Easter 2011
The Ex called Husband on Thursday night at almost 6pm, left him a message asking to call her back. Husband didn't get the message until later, so The Ex called him again a little after 9pm. The Ex said she wanted to pick the kids up in the morning. Husband told her no, they had school. The Ex said, "Well, I know a lot of kids that go to parochial school (Name one. I dare you.) and they all have off tomorrow." (This is how uninvolved she is with her children's school. She assumes they have Good Friday off, calls the night before and wants to change the schedule because she doesn't realize that they do, in fact, have school) Husband repeated that the kids had school so they could not be picked up in the morning.
Easter Sunday, Husband called The Ex around 4:20pm to find out if the kids were getting picked up at her place in New City or at her parents' place in Hometown; The Ex said they could get picked up in New City and then said the kids wanted to spend the night. Husband told her no, we had already left our family and were headed over there (Again, The Ex wants to change the schedule at the last second. This works for some people and that's fine; it doesn't work for our family.) We showed up at the exchange time and The Ex was outside with the kids; when we pulled into the driveway, she sent them into the house to change out of "her" clothes for them. Husband waited until the kids were inside and then told The Ex he was getting upset having to wait every weekend because she never had the kids ready when we got there. The Ex complained that Husband never called her to say that he was almost there. (...huh?) Husband told The Ex he shouldn't have to call her; the exchange time had been the same for 6 years. The Ex said, "Can't you just give me a break?!" Husband told The Ex that he was constantly giving her a break and was tired of waiting for her to get the kids ready; The Ex walked inside. (This should have been the end of it, but of course, it was not)
We must have driven through a no-reception area, because Husband's phone never rang but an hour later he had a message from The Ex's mom. Her mom was saying that both Husband and The Ex take everything out on the kids (Whaaat?) and the kids were having a good time and wanted to stay the night (That's good and well, but things don't always work out that way). Then her mom says that all The Ex and Husband do when they see each other is "fight, fight, fight and these kids think it's their fault." (We have never once told the kids that anything was their fault. Husband will not argue with The Ex in front of the kids so that this exact situation can be avoided; in fact, Husband and I won't even speak poorly of her when the kids are around because that's not something the kids need to hear. The Ex, however, takes every opportunity to tell the kids how terrible both Husband and I are and lies constantly about what we say and do.) Then the mom says she knows Husband isn't answering because he knows it's her (Actually, it's because he didn't have any reception but whatever) and goes on about how The Ex and Husband make the kids feel so bad (How, exactly? Pinpoint specifically what Husband does that makes the kids feel "so bad"), and that it's not the kids fault that The Ex and Husband are no longer together (Of course it isn't; that was never even a thought. And by the way, where is this coming from?? Are you quoting some therapist's book? The Ex and Husband have been divorced for almost 6 years and have both gotten remarried. There is absolutely no regret, at least not from Husband's end, about this divorce) Husband called The Ex's mom back, told her that he wasn't ignoring her, explained what happened, that he hadn't said anything to The Ex when the kids were present and explained why he had been upset.
The next day, The Ex called to "talk to the kids." When she was on the phone, she asked them "how their Easter with their dad was." (We picked them up at 6pm, got home at almost 7:30pm, the kids' bedtime was 8pm. Uh yeah...that half hour of "Easter" was a blast.)
Easter Sunday, Husband called The Ex around 4:20pm to find out if the kids were getting picked up at her place in New City or at her parents' place in Hometown; The Ex said they could get picked up in New City and then said the kids wanted to spend the night. Husband told her no, we had already left our family and were headed over there (Again, The Ex wants to change the schedule at the last second. This works for some people and that's fine; it doesn't work for our family.) We showed up at the exchange time and The Ex was outside with the kids; when we pulled into the driveway, she sent them into the house to change out of "her" clothes for them. Husband waited until the kids were inside and then told The Ex he was getting upset having to wait every weekend because she never had the kids ready when we got there. The Ex complained that Husband never called her to say that he was almost there. (...huh?) Husband told The Ex he shouldn't have to call her; the exchange time had been the same for 6 years. The Ex said, "Can't you just give me a break?!" Husband told The Ex that he was constantly giving her a break and was tired of waiting for her to get the kids ready; The Ex walked inside. (This should have been the end of it, but of course, it was not)
We must have driven through a no-reception area, because Husband's phone never rang but an hour later he had a message from The Ex's mom. Her mom was saying that both Husband and The Ex take everything out on the kids (Whaaat?) and the kids were having a good time and wanted to stay the night (That's good and well, but things don't always work out that way). Then her mom says that all The Ex and Husband do when they see each other is "fight, fight, fight and these kids think it's their fault." (We have never once told the kids that anything was their fault. Husband will not argue with The Ex in front of the kids so that this exact situation can be avoided; in fact, Husband and I won't even speak poorly of her when the kids are around because that's not something the kids need to hear. The Ex, however, takes every opportunity to tell the kids how terrible both Husband and I are and lies constantly about what we say and do.) Then the mom says she knows Husband isn't answering because he knows it's her (Actually, it's because he didn't have any reception but whatever) and goes on about how The Ex and Husband make the kids feel so bad (How, exactly? Pinpoint specifically what Husband does that makes the kids feel "so bad"), and that it's not the kids fault that The Ex and Husband are no longer together (Of course it isn't; that was never even a thought. And by the way, where is this coming from?? Are you quoting some therapist's book? The Ex and Husband have been divorced for almost 6 years and have both gotten remarried. There is absolutely no regret, at least not from Husband's end, about this divorce) Husband called The Ex's mom back, told her that he wasn't ignoring her, explained what happened, that he hadn't said anything to The Ex when the kids were present and explained why he had been upset.
The next day, The Ex called to "talk to the kids." When she was on the phone, she asked them "how their Easter with their dad was." (We picked them up at 6pm, got home at almost 7:30pm, the kids' bedtime was 8pm. Uh yeah...that half hour of "Easter" was a blast.)
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