You've Got Mail
Husband started emailing The Ex in September 2009, yet The Ex did not send an email to Husband until October 15, 2012. Husband had emailed her about her son's birthday party; the email had no subject. The Ex acknowledged this email to a police officer, but didn't immediately reply. The Ex and Husband talked on the phone about the party; a couple of days later, The Ex and Husband talked on the phone again about her kids' baptisms. Husband told her that he didn't know if he'd be able to get Son and Daughter to the baptism because of the time it was scheduled at and his work schedule. After hanging up, The Ex replied to Husband's email and added the subject "Re: Birthday Party/Baptism"
"[Husband],
Thanks for bringing [Son] and [Daughter] to [The Ex's son] birthday party. It meant a lot; not only to me but to [Son] and [Daughter] and the rest of the family. (Okay, so this is going good so far. She's being nice) I have never had to rush a birthday in just 1 hour because you wanted to leave. (Aaaand, there it is. By the way, we were there at least 2 hours and had to drive home yet. Sorry you're inconvenienced by the fact that you chose to move an hour and half away, you threw a birthday party at mid-afternoon and I was nice enough to volunteer to bring the kids to the party for their brother. Sorry that wasn't good enough for you.) I wanted [Son] and [Daughter] to be a part of the party so we rushed every thing for you. (Never asked you to rush anything. In fact, you didn't say a word to us the entire time we were there) I appreciated you brought the kids, I wish I was able to spend more time with them. (This was in the middle of us withholding placement. We brought the kids to the party so they could celebrate their brother's birthday and get to see everyone. Remember this, it comes up in the last paragraph) I do wish the kids could have stayed longer here for the party, longer than 1 hour, Do (*due) to the fact that I have not had our kids for the last 5 weeks as ordered in the current custody agreement. They didn't even seem like themselves. [Daughter's] friend was here and she wouldn't even play with her and that is not like her. (Not true. Daughter was playing tag with some other kids. This is just The Ex being dramatic and trying to make Husband look like a jerk) To every body here, it seemed like the kids were afraid to do any thing because they didn't want to upset you. (Right, because we stayed outside the whole time. I wish she'd stop beating this ridiculous drum about the kids being "scared" of Husband, it's so old and worn out)
The phone conversation that we had on Friday the 12th. (This is not a complete sentence. I don't think she knew that.) I also stated that we were having a Baptism for [The Ex's daughter and son]. It will be held on this Wednesday the 17th. at 6pm. (maybe @5:45-5:55, just because the Father has another appt. at 6:30 after the baptism). (Now the time is earlier, after Husband already told her it would be hard for him to get there at 6pm)
[Name of church]
[Address of church]
[New City, our state]
[Zip code way over here for no reason]
You had stated that it is important to have [Son] and [Daughter] here for their siblings. I do hope you bring the kids because this is a very important part in all of our lives. This only happens just once like turning 1 does. You did say also that you would try. (They had literally just gotten off of the phone and Husband told her he would if he could, but he didn't know if they could make it) Please Try for all the children's sake.
On another subject, I have been trying to call the kids both on [Son's] phone and on your phone. I have yet to have my calls returned by our children. (She called that night, once on each phone. Husband called her back, told her he forgot his phone in the car and the kids were already in bed.) You did state that the kids were grounded and [Son] didn't have his phone. (Husband told her that Son was grounded from his phone. Husband did not say both kids were grounded) That is why I've been trying on your phone as well. I miss my kids(Her kids, not "our" kids) very much and it hurts more than you know to not be able to talk to them. You have kept them from me for over a month now and seeing them at the birthday party was just so fast. I was in the kitchen most of the time. (THERE it is. She misses them, but when she had the opportunity to spend time with them, she chose not to) There wasn't much time with them but to say Hi and give hugs and kisses and tell them I love them and miss them. (Did she not just say twice at the beginning of the email that the kids were there for an hour?) And then they were gone. I would hope we would be able to resolve this in a calm matter, this is not only hurting me but [Son] and [Daughter] and their siblings. Every body here could see that the kids were hurting and upset. (That must be why Daughter's teacher stopped us in the hallway and said this was her best year so far) My daughter [name here] as well. (Again, this is not a complete sentence.) She is old enough, and keeps asking for me to go and pick up [Son] and [Daughter]. This is an example of how your arrangement is upsetting and hurting every one. (An example of how you are upsetting and hurting everyone would be moving in with and marrying an alcoholic. I find our behavior to be the lesser of two evils)
[The Ex]"
Husband replied to this, went through each paragraph and corrected what The Ex had said.
