Disorderly Conduct
As I've said earlier, Husband and The Ex had a constant cycle - they got along, then they would fight, they'd split up, they'd get back together, repeat. When this particular incident happened, they were separated but not divorced. In fact, The Ex didn't file for divorce the second time for another year and half after this incident. But anyway...
Two officers were dispatched; Husband had called the police and said his soon to be ex-wife had come to his place of employment and was causing a disturbance. As the officers were on their way, Husband told dispatch they were going to be moving outside so they wouldn't disturb business. When they arrived, the noted a truck parked directly behind Husband's car. The Ex said that Husband had stolen her glasses and pushed her; she said all she wanted was her property out of their car.
Husband told the first officer that had was at work when The Ex showed up and tried going into his car to steal things out of it. The officer asked why The Ex would do this; Husband said they were divorcing and that The Ex had done this in the past and this was why his car was parked in front of the building, where Husband could see it. The officer asked if Husband had taken The Ex's glasses and why; Husband said he did so because he wanted his car key back. Husband said he and The Ex were not living together, he was the only person who drove the vehicle and he wanted the key back because The Ex did not need it; Husband said once The Ex gave him the key, he would give her glasses back. (I told Husband to his face this was childish and stupid; he has grown up immensely since then)
The officer asked what else had happened; Husband said The Ex had come into the building, went behind the counter and was screaming at Husband. Husband said this was when they had gone outside because he did not want to get fired for having The Ex in the store making a scene while Husband was trying to help customers.
The officer went inside to speak to one of Husband's co-workers, who said she had seen Husband go outside because The Ex had shown up and was trying to get into Husband's car. The co-worker said The Ex had been in the store and that she had come around the corner of the counter and was screaming at Husband; the co-worker said she wasn't sure what The Ex was yelling because she was yelling so loudly. (Sounds like a mentally stable woman, doesn't it?)
The second officer informed the first officer that The Ex was claiming Husband had shoved her against her truck. The first officer asked Husband, who said that when he had come outside, The Ex had taken off running to give his car key to her sister; Husband ran after her and when they reached The Ex's truck, he crashed into her. Husband said he didn't do it intentionally, but he stumbled into The Ex because of the short stopping distance; Husband said he would never hit The Ex (Which is the truth. He has never hit a woman in his life)
The second officer spoke to The Ex, who said she was trying to get car seats out of Husband's car and wanted anything else that was hers. The Ex said that she was trying to get into Husband's car with the spare key, when he came running out of the store and knocked her backward into her truck; The Ex said Husband had her in a bear hug and was trying to get the key from her. The Ex said that when Husband couldn't get the key, he grabbed her glasses off of her face and scratched her. The officer noted he examined The Ex's face and did not find any marks where she was saying she had gotten scratched. At this point, Husband told The Ex he was going to call the police, and she told him to go ahead. The Ex said she followed Husband inside and got permission from Husband's co-worker to come behind the counter (No, you didn't) and that she was talking to Husband trying to get her glasses back ("Talking" is very different from "yelling so loudly that I couldn't understand her," which is what a third party stated you were doing. You were not "talking"). At this point, both Husband and The Ex were placed under arrest for disorderly conduct. The Ex told the second officer that she and Husband had been arguing earlier in the day about money from their tax return.
At the station, Husband told the first officer that he and The Ex had gotten their federal tax refund check and they had to cash it together. Husband said the agreement was that the check would be split; when he got his money, he gave her $700 and told her it was money that he owed to her dad. While at the bank, The Ex began demanding rent money; Husband argued that he didn't live with The Ex anymore but would give her half the rent because his name was on the lease. The Ex started making a scene, saying she wanted Husband to pay the entire month's rent because she couldn't afford it. (Once again, it's all about money with her) Husband said he gave her the money just to make her stop nagging him; Husband said then The Ex started verbally abusing him (The report didn't go into detail but this doesn't surprise me; The Ex tells Husband on a regular basis that he is "a piece of sh*t" or that he's a bad parent. This usually comes after she's not getting her way over something) and said she wasn't going to give her dad the $700 that Husband had just asked her to give him, and that her dad would sue Husband for the $700 he owed. Husband told the officer that he and The Ex argued at the bank for awhile and he was upset because he had just lost his refund.
