much homework" as her daughter, who was in 6th grade; The Ex also claimed that her son had received a grade of "exceptional" on every single one of his classes and was quick to point out that her daughter "only had one or two [exceptional grades]." (Because, you know...you can't just build up your child and leave it at that. No, make sure that you tear another one down in the process.) The Ex said that since her son had done so well, he was going to get the first s'mores that they made. Daughter jokingly objected and said, "Excuse me? I'm the 2020 graduate, shouldn't I get the first s'mores?" The Ex waved her hand at Daughter and literally said, "That's done and over with" and started laughing.
The Ex sent her parents to pick up Daughter the weekend before the 4th; Daughter said that she wanted to be back on Wednesday so she could work her part-time job at a horse farm like she usually does on Thursdays. Son and Girlfriend were going to come down for the weekend of the 4th because some of Husband's family was coming from out of town to visit; Daughter ended up coming home with them on Thursday evening because The Ex refused to bring her back on Wednesday like she had asked.
While the three of them were here, Daughter commented that she was going to go back to Tiny City with Son and Girlfriend. I was a little surprised she was leaving, but okay - she's almost 18 and she can decide where she wants to be, so I wasn't going to tell her no or insist that she stay with us. The next day, Daughter said she was thinking about staying and said she was going to message The Ex about it and see what she said.
The day that they were going to leave, The Ex called Son. Girlfriend told Daughter that The Ex was discussing with Son whether Daughter was coming back or not; I don't know why The Ex didn't call Daughter and talk to her. Actually, yes I do. The Ex figured she would put Son on a guilt trip and make him feel bad if he didn't bring Daughter home with him, whereas Daughter would have just expressed herself and said she didn't want to go back that weekend. Daughter tried to call The Ex herself; The Ex wouldn't answer the phone. Daughter then tried to call her little sister; she also wouldn't answer the phone. A short while later, her sister called back and claimed that she couldn't answer when Daughter called because she'd been on the phone with Boyfriend. (This is literally just weeks after The Ex publicly blasted Boyfriend on Facebook, claiming that he never called to talk to the kids.) Daughter argued that the phone wasn't making that "beep" sound at the end of the call, indicating that the person you were calling was on the other line. Daughter asked where The Ex was; her sister claimed that The Ex was "sleeping" (even though she'd been talking to Son shortly before this) and couldn't talk to Daughter. Daughter got pissed off, said whatever, told her sister that she loved her and hung up. Daughter said she was upset that not only was The Ex ignoring her, but then was having her kids lie about why she was being ignored.
Over the weekend, Girlfriend also stated that she's "sick and tired" of The Ex's son and said, "He's growing up to be a little asshole, and it's all because of how [The Ex] is raising him." Girlfriend said that a week or so earlier, The Ex's son was calling Daughter "fat/fatty" right to her face while The Ex was sitting right there. I asked if she'd said or done anything when he said this to Daughter; Girlfriend said, "No, [The Ex] was calling [Daughter] 'fat' right along with him." (No, seriously. The woman who looks like Jabba the Hutt was referring to her 5' 7", 155 lb. daughter as "fat." I swear I could just punch this stupid bitch right in the face...") Girlfriend said that Ned is "not allowed" to discipline The Ex's son, but The Ex won't discipline him either. I said to Son, "Listen. I'm not saying we were perfect parents. We made mistakes. But you knew good and damn well when you were growing up in this house, it wasn't going to be me vs. Dad. You weren't going to play us against each other. You understood and respected that if one of us said something, the other one was going to back them up." Son said, "Oh yeah, for sure. I knew that I had to listen to you because if I didn't, I was going to get in trouble with Dad." I said exactly, kids need to know that you are a united front; you cannot have this "You don't need to listen to him/her" in your household because all that's teaching the kid is that they don't have to respect the other parent and once you start doing that, it's going to get really bad.
The Ex had previously told her family that she wanted to have a huge get-together on the 4th of July; she wanted to celebrate all of the birthdays, Mother's Day, and Father's Day that they had missed together because of the pandemic. Daughter also told me that The Ex said she might add Daughter's graduation party into the mix as well.