Six days after this email, Husband got a reply to an email he had sent in April. It was blank with the exception of the signature: "Sent from my U.S. Cellular® Android-powered phone" (So now we have proof that The Ex does, in fact, have a smartphone with Internet capability)
Husband continued to email The Ex; she would not reply, even though she had a smartphone. She called Husband one day and asked if he would bring the kids to her family's Christmas party. Husband asked when and where the party was; The Ex said it was at her sister's house. Husband said he would let her know. A day or two later, The Ex's sister sent Husband a text asking if she could take the kids to the party - this was the same sister that The Ex had said was hosting the party. Husband sent The Ex an email asking what was going on, then texted her and asked her to read his email and reply to it. The Ex emailed Husband for the second time on January 4, 2013 (Exactly one day before her family was having their party):
"I have told you repeatedly that I do not have email and/or texting plan. (Right, that's why Husband got an email from you that said it was sent from an Android) How clearer do I have to be about this. (I don't know, but you could attempt to use proper English and punctuation. That might help you "be clearer") I have to drive across town to my cousins to look at this (With your Android) and she needs to leave to work soon. Nonsense if you ask me.
Being confused is your fault and you need to pay more attention. (It's all my Husband's fault)
The Ex did not email Husband for two months after that. Husband emailed her saying that the kids wanted to play baseball and that Son wanted to play football in School City; The Ex didn't reply. Husband emailed The Ex about a class trip and school fundraiser; The Ex didn't reply.
Husband finally got an answer when he told The Ex that Son was not going to be able to use his phone; we found out that he was doing things with it that he shouldn't have been doing, and that some kid who is somehow related to Boyfriend had shown him how to do it. Husband told The Ex that this had happened last year and we found out that Son had done it again the entire weekend he was at The Ex's house. Husband said if The Ex wanted to talk to the kids, she could call Husband's phone. The Ex replied:
"I got your email about [Son]. [Boyfriend] and I will be talking to [the other kid's] mom about this (I didn't understand why Boyfriend had to go talk to the other kid's mom, but then I realized that since The Ex can't speak Spanish, she needed Boyfriend there to translate) and if [Son] does get his phone back he will not be taking it with him any time he is with them.
If [Son] has done this before I suggest he have a regular phone. Not a smart phone were (*where) he can have the internet. (Although it probably shouldn't have, this irritated me. We pay for the phone; we pay for the data whether it's being used or not. If you want to suggest anything, maybe you should suggest to yourself that you keep a little bit better eye on your kids because Son doesn't do this when he's home with us.)
I didn't notice he was on his phone that much. (Son always has his phone with him. ALWAYS.) He must have done that late at night. (What bearing does that have on any of this?) Most of the day on Sat. we were out and I didn't see him on the phone but to answer it. (Yeah, because he's totally going to do this when you're standing next to him. Idiot.)
Call me if you want. (About what, exactly?)
[The Ex]"
Three weeks later, Husband and The Ex had worked out a stipulation for her to get make-up days for the days we had withheld placement. Husband emailed The Ex to ask if they could rearrange a pick-up day/time because Baby Girl had her ballet recital; he also let The Ex know about the school play that both Son and Daughter were going to be in. The Ex acknowledged on Husband's voicemail that she got the email, but didn't reply until 5 days after Husband first posed the question:
"Yes we do have plans that day, that is why I was willing to use one of my make up days for this day. I do know how it feels not to have all the kids together for one of the other kids activities that is why I can't change this (This should have been two sentences. Why is this so hard for her?) [The Ex's daughter] has a school play she is in. I believe that [Son and Daughter] has (*have) missed out on a lot of my family get togethers (You have them 67% of their weekends; how have they missed out on "a lot of your family get togethers"? Make plans for the weekends you know that you have them.) and I am willing to work with you on a later date (so long as we don't have plans) (What she was really saying was, "I'm going to write in this email that I'll work with you, just don't expect me to actually do it.") so [Son and Daughter] can see her sister ("Son and Daughter can see her sister." .....sigh.) in ballet. I'm sorry they will be missing her first one. You know I will work with you. (This was inserted just because The Ex wants everyone to believe that she is flexible when in fact, the typical response from her is, "You never work with me so I'm not going to work with you." Now, she writes fourteen thousand times that Husband KNOWS she will work with him.)