Husband said he went back to work and noticed that The Ex was parked behind his vehicle. Husband went outside, The Ex told him to call the cops so he did. Husband acknowledged taking The Ex's glasses because she would not give him the key to his car. Husband said The Ex had come into the building, screaming and yelling at him, and walked behind the counter; Husband said he walked out of the building to get The Ex to follow him, since she was causing a scene and he didn't want to lose his job.
During this, Husband told the officer he wouldn't be surprised to see his car keyed within the next week. The officer asked why Husband would say this. Husband said after he and The Ex had broken up, his car had broken down and a friend borrowed him a car; when The Ex found out Husband was driving another woman's car, she had keyed it during the time that Husband was driving it (I can't remember for sure, but I think The Ex admitted to Husband later on that it was her that had done this. Her sister later told me of a time The Ex keyed a stranger's vehicle at the zoo because they had taken "her" parking spot. Whether or not The Ex confessed to it, it's completely believable that she was the one who had done this.)
Then came The Ex's side of this story (It goes without saying, but her version was very different from Husband's version) When the police arrived, The Ex said that she and Husband were separated and she was waiting to fulfill a residency requirement so she could file for divorce. The Ex said she was trying to get her belongings out of Husband's car using the spare key; she said Husband had come running outside, knocked her into her truck, was wrestling with her and was trying to get the key from her (If someone knocked you into your truck, was wrestling with you and trying to get a key, wouldn't you just give them the stupid key?) The Ex said that when Husband could not get the key from her, he grabbed the glasses off of her face and scratched her in the process; the officer noted they examined The Ex's face and could not see any sort of mark in the area where The Ex was indicating she was scratched but The Ex said it caused her some pain when it happened (I will elaborate on the absolute hypocrisy of this woman in a bit)
The Ex said that she and Husband were arguing outside, Husband said he was going to call the police and she told him to go ahead and do it. The Ex said Husband went inside and she followed him; The Ex said while he was on the phone with the police, she went behind the counter with permission from one of Husband's co-workers and was talking to Husband trying to get her glasses back (Not even remotely close to the version of events that Husband's co-worker gave to the police) The Ex signed a victim form stating she received bodily injury in the form of "being scratched in the face and pushed into a vehicle" and that she had not consented to this.
The Ex completed a domestic abuse victim worksheet. The Ex indicated that Husband had pushed, shoved and scratched her an estimated four times and that it was intentional. The Ex said this caused her to suffer pain at the time it occurred and that she was afraid Husband would continue to harm her. The Ex listed her cousin and her sister as witnesses to the battery.
What happened in The Ex's words: (This is copied word for word, exactly as she wrote it)
"I had the key in the door and as soon as I seen him coming I moved away and he was swearing and pushed me aginst (Not an error on my part) the truck and we started struggling. Then he grabbed me with one arm swaying me back and forth and with the other hand he was trying to grab the keys from my other hand. My sister came around the car and started yelling at to leave me alone. That's when he grabbed my glasses off my face and as he did so - he scratched me on my face between eye and nose." (I feel bad for her. I really, really do. She thinks this sounds informative and educated. No punctuation, run-on sentences, "I seen him coming." My head hurts.)
Despite her attempts to blame this on Husband and lie about her own actions, Husband was released. The Ex was charged with disorderly conduct; she was fingerprinted and photographed at the jail.
Now let's take this incident into consideration as we fast-forward to five and a half years later. The Ex and Boyfriend are fighting; Boyfriend is drunk. Boyfriend pushes The Ex on their bed; The Ex shoves Boyfriend off of her; Boyfriend swings at The Ex, twice, and hits her in the side of the face; The Ex tells the police that she "doesn't want to make a big deal out of this."
Are you comprehending the level of insanity here? The Ex shows up at Husband's work while they are separated, tries stealing things out of his car, refuses to give him his car key back; in return, she lies and says Husband pushed and scratched her. Boyfriend hits her in the face; The Ex "doesn't want to make a big deal" out of it.
