Beginning of 2012
When The Ex was picking up the kids one Friday, Husband asked about switching weekends. Without even listening to why, The Ex said no "because Husband never switches with her." (Back to second grade again) Husband explained it was because Daughter's best friend was having her birthday party at a water park; he wanted to switch so that Daughter wouldn't miss the party. The Ex looked at Daughter and said, "Well, do you want to go?" (Why would we ask if Daughter didn't want to go?)
We had a hearing in February. The Ex was still trying to get her child support lowered because she had been "unable" to work while pregnant. Since she had a pending motion filed, Our Attorney sent a subpoena for her work information and found out that The Ex was earning almost $3/hour more than when the last child support order had been set. We filed a counter-motion to increase child support and requesting that The Ex help pay variable expenses (The Ex and Husband have what our state calls "shared placement" which means the non-custodial parent has the children more than 25% of the time. In shared placement cases, child support is based on both parents' income and how much time each parent has the child; in some cases, the custodial parent may even have to pay support to the non-custodial parent. The Ex was paying less than $70/week for two kids, but she still refused to help pay for anything - snow pants, school supplies, extracurricular activities, etc.)
The commissioner listened to both sides, took everything into account, did the calculations. The Ex would get a $160 credit toward her child support arrears (Which put a little dent in it, but not much), ordered The Ex to pay 33% of variable expenses and increased child support to $92/week. Attorney 3 requested that all receipts be submitted by mail so that neither party could argue they didn't receive the receipt; we agreed that was best and it was put into the order. The hearing was adjourned, The Ex told Attorney 3 thank you and had a huge smile on her face. We left the courthouse and Our Attorney said, "She got $160 credit and it probably cost her more than $160 to have [Attorney 3] show up here today." I said I didn't think The Ex realized what had just happened; she was in much too good of a mood. Yes, she got her credit but her support went up almost $25/week; in six weeks, she would pay to Husband everything that she had gotten as a credit.
The same day of the hearing, Son asked me if The Ex had told Husband that she was moving. I said no, she hadn't mentioned anything to us. Son said that The Ex and Boyfriend were moving to a trailer "because it's cheaper." (The Ex and Boyfriend had a 3-bedroom apartment, so I suppose with four kids, they would need more space. It made sense.)
One weekend, Husband told The Ex that he had some receipts he was going to email to her. The Ex said her email didn't work (The Ex had asked the kids' therapists office to email her some paperwork two weeks prior. Now Husband wants to email something, and magically her email "doesn't work." This was not the first, nor was it the last time that The Ex has done this about her email) Husband sent the receipt by email anyway; a few days later, The Ex gave him a few dollars toward it.
About a month after the hearing, we went to pick up the kids. The Ex and the kids were gone, but her parents, two of her uncles and Boyfriend were at the trailer. The Ex showed up with the kids and handed Husband a receipt for shoes (She had spent $95 on two pairs of shoes and thought Husband was going to reimburse her for 67% of it. HA.) Husband brings me the receipt and says, "I thought shoes weren't part of variable expenses." I said they were not, the commissioner specifically stated that and it was in the order. Also, the order read that any purchases over $75 were to be discussed prior to them being made. I pulled up the order on my phone, Husband walked back to The Ex and told her he wasn't going to be giving her any money. The Ex began yelling at him, saying the kids needed shoes and he was supposed to pay for them. Husband told her shoes weren't covered and she should have talked to him about this; we were going to take the kids shoe shopping on the way home. The Ex continued yelling that the kids needed shoes and that Husband needed to reimburse her.
Husband said he wasn't paying for the shoes and started walking away. The Ex yelled that the kids were going to play sports in Hometown this year. Husband asked when they had discussed that; The Ex said Husband had verbally agreed to it. Husband said no, he had not agreed to this. The Ex continued to insist that Husband had agreed to this and that was where the kids were going to play. Husband told her it wasn't discussed and he hadn't agreed to it, and we left before there was more arguing. (A few days later, I noticed on the court website that hearing had been scheduled. I figured it was over the shoes and we just laughed)
April rolled around. I got a phone call from the doctor saying that The Ex's insurance hadn't worked for Son's physical exam. When The Ex came to pick up the kids that Friday, Husband told her he would need a new insurance card. The Ex said she couldn't get one; Husband asked why. The Ex said she had gotten fired (What. The. Hell.) Husband asked when this had happened; The Ex said almost two months prior (It was just over a month) I had to then call the dentist, because the kids had fillings put in sometime in March; the dentist checked, called me back and said The Ex's coverage had been terminated at the end of February. (So you know, don't tell us that your insurance isn't any good anymore. Just let us take the kids in assuming the bill will get paid in full between our insurance and yours. I swear she has got brain damage.)
