Clothes and church

  For awhile, we had a decent enough arrangement over clothing.  We only had the kids for four nights a month so we didn't really have a "wardrobe" for them.  We'd buy a few things here and there but they would grow out of the clothes before they ever got any wear out of them.  The Ex finally agreed to pack clothes for the kids each weekend we had them; two changes for each kid, nothing more.  We'd wash the dirty clothes Saturday night, pack the bag and return whatever had come in it.

  One day, Husband asked Ex if she could pack something a little nicer for the kids to wear than just t-shirts and jeans with holes in them; he said he wanted the kids to look nice when we took them to church.  The Ex asked if we were still attending a Lutheran church that Husband had gone to for a brief period of time before he and I started dating.  Husband told her no, we attended a non-denominational Christian church.  The Ex demanded that we stop taking the kids to church.  When Husband asked her why, she wanted the kids "to be Catholic." (At this point, we couldn't even tell you the last time that The Ex had been in church herself, much less taken the kids to a service or even Sunday School.)

  Let's recap what happened here:
     1.  The Ex wants the kids to be Catholic
     2.  The Ex never takes the kids to any church at all, much less a Catholic one
     2.  The Ex was okay with Husband taking the kids to a Lutheran church
     3.  The Ex is NOT okay with the kids attending a non-denominational church

  And of course, this wasn't an issue again until three years later.  In that time, she didn't take the kids to a church of her choice, she didn't tell us not to take them to our church and she even once told us that it was nice that we were taking them with us.  So I guess being Catholic means just announcing you're Catholic at random opportunities.  FYI, I'm becoming a unicorn next week.

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