Also thanks for letting me know about their play. I had already called the school about it (Yet she can't call the school for anything else. Interesting.) and let Mom and Dad know. We will be there for the play and the kids will leave with me.
On another note the kids sing for church this Friday @ 1:30pm. I would like to go see them. (Then go see them) I am asking if I could please leave with them right after that is over. I don't know what Me (Why is "me" capitalized in the middle of the sentence??) and [The Ex's daughter and Son] would do until 5pm. Please, I want to do more with them and wish you will be ok with this. Please let me know? (Here, she uses a question mark.)
[The Ex]"
Husband emailed her back, said he rather she not pick the kids up early since it was her year for Easter and spring break. Husband said if The Ex wanted to use one of her make-up days for an early pick up that Friday, to let him know. The Ex didn't reply, nor did she come to see the kids sing.
Husband emailed The Ex for a second time about the kids playing baseball; he had emailed her over a month ago and she had never replied to it. Husband said he wanted to talk about it because the month before, she was arguing over paying for Daughter's basketball shoes claiming that she had never agreed to Daughter playing and was thereby not liable to contribute to the cost. The Ex replied:
"[Husband],
My attorney and I never said [Daughter] couldn't play basketball. (Your attorney's opinion has no bearing. Your attorney is not Daughter's parent.) What you sent me in an email was [Daughter] wants to play basketball and here's the schedule.
As per our court order we are to agree on extra curricular (Still one word) activities for both children. In this case nothing was agreed upon. (Except for the small fact that you were sent the basketball schedule two weeks before the first practice was even held, and you said nothing about objecting to it.)
And for talking to you (English. Please stick to English) about the kids and playing baseball I did try and talk to you at the gas station that one time we exchanged the kids. I was attempting to discuss the children's summer sports schedule (They haven't been signed up for anything so there is no schedule, you moron) and you had walked away. (Husband told her he wasn't going to argue with her in front of the kids and walked away. Husband did not ignore her while she was "attempting to discuss" any type of schedule with him) Since the children will be in my custody during the summer I asked them what sports and where they want to play. [Son] stated he wanted to play in [Hometown] with his cousin [name here]. [Daughter] stated she wanted to play baseball also but didn't care where. (Someone wrote this for her. She does not talk like this. Never has and never will.)
I will enroll them in [Hometown]. It would be more convenient for me to enroll them here in [New City], seeing that I have them primarily in the summer, but it is a half way point for both of us and is [Son's] wishes. (Oh, now she's suddenly worried about what Son wants. Never mind that Son told her he didn't want to move to New City, never mind that Son told her he didn't want her to marry Boyfriend - now, Son wants to play baseball with his cousin, so we need to do it!)
As for [Son] playing football he has stated to me that he would like to play in [Hometown] also with his cousin [name here again]. Which I am stating right now I am ok with this agreement. (This is not a sentence. How does she feel this is a complete sentence?) Again it is a half way point for both of us and it is [Son's] wishes.
[The Ex]"
Husband replied, told her he did not agree to the kids playing in Hometown because we could not get the kids to their games or practices. The Ex replied:
"[Husband]
I sent you an email last night about the kids playing sports. I see you also sent another receipt for lunch money. I just want to make it clear that when the kids have lunch and milk at school it is food and is considered a basic cost not a variable expense. I will not be paying for any school lunch or milk. Would you like to pay 67% of [Son's and Daughter's] lunches on weekends and for the summer? (We pay for 100% of their food regardless of where they are because you have no job and are on food stamps. But I bet you she thought this was extremely clever and that Husband would not have an answer for it.)