A few days later, The Ex called Husband about a dental bill for Daughter. The Ex was arguing the amount she had to pay (The bill showed the starting balance, what the insurance paid, the half that Husband paid and what the remaining balance was. The Ex was trying to say she owed only half of the remaining balance, not that the remaining balance was her half of the bill.) Three weeks later, The Ex calls Husband and says she wants the dentist's phone number because she "never saw a statement." (I personally handed her a copy of this bill in August 2011. A process server gave her paperwork containing the bill in October 2011. Husband emailed her the bill in February 2012. She left a message three weeks prior saying that she got a copy of the bill from Attorney 3. Now, she "never saw a copy"?! She either has to be crazy or on drugs. Normal people do not function like this.) Two days later, The Ex gave Husband a check from Boyfriend's account for the dental bill (The one that she "never saw"). After we left, she called Husband and left a message asking him to hold the check for a few days until Boyfriend got paid.
Two weeks later, The Ex picked up the kids on Friday. She asked Husband if he was "ready" for Monday. Husband said he didn't know what she was talking about. The Ex said they had court Monday morning; Husband said he had never gotten any paperwork. The Ex went on a rant about Attorney 3 being "worthless," saying she had "been after him since she got fired" and that he had told her "everything was taken care of." (It's hard to say if Attorney 3 was either blowing off The Ex because she wasn't paying him, or if he really was just an idiot. Either way, she signed the paperwork in March - he didn't file it until June.) Husband asked if The Ex was returning to work and she said yes. Husband pointed out that if she was going back to work, we'd have to go back to court to recalculate support anyway; it might just be easier to find a job, rather than have two court hearings over the same thing. The Ex made some comments about not having any money, then told the kids that Boyfriend was taking them to see a movie when they got back to New City (I'm so poor I'm going to the theater. Got it.)
We had a hearing in February. The Ex was still trying to get her child support lowered because she had been "unable" to work while pregnant. Since she had a pending motion filed, Our Attorney sent a subpoena for her work information and found out that The Ex was earning almost $3/hour more than when the last child support order had been set. We filed a counter-motion to increase child support and requesting that The Ex help pay variable expenses (The Ex and Husband have what our state calls "shared placement" which means the non-custodial parent has the children more than 25% of the time. In shared placement cases, child support is based on both parents' income and how much time each parent has the child; in some cases, the custodial parent may even have to pay support to the non-custodial parent. The Ex was paying less than $70/week for two kids, but she still refused to help pay for anything - snow pants, school supplies, extracurricular activities, etc.)
The commissioner listened to both sides, took everything into account, did the calculations. The Ex would get a $160 credit toward her child support arrears (Which put a little dent in it, but not much), ordered The Ex to pay 33% of variable expenses and increased child support to $92/week. Attorney 3 requested that all receipts be submitted by mail so that neither party could argue they didn't receive the receipt; we agreed that was best and it was put into the order. The hearing was adjourned, The Ex told Attorney 3 thank you and had a huge smile on her face. We left the courthouse and Our Attorney said, "She got $160 credit and it probably cost her more than $160 to have [Attorney 3] show up here today." I said I didn't think The Ex realized what had just happened; she was in much too good of a mood. Yes, she got her credit but her support went up almost $25/week; in six weeks, she would pay to Husband everything that she had gotten as a credit.
The same day of the hearing, Son asked me if The Ex had told Husband that she was moving. I said no, she hadn't mentioned anything to us. Son said that The Ex and Boyfriend were moving to a trailer "because it's cheaper." (The Ex and Boyfriend had a 3-bedroom apartment, so I suppose with four kids, they would need more space. It made sense.)