It almost seems as if The Ex really doesn't care about Daughter's graduation, considering that she was just going to lump her graduation celebration in with everything else. Not only that but a few weeks ago she had sent a video to her family of herself talking about what an "awesome job" her youngest son had done with his at-home schooling. The Ex claimed that her son, who was in 2nd grade, had "3X as much homework" as her daughter, who was in 6th grade; The Ex also claimed that her son had received a grade of "exceptional" on every single one of his classes and was quick to point out that her daughter "only had one or two [exceptional grades]." (Because, you know...you can't just build up your child and leave it at that. No, make sure that you tear another one down in the process.) The Ex said that since her son had done so well, he was going to get the first s'mores that they made. Daughter jokingly objected and said, "Excuse me? I'm the 2020 graduate, shouldn't I get the first s'mores?" The Ex waved her hand at Daughter and literally said, "That's done and over with" and started laughing.
The Ex sent her parents to pick up Daughter the weekend before the 4th; Daughter said that she wanted to be back on Wednesday so she could work her part-time job at a horse farm like she usually does on Thursdays. Son and Girlfriend were going to come down for the weekend of the 4th because some of Husband's family was coming from out of town to visit; Daughter ended up coming home with them on Thursday evening because The Ex refused to bring her back on Wednesday like she had asked.
While the three of them were here, Daughter commented that she was going to go back to Tiny City with Son and Girlfriend. I was a little surprised she was leaving, but okay - she's almost 18 and she can decide where she wants to be, so I wasn't going to tell her no or insist that she stay with us. The next day, Daughter said she was thinking about staying and said she was going to message The Ex about it and see what she said.
The day that they were going to leave, The Ex called Son. Girlfriend told Daughter that The Ex was discussing with Son whether Daughter was coming back or not; I don't know why The Ex didn't call Daughter and talk to her. Actually, yes I do. The Ex figured she would put Son on a guilt trip and make him feel bad if he didn't bring Daughter home with him, whereas Daughter would have just expressed herself and said she didn't want to go back that weekend. Daughter tried to call The Ex herself; The Ex wouldn't answer the phone. Daughter then tried to call her little sister; she also wouldn't answer the phone. A short while later, her sister called back and claimed that she couldn't answer when Daughter called because she'd been on the phone with Boyfriend. (This is literally just weeks after The Ex publicly blasted Boyfriend on Facebook, claiming that he never called to talk to the kids.) Daughter argued that the phone wasn't making that "beep" sound at the end of the call, indicating that the person you were calling was on the other line. Daughter asked where The Ex was; her sister claimed that The Ex was "sleeping" (even though she'd been talking to Son shortly before this) and couldn't talk to Daughter. Daughter got pissed off, said whatever, told her sister that she loved her and hung up. Daughter said she was upset that not only was The Ex ignoring her, but then was having her kids lie about why she was being ignored.
Over the weekend, Girlfriend also stated that she's "sick and tired" of The Ex's son and said, "He's growing up to be a little asshole, and it's all because of how [The Ex] is raising him." Girlfriend said that a week or so earlier, The Ex's son was calling Daughter "fat/fatty" right to her face while The Ex was sitting right there. I asked if she'd said or done anything when he said this to Daughter; Girlfriend said, "No, [The Ex] was calling [Daughter] 'fat' right along with him." (No, seriously. The woman who looks like Jabba the Hutt was referring to her 5' 7", 155 lb. daughter as "fat." I swear I could just punch this stupid bitch right in the face...") Girlfriend said that Ned is "not allowed" to discipline The Ex's son, but The Ex won't discipline him either. I said to Son, "Listen. I'm not saying we were perfect parents. We made mistakes. But you knew good and damn well when you were growing up in this house, it wasn't going to be me vs. Dad. You weren't going to play us against each other. You understood and respected that if one of us said something, the other one was going to back them up." Son said, "Oh yeah, for sure. I knew that I had to listen to you because if I didn't, I was going to get in trouble with Dad." I said exactly, kids need to know that you are a united front; you cannot have this "You don't need to listen to him/her" in your household because all that's teaching the kid is that they don't have to respect the other parent and once you start doing that, it's going to get really bad.