[The Ex]"
Husband replied, clarified that he had brought up the kids playing baseball, reminded her what the court order defined as variable expenses, told her again that he did not agree to the kids playing in Hometown and if this was going to be an argument then they would have to go back to court. The Ex replies:
"I have all the information for [Son and Daughter] to play in [Hometown]. (And Husband just emailed you twice, saying he does not agree to them playing there.) We need to sign them up before Sunday or we will have late fees added. ("We" will have nothing, because we're not signing them up in Hometown.)
The children are with me primarily in the summer and I know [Son] wants to play in [Hometown]. The children are with you primarily during the school year so we should allow the children to play sports in [Our City/School City] then. (Four months later, she told Husband by email that he didn't discuss Son playing football with her and that she didn't want him playing in School City)
You have deprived me of the kids for over 6 months (Actually, it was less than 5 months. But this woman told her son's 3rd grade teacher she was unable to help him do his math homework, so I suppose the fact that she got relatively close should count for something) and I know the only reason you want the kids to play closer to you is you want to deprive me of my summer with them. (I'm starting to think you're frequently deprived of oxygen) If the kids sign up over there in [Our City/School City] I won't see them because I can't afford to drive them over there 3-5 times a week if not more for practices and games. The only logical solution would be to enroll them in [Hometown] before it is too late.
I'm sending over what I have. [The Ex's sister] has been in contact with the league President and they do know we are planning to enroll both kids. (Why does she keep saying "we" when Husband has made it very clear he does not agree to this?)
I will be there to pick the kids up at 5pm
[The Ex]"
This was followed by a blank forward. Husband replied and told The Ex for the gazillionth time that he does not agree to the kids playing in Hometown, going through all the reasons why yet again because maybe she really wasn't understanding. Husband pointed out it was a 20-minute difference if she drove the kids to Hometown versus driving them to School City; if she could afford one, why not the other? The Ex ignored him.
Husband emailed The Ex four days later about the school play and sent another email about the kids playing baseball in School City. Husband said if he did not hear from her by the end of the week, he would assume this means she agreed to them playing in School City; this email was sent on a Tuesday.
The Ex waited until the following Monday and sent:
"[Husband],
I still think I should be the one to sign the kids up for the summer sports being that I have them primarily in the summer. Baseball didn't even come up for the kids until I mentioned if they wanted to play in [Hometown]. That is why the kids asked you if they could play baseball. (Actually, baseball came up when the kids got done with school on a Wednesday in early March, handed me a sheet for baseball sign up and they both said they wanted to play. You were never a part of it when "baseball came up.")
Don't get me wrong but I want the kids to play baseball. (But only on your terms) We do have a problem with agreeing where the kids should play. You want the kids to play closer to you because it would be convenient for you. (Never mind that their family, friends, school and life are here. Nope, only reason is because it's easier for Husband. Yuuup, you've got him pegged) I would like the kids to play in [Hometown] because [Son] won't only be playing with [cousin's name again] but it is a half way point for both of us. Yes you have a job and I don't but then you have money for gas and traveling and I don't.
If the kids are to play where you want them to play,
1. Do not expect me to take them to practices that interfere with my placement time. Due to the fact that I would not be able to drive them to all of their practices
2. I will drive them to their games. (Attorney 4 later claimed that The Ex did not want to pay for baseball expenses because nothing was agreed upon. I reminded her about this email; she dropped that argument.)
I believe this is fair for the children and for both of us (It's fair to The Ex. That's it.) The kids already told me [my name, incorrectly spelled once again] took them to sign up for baseball and took them another day to pick out uniforms. (None of this ever happened. I have no idea where she comes up with this crap) You should never assume anything because look at where we are now because of your assuming (Actually, we're "here" because of your lack of communication)
[The Ex]"
The Ex did not email Husband for another six weeks after this.