I don't remember when exactly, but I do know Husband and I were already together. Husband and The Ex were on the phone when disorderly conduct came up; The Ex told Husband, "It's your fault I have that on my record."
She was serious.
Two officers were dispatched; Husband had called the police and said his soon to be ex-wife had come to his place of employment and was causing a disturbance. As the officers were on their way, Husband told dispatch they were going to be moving outside so they wouldn't disturb business. When they arrived, the noted a truck parked directly behind Husband's car. The Ex said that Husband had stolen her glasses and pushed her; she said all she wanted was her property out of their car.
Husband told the first officer that had was at work when The Ex showed up and tried going into his car to steal things out of it. The officer asked why The Ex would do this; Husband said they were divorcing and that The Ex had done this in the past and this was why his car was parked in front of the building, where Husband could see it. The officer asked if Husband had taken The Ex's glasses and why; Husband said he did so because he wanted his car key back. Husband said he and The Ex were not living together, he was the only person who drove the vehicle and he wanted the key back because The Ex did not need it; Husband said once The Ex gave him the key, he would give her glasses back. (I told Husband to his face this was childish and stupid; he has grown up immensely since then)
The officer asked what else had happened; Husband said The Ex had come into the building, went behind the counter and was screaming at Husband. Husband said this was when they had gone outside because he did not want to get fired for having The Ex in the store making a scene while Husband was trying to help customers.
The officer went inside to speak to one of Husband's co-workers, who said she had seen Husband go outside because The Ex had shown up and was trying to get into Husband's car. The co-worker said The Ex had been in the store and that she had come around the corner of the counter and was screaming at Husband; the co-worker said she wasn't sure what The Ex was yelling because she was yelling so loudly. (Sounds like a mentally stable woman, doesn't it?)
The second officer informed the first officer that The Ex was claiming Husband had shoved her against her truck. The first officer asked Husband, who said that when he had come outside, The Ex had taken off running to give his car key to her sister; Husband ran after her and when they reached The Ex's truck, he crashed into her. Husband said he didn't do it intentionally, but he stumbled into The Ex because of the short stopping distance; Husband said he would never hit The Ex (Which is the truth. He has never hit a woman in his life)
The second officer spoke to The Ex, who said she was trying to get car seats out of Husband's car and wanted anything else that was hers. The Ex said that she was trying to get into Husband's car with the spare key, when he came running out of the store and knocked her backward into her truck; The Ex said Husband had her in a bear hug and was trying to get the key from her. The Ex said that when Husband couldn't get the key, he grabbed her glasses off of her face and scratched her. The officer noted he examined The Ex's face and did not find any marks where she was saying she had gotten scratched. At this point, Husband told The Ex he was going to call the police, and she told him to go ahead. The Ex said she followed Husband inside and got permission from Husband's co-worker to come behind the counter (No, you didn't) and that she was talking to Husband trying to get her glasses back ("Talking" is very different from "yelling so loudly that I couldn't understand her," which is what a third party stated you were doing. You were not "talking"). At this point, both Husband and The Ex were placed under arrest for disorderly conduct. The Ex told the second officer that she and Husband had been arguing earlier in the day about money from their tax return.
At the station, Husband told the first officer that he and The Ex had gotten their federal tax refund check and they had to cash it together. Husband said the agreement was that the check would be split; when he got his money, he gave her $700 and told her it was money that he owed to her dad. While at the bank, The Ex began demanding rent money; Husband argued that he didn't live with The Ex anymore but would give her half the rent because his name was on the lease. The Ex started making a scene, saying she wanted Husband to pay the entire month's rent because she couldn't afford it. (Once again, it's all about money with her) Husband said he gave her the money just to make her stop nagging him; Husband said then The Ex started verbally abusing him (The report didn't go into detail but this doesn't surprise me; The Ex tells Husband on a regular basis that he is "a piece of sh*t" or that he's a bad parent. This usually comes after she's not getting her way over something) and said she wasn't going to give her dad the $700 that Husband had just asked her to give him, and that her dad would sue Husband for the $700 he owed. Husband told the officer that he and The Ex argued at the bank for awhile and he was upset because he had just lost his refund.