The last night that they were here, we were playing a game and one of the things you have to do is make a toast; Son drew that play so he held up his glass and started with me. He said, "I used to think you were a bitch because...you know...my mom, and she's kind of a bitch. But I understand why you did the things you did. And I just want to say that I love you and I'm sorry for everything that I put you through." (Pass the tissues...I just can't.) We were also talking and Son said regarding The Ex, "I've already accepted that I'm never going to get an apology from her for screwing up my childhood. I just kind of hope that maybe I can get her to see that she's the one with the problem." (From the mouth of babes, eh??) I told Son that unfortunately, I wouldn't hold my breath on that; his mother has never accepted responsibility for her choices and I don't think it's going to happen.
Daughter ended up staying here with us instead of going back with Son and Girlfriend. Then yesterday The Ex starts with the Facebook posts. First was a quote picture that read:
"My biggest accomplishment in life will never be money, it will be who I raised."
The Ex added the caption:
"My Love Bugs 🥰❤️💋
[Son first & last name], [Daughter first & last name], [The Ex's daughter] and [The Ex's son] 🥰 "
Pretty ironic that suddenly one of The Ex's "biggest accomplishments" is the child she refused to speak to over the weekend. Weird flex, but okay.
Then, The Ex posted another quote picture:
"Walk away from people who put you down.
Walk away from fights that will never be resolved.
Walk away from trying to please people who will never see your worth.
The more you walk away from things that poison your soul, the healthier you will be."
This sounds stupid because all that The Ex ever does is walk away. From her jobs, her kids, her family, her responsibilities, her marriages...and yet she's so incredibly miserable because she just refuses to accept that the common denominator in everything that "poisons her soul" is exactly that - her.
And then finally, The Ex shared one last quote picture that she's shared at least 3 separate times this year alone:
"Children that aren't taught accountability for their actions grow up to become adults that think nothing they do is wrong."
The Ex added the caption, "YUP!!!" (I'm almost 100% positive that this is directed at Ned and/or Lucifer. Again, her refusal to do any form of self-reflection is just amazing. Her own son recognizes that she's got issues she refuses to address but here she is, trying to point the finger at everyone else. Not to mention that Girlfriend spilled all the tea about The Ex's shitty "parenting," if we can even call it that.)
So that's the latest update. Daughter is turning 18 in less than 3 weeks; she and I have an appointment for matching tattoos, which I'm sure The Ex is going to make some shitty comment(s) about. Don't misunderstand, I don't care what she says about me; I just feel bad that Daughter is doing something as exciting as her first tattoo and The Ex is going to insult her and/or make her feel bad about it. I'll be sure to update you when it happens 😁
Daughter ended up staying here with us instead of going back with Son and Girlfriend. Then yesterday The Ex starts with the Facebook posts. First was a quote picture that read:
"My biggest accomplishment in life will never be money, it will be who I raised."
The Ex added the caption:
"My Love Bugs 🥰❤️💋
[Son first & last name], [Daughter first & last name], [The Ex's daughter] and [The Ex's son] 🥰 "
Pretty ironic that suddenly one of The Ex's "biggest accomplishments" is the child she refused to speak to over the weekend. Weird flex, but okay.
Then, The Ex posted another quote picture:
"Walk away from people who put you down.
Walk away from fights that will never be resolved.
Walk away from trying to please people who will never see your worth.
The more you walk away from things that poison your soul, the healthier you will be."
This sounds stupid because all that The Ex ever does is walk away. From her jobs, her kids, her family, her responsibilities, her marriages...and yet she's so incredibly miserable because she just refuses to accept that the common denominator in everything that "poisons her soul" is exactly that - her.
And then finally, The Ex shared one last quote picture that she's shared at least 3 separate times this year alone:
"Children that aren't taught accountability for their actions grow up to become adults that think nothing they do is wrong."
The Ex added the caption, "YUP!!!" (I'm almost 100% positive that this is directed at Ned and/or Lucifer. Again, her refusal to do any form of self-reflection is just amazing. Her own son recognizes that she's got issues she refuses to address but here she is, trying to point the finger at everyone else. Not to mention that Girlfriend spilled all the tea about The Ex's shitty "parenting," if we can even call it that.)
So that's the latest update. Daughter is turning 18 in less than 3 weeks; she and I have an appointment for matching tattoos, which I'm sure The Ex is going to make some shitty comment(s) about. Don't misunderstand, I don't care what she says about me; I just feel bad that Daughter is doing something as exciting as her first tattoo and The Ex is going to insult her and/or make her feel bad about it. I'll be sure to update you when it happens 😁
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