After that last email, Husband emailed The Ex nine more times - asking for confirmation about baseball, giving her baseball schedules, asking about exchange times/places, giving her info about the school play, etc. The Ex didn't say a word. Then Husband emailed about baseball games; he wanted to know what The Ex wanted to do about getting the kids back and forth. The kids were supposed to go back to The Ex on Sunday night but Daughter had games Monday and Tuesday the following week, Son had games Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. Husband said if The Ex wanted, he could keep the kids through Wednesday and bring them back to The Ex that night. The Ex replies:
"[Husband],
I think you should bring the kids back to me Sunday and I will take the kids to [School City] on Monday so I can see one of the kids play. (Okay, that makes sense.) If I have to work late Monday then I can see you keeping them on Sunday being I would most likely have the kids there late. (Wait, what? You do or you don't have to work late on Monday? Why are the kids coming back to you Sunday night if you're working late on Monday?) I do believe I should have another make-up day in substitute for this coming Sunday, June 9th. (She says bring the kids back Sunday, then says she could see him keeping the kids Sunday if she had to work late Monday, then says she wants a make-up day for Sunday. What the actual hell just happened here??) Think about this and talk to me at the game (I can't, because I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about anymore. You've changed your mind three times in one email) I also think since [Daughter] is done on Tuesday you should bring her back to me then and [Son] should come home to me on Wednesday. (She literally just wrote in this email that she expects Husband to drive over 400 miles in one week) We are busy Thursday so if the kids have plans like practice they will be missing it. I can not (*cannot) again change this date for what we are doing (You didn't have to change anything. We always give you plenty of notice if something changes.) And the kids will be at your house Sunday morning at 9am for fathers day.
I will talk to you at the game today. See you there. (Daughter was supposed to get dropped off at 5pm. The Ex didn't come to the game until after 6pm; Daughter said they were waiting for Boyfriend to get done with work.)
Husband replied, asked for clarification on what exactly she wanted done on Sunday. Husband said if she wanted Daughter back on Tuesday and Son back on Wednesday, then she could pick up one kid and he would bring back the other - otherwise he was going to return both kids on Wednesday night. Husband also asked for The Ex's work schedule. The Ex replied:
"[Husband]-
I will agree to let you keep the kids on June 9th as long as I am able to have a make up day. Also regarding Tuesday and Wednesday I feel we have two options-
1. You keep [Daughter] until Wednesday and bring both kids back on Wednesday at one time and I will also receive a make up day for Tuesday because [Daughter] should be with me that day but this arrangement will help keep you from driving twice. (Aww, wasn't that sweet of The Ex to be so considerate of Husband's drive time? Except for the fact that Husband had no intention of driving twice, so she can blow it out her backside)
2. You bring [Daughter] Tuesday and bring [Son] Wednesday. I feel that because you went against the court agreement about sports sign up you are responsible for the extra driving and my time lost with the kids. In our court order you are responsible for returning the children to me during the summer placement. (Again, she wants the order followed down to every letter, unless she's getting something out of it. And Husband already told her he wasn't going to do this, so it was a waste of her time to type this all out.)
I wish we could have came to an agreement about the kids playing in [Hometown] because we both would have been able to drive equal distance and I would have had more chances to see the kids play. (Right, like all the games you didn't come to in 2009 because you didn't feel like driving to Hometown even though that was where you chose to enroll them)
[The Ex]"
Husband emailed back, said he'd give her a make-up day for Sunday but not Tuesday, reminded her that she emailed him and said she'd bring the kids to their games in School City so he did not go against the court agreement, and asked again for her work schedule. Four days later:
"[Husband],
I am replying to your email about who takes care of the kids. When [Son] is here, he is taking care of the kids any where from 2 hours to 4 hours with a 3 and a half hour gap in between where someone is here with them. Otherwise when it will be just [Daughter] here they will be going over to [some relative of Boyfriend's] and her # is XXX-XXX-XXXX."
Husband emailed again, asked what days and hours Son would be babysitting, asked about the following week's baseball games. The Ex didn't reply.