Husband said he went back to work and noticed that The Ex was parked behind his vehicle. Husband went outside, The Ex told him to call the cops so he did. Husband acknowledged taking The Ex's glasses because she would not give him the key to his car. Husband said The Ex had come into the building, screaming and yelling at him, and walked behind the counter; Husband said he walked out of the building to get The Ex to follow him, since she was causing a scene and he didn't want to lose his job.
During this, Husband told the officer he wouldn't be surprised to see his car keyed within the next week. The officer asked why Husband would say this. Husband said after he and The Ex had broken up, his car had broken down and a friend borrowed him a car; when The Ex found out Husband was driving another woman's car, she had keyed it during the time that Husband was driving it (I can't remember for sure, but I think The Ex admitted to Husband later on that it was her that had done this. Her sister later told me of a time The Ex keyed a stranger's vehicle at the zoo because they had taken "her" parking spot. Whether or not The Ex confessed to it, it's completely believable that she was the one who had done this.)
Then came The Ex's side of this story (It goes without saying, but her version was very different from Husband's version) When the police arrived, The Ex said that she and Husband were separated and she was waiting to fulfill a residency requirement so she could file for divorce. The Ex said she was trying to get her belongings out of Husband's car using the spare key; she said Husband had come running outside, knocked her into her truck, was wrestling with her and was trying to get the key from her (If someone knocked you into your truck, was wrestling with you and trying to get a key, wouldn't you just give them the stupid key?) The Ex said that when Husband could not get the key from her, he grabbed the glasses off of her face and scratched her in the process; the officer noted they examined The Ex's face and could not see any sort of mark in the area where The Ex was indicating she was scratched but The Ex said it caused her some pain when it happened (I will elaborate on the absolute hypocrisy of this woman in a bit)
The Ex said that she and Husband were arguing outside, Husband said he was going to call the police and she told him to go ahead and do it. The Ex said Husband went inside and she followed him; The Ex said while he was on the phone with the police, she went behind the counter with permission from one of Husband's co-workers and was talking to Husband trying to get her glasses back (Not even remotely close to the version of events that Husband's co-worker gave to the police) The Ex signed a victim form stating she received bodily injury in the form of "being scratched in the face and pushed into a vehicle" and that she had not consented to this.
The Ex completed a domestic abuse victim worksheet. The Ex indicated that Husband had pushed, shoved and scratched her an estimated four times and that it was intentional. The Ex said this caused her to suffer pain at the time it occurred and that she was afraid Husband would continue to harm her. The Ex listed her cousin and her sister as witnesses to the battery.
What happened in The Ex's words: (This is copied word for word, exactly as she wrote it)
"I had the key in the door and as soon as I seen him coming I moved away and he was swearing and pushed me aginst (Not an error on my part) the truck and we started struggling. Then he grabbed me with one arm swaying me back and forth and with the other hand he was trying to grab the keys from my other hand. My sister came around the car and started yelling at to leave me alone. That's when he grabbed my glasses off my face and as he did so - he scratched me on my face between eye and nose." (I feel bad for her. I really, really do. She thinks this sounds informative and educated. No punctuation, run-on sentences, "I seen him coming." My head hurts.)
Despite her attempts to blame this on Husband and lie about her own actions, Husband was released. The Ex was charged with disorderly conduct; she was fingerprinted and photographed at the jail.
Now let's take this incident into consideration as we fast-forward to five and a half years later. The Ex and Boyfriend are fighting; Boyfriend is drunk. Boyfriend pushes The Ex on their bed; The Ex shoves Boyfriend off of her; Boyfriend swings at The Ex, twice, and hits her in the side of the face; The Ex tells the police that she "doesn't want to make a big deal out of this."
Are you comprehending the level of insanity here? The Ex shows up at Husband's work while they are separated, tries stealing things out of his car, refuses to give him his car key back; in return, she lies and says Husband pushed and scratched her. Boyfriend hits her in the face; The Ex "doesn't want to make a big deal" out of it.
I don't remember when exactly, but I do know Husband and I were already together. Husband and The Ex were on the phone when disorderly conduct came up; The Ex told Husband, "It's your fault I have that on my record."
She was serious.
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