One weekend, Husband told The Ex that he had some receipts he was going to email to her. The Ex said her email didn't work (The Ex had asked the kids' therapists office to email her some paperwork two weeks prior. Now Husband wants to email something, and magically her email "doesn't work." This was not the first, nor was it the last time that The Ex has done this about her email) Husband sent the receipt by email anyway; a few days later, The Ex gave him a few dollars toward it.
About a month after the hearing, we went to pick up the kids. The Ex and the kids were gone, but her parents, two of her uncles and Boyfriend were at the trailer. The Ex showed up with the kids and handed Husband a receipt for shoes (She had spent $95 on two pairs of shoes and thought Husband was going to reimburse her for 67% of it. HA.) Husband brings me the receipt and says, "I thought shoes weren't part of variable expenses." I said they were not, the commissioner specifically stated that and it was in the order. Also, the order read that any purchases over $75 were to be discussed prior to them being made. I pulled up the order on my phone, Husband walked back to The Ex and told her he wasn't going to be giving her any money. The Ex began yelling at him, saying the kids needed shoes and he was supposed to pay for them. Husband told her shoes weren't covered and she should have talked to him about this; we were going to take the kids shoe shopping on the way home. The Ex continued yelling that the kids needed shoes and that Husband needed to reimburse her.
Husband said he wasn't paying for the shoes and started walking away. The Ex yelled that the kids were going to play sports in Hometown this year. Husband asked when they had discussed that; The Ex said Husband had verbally agreed to it. Husband said no, he had not agreed to this. The Ex continued to insist that Husband had agreed to this and that was where the kids were going to play. Husband told her it wasn't discussed and he hadn't agreed to it, and we left before there was more arguing. (A few days later, I noticed on the court website that hearing had been scheduled. I figured it was over the shoes and we just laughed)
April rolled around. I got a phone call from the doctor saying that The Ex's insurance hadn't worked for Son's physical exam. When The Ex came to pick up the kids that Friday, Husband told her he would need a new insurance card. The Ex said she couldn't get one; Husband asked why. The Ex said she had gotten fired (What. The. Hell.) Husband asked when this had happened; The Ex said almost two months prior (It was just over a month) I had to then call the dentist, because the kids had fillings put in sometime in March; the dentist checked, called me back and said The Ex's coverage had been terminated at the end of February. (So you know, don't tell us that your insurance isn't any good anymore. Just let us take the kids in assuming the bill will get paid in full between our insurance and yours. I swear she has got brain damage.)
A few days later, The Ex called Husband about a dental bill for Daughter. The Ex was arguing the amount she had to pay (The bill showed the starting balance, what the insurance paid, the half that Husband paid and what the remaining balance was. The Ex was trying to say she owed only half of the remaining balance, not that the remaining balance was her half of the bill.) Three weeks later, The Ex calls Husband and says she wants the dentist's phone number because she "never saw a statement." (I personally handed her a copy of this bill in August 2011. A process server gave her paperwork containing the bill in October 2011. Husband emailed her the bill in February 2012. She left a message three weeks prior saying that she got a copy of the bill from Attorney 3. Now, she "never saw a copy"?! She either has to be crazy or on drugs. Normal people do not function like this.) Two days later, The Ex gave Husband a check from Boyfriend's account for the dental bill (The one that she "never saw"). After we left, she called Husband and left a message asking him to hold the check for a few days until Boyfriend got paid.
Two weeks later, The Ex picked up the kids on Friday. She asked Husband if he was "ready" for Monday. Husband said he didn't know what she was talking about. The Ex said they had court Monday morning; Husband said he had never gotten any paperwork. The Ex went on a rant about Attorney 3 being "worthless," saying she had "been after him since she got fired" and that he had told her "everything was taken care of." (It's hard to say if Attorney 3 was either blowing off The Ex because she wasn't paying him, or if he really was just an idiot. Either way, she signed the paperwork in March - he didn't file it until June.) Husband asked if The Ex was returning to work and she said yes. Husband pointed out that if she was going back to work, we'd have to go back to court to recalculate support anyway; it might just be easier to find a job, rather than have two court hearings over the same thing. The Ex made some comments about not having any money, then told the kids that Boyfriend was taking them to see a movie when they got back to New City (I'm so poor I'm going to the theater. Got it.)
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