Husband emailed 4 more times before The Ex replied. The last one was about Son's football practices and getting contact lenses. The Ex did not reply and showed up at our house on Friday to drop the kids off; Husband asked her what was going on for Monday. The Ex's response was, "He don't wanna play for [School City], where's he playing?" (So she very clearly read the email and chose not to answer.) The Ex also said if Husband got Son contacts lenses then she was going to be his cost because "that's an extra expense I don't have." (I think she meant, "That's an extra expense I can't afford.") Two days later, The Ex emails just before 11pm:
"[Husband],
I know we talked about [Son] and about contact lenses when I dropped off the kids on Friday. Like I had said to you outside of your house, having contact lenses is a big responsibility. (She never once said this. Husband recorded it.) That would be an extra expense I can not afford. (She must have had someone else draft this because now she can suddenly speak proper English.) If I went most of my life with glasses so can [Son]. (She tried getting contacts when she and Husband were still together; she wasn't able to put them in so she stayed with glasses the remaining years before her $4,000 laser eye surgery. But contacts for her child are too expensive.) I also states to you that if you wish to get him contact lenses that would be all your responsibility, none on my part. (Court order reads that medical bills are to be split 50/50. You don't get to exempt yourself from paying bills just because you're too cheap to take care of your kids.) I did talk to [Son] about this and he does understand I can not (*cannot. Why does she not know this??) afford for him to get contact lenses at this time.
Summer sports just got over with and now another sport has just began that which we didn't agree to. (Read that again. Read it a third time, very slowly. Hell, read it out loud. Now tell me you're not laughing.) Again you say you just got a phone call but what about asking me if [Son] can play and where. (Should have been a question mark, but at least she remembered that "where" has the letter "h" in it. Also, this was discussed by email in April and twice in July; you're now emailing in August and claiming it wasn't discussed with you.) There was no agreeing to this. (Except for that email you sent that said sports during the school year should be played here. You wrote that, not me.)
About [Son] playing football in [School City], I strongly disagree [Son] playing there. (Read it again and don't laugh.) Look what happened when he played baseball in [School City], he was left out. (Son's team had a total of 19 games played; Son played in 17 of them.) [Son] did state to me he does not want to play any sports in [School City]. Do you blame him??? (No, but I blame you for lighting a fire and continuing to dump gasoline on it.) He was very hurt by coaches in [School City] this summer and I don't want that to happen again. [League director's name] and I did talk a while and he would suggest [Son] play in a different city due to [School City] coaches leaving children out a lot. (I talked to the league director; he didn't "suggest" this, he said it was an option if she was unhappy with the coaches.) You do know [Son] wants to play with his cousin [name here] in [Hometown]. I know this will cause a huge disagreement between us and I don't want that. (This is the equivalent of stabbing someone repeatedly while telling them you don't want them to bleed anymore.) I do know I want to be there to see [Son] and [Daughter] playing sports (Actions speak louder than words, cupcake.) but you do have to remember the gas and my time lost from work I can't afford to lose either. (And you do have to remember that you're the one who created the distance, so I don't care what it costs you.) There is no communication between us about games being cancelled and then I drive one hour and a half to get there missing work or leaving early so I can get the kids to their games on time. (No one cares except for you. No, honestly.) You have to realize I needed a two hour notice and not by text, being I got the last text message six hours too late. (I gave you a two-hour notice. And stop trying to sound educated by using the word "being" because you sound ridiculous.)
Please sit and think about all this.
[The Ex]"
Three emails, Husband asked in one if The Ex wanted him to pick up Son on Sunday night or Monday morning to save her an extra drive. The Ex doesn't email him back until that Sunday at 10:35pm:
"[Husband],
I appreciate you asking to pick up [Son]. Where have you been all these years. (Husband has been doing the exact same thing he's doing now, but you're such a complete and utter bitch that you never appreciate any of it.) Thank You! (Why is "you" capitalized??) I only ask you pick him up @ noon or call me and let me know. (........huh?) I do work and want to make sure someone is here for the other children. (A big part of why The Ex lost physical custody was the fact the both kids told the GAL that they were being left home alone with a baby while The Ex and Boyfriend went to work. But now, years down the road, she is concerned with ensuring that her kids with Boyfriend have someone to watch them. I think I'm going to address this in my next blog...)
I am going to ask if I could drop [Daughter] off on Thursday if that would be ok. I was hoping to use one of the make up days for this. I would like to see [Son] play his first game and am willing to drive her to his game on Thursday. Please take this into consideration. I don't work on Thursday so this would work out very good for me. Not sure exactly were (*where) he plays or how to get there, so I would need an address to go by. (I'll work on getting you an address. In the meantime, use the one that's printed on the football schedule.) I have a 10am meeting so if you can call me or if I can call you right after the meeting to discuss this, it would be appreciated. (She can't get away from phone contact. It's like she absolutely has to talk to him or she's going to freak out.) Thank you [Husband].
[The Ex]"
Husband emailed and said he couldn't do noon, he could do 11am at the latest; said he would agree to Daughter coming back on Thursday at 5pm.
"[Husband],
11am will be fine. You do know [Son's] game starts at 6pm. (Yes.) What is one more hour. (Sixty minutes. That is one more hour.) Thanks for agreeing for ("agreeing for"...) [Daughter] to stay with me one more day. We will see you around 5pm in [School City] on Thursday, August 29th. (She was late)
[The Ex]"
Husband sent 10 more emails over the next two months, none of which were responded to. Then six minutes after sending her a receipt for lunch tickets:
"[Husband],
I would like to pick up the kids early this weekend. The kids don't have school and since you still owe me 2 make-up days (No, we didn't) I would like to use one of them. The kids tell me you are taking them to go and see a movie in [another city] on Thursday (The kids did not tell her this.) and I was wondering if I could pick them up from the movie. (She sent this on Wednesday. She gave us 24 hours notice she wanted to change the schedule, and then complains if we don't work with her.) Please let me know, or call me please. (Husband does not want to have phone conversations with you. Please accept that and move on.) I did try asking you at the kids school but you just kept walking away when I mentioned to you the kids don't have school. (The Ex never once tried talking to Husband at the school; they had just left mediation and neither of them was in the greatest mood. The Ex asked Son about them having off and Son told her, "I have plans already.") I have talked to both kids and they would like to come. (They said they didn't care. They weren't jumping for joy at the thought of spending an extra day with you.)
I don't work Thursday, Friday, or Saturday this week so it would be really nice to have them. (Husband and I had already taken off of work that Friday to spend the day with them. Too bad.)
Please consider it. (Please consider getting your head out of your ass.)
[The Ex]"
Following the ordeal with the soccer dance, Husband picked up the kids and got them back to our house by exchange time. The Ex didn't show up, so he emailed her shortly after 6pm and told her he did not want her later claiming he had interfered with her placement. Three days later:
"[Husband],
I'm sorry you thought that we switched for this weekend. Yes, we did talk on the phone about the kids going to a soccer dance and we did agree if they did miss my weekend I would have a make-up weekend. (No, what you said was "switch weekends." That's why Husband thought you switched, because you said you wanted to switch.) We never did discuss which weekend I wanted to switch with you. Why would you just assume I would make-up that weekend this time. (Because you said "switch") I was waiting to use one day at Thanksgiving and another day in December.
I would never intentionally not pick our kids up. I am the one that wants to spend more time with them. (Soooo...Husband does not want to spend more time with them?) If I would have known you wanted to use this last weekend, I would have loved to take them. (She was playing this whole thing out. She told someone else that she was planning on taking them if she could get off of work; if she couldn't, she was going to play stupid and just claim she wanted a different weekend. Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that.)
You sent me an email on November 2nd at 8:10. (No, he sent you an email on November 1st at 6:21pm. Learn how to adjust your time zone settings in your email.) Why, if we agreed, didn't you call me around 5:15pm on Friday and ask why I was running late. (Because you are a grown-ass woman. I shouldn't have to babysit you.) If you would have called me, I would have dropped what I was doing and would have picked up the kids. Like I have told you plenty of times, I want to spend more time with [Son] and [Daughter]. (Yeah, that's why you took a job that requires you to work most of your hours on weekends - so you can have them in your house while you're at work. Sounds like you're really dedicated to spending more time with them.) If I knew I was getting the kids I wouldn't have signed up to work the weekend. (It wasn't overtime; this was her regular shift. How many of you "sign up" for your regular shift? Oh, that's right - you don't.) I will not work any weekend that I have [Son] and [Daughter], like I have stated to you numerous times. (She never once said this.)
Since there was no communication about the switch on either end, I am still entitled to a make-up weekend and will let you know in advance as I can which weekend I choose. (She tries and comes close to almost sounding intelligent. Poor thing...)
[The Ex]"
Husband replied, told her they switched and she didn't exercise her weekend so that was it. Also asked if she would not work on the weekends she had Son and Daughter, was she willing to forfeit the weekends she was scheduled to work? He also asked if she was willing to send him her work schedule. As expected, she did not reply.
Nineteen more emails to The Ex before she replied. I'm positive the only reason we got an answer is because now the court order reads that both parties will check for emails and text messages on a daily basis and will acknowledge the communication within 24 hours and provide an answer to any questions within 48 hours.
The Ex has been very quiet since then. I'm sure something will set her off though and we'll be back at it again.
"[Husband],
Thanks for bringing [Son] and [Daughter] to [The Ex's son] birthday party. It meant a lot; not only to me but to [Son] and [Daughter] and the rest of the family. (Okay, so this is going good so far. She's being nice) I have never had to rush a birthday in just 1 hour because you wanted to leave. (Aaaand, there it is. By the way, we were there at least 2 hours and had to drive home yet. Sorry you're inconvenienced by the fact that you chose to move an hour and half away, you threw a birthday party at mid-afternoon and I was nice enough to volunteer to bring the kids to the party for their brother. Sorry that wasn't good enough for you.) I wanted [Son] and [Daughter] to be a part of the party so we rushed every thing for you. (Never asked you to rush anything. In fact, you didn't say a word to us the entire time we were there) I appreciated you brought the kids, I wish I was able to spend more time with them. (This was in the middle of us withholding placement. We brought the kids to the party so they could celebrate their brother's birthday and get to see everyone. Remember this, it comes up in the last paragraph) I do wish the kids could have stayed longer here for the party, longer than 1 hour, Do (*due) to the fact that I have not had our kids for the last 5 weeks as ordered in the current custody agreement. They didn't even seem like themselves. [Daughter's] friend was here and she wouldn't even play with her and that is not like her. (Not true. Daughter was playing tag with some other kids. This is just The Ex being dramatic and trying to make Husband look like a jerk) To every body here, it seemed like the kids were afraid to do any thing because they didn't want to upset you. (Right, because we stayed outside the whole time. I wish she'd stop beating this ridiculous drum about the kids being "scared" of Husband, it's so old and worn out)
The phone conversation that we had on Friday the 12th. (This is not a complete sentence. I don't think she knew that.) I also stated that we were having a Baptism for [The Ex's daughter and son]. It will be held on this Wednesday the 17th. at 6pm. (maybe @5:45-5:55, just because the Father has another appt. at 6:30 after the baptism). (Now the time is earlier, after Husband already told her it would be hard for him to get there at 6pm)
[Name of church]
[Address of church]
[New City, our state]
[Zip code way over here for no reason]
You had stated that it is important to have [Son] and [Daughter] here for their siblings. I do hope you bring the kids because this is a very important part in all of our lives. This only happens just once like turning 1 does. You did say also that you would try. (They had literally just gotten off of the phone and Husband told her he would if he could, but he didn't know if they could make it) Please Try for all the children's sake.
On another subject, I have been trying to call the kids both on [Son's] phone and on your phone. I have yet to have my calls returned by our children. (She called that night, once on each phone. Husband called her back, told her he forgot his phone in the car and the kids were already in bed.) You did state that the kids were grounded and [Son] didn't have his phone. (Husband told her that Son was grounded from his phone. Husband did not say both kids were grounded) That is why I've been trying on your phone as well. I miss my kids(Her kids, not "our" kids) very much and it hurts more than you know to not be able to talk to them. You have kept them from me for over a month now and seeing them at the birthday party was just so fast. I was in the kitchen most of the time. (THERE it is. She misses them, but when she had the opportunity to spend time with them, she chose not to) There wasn't much time with them but to say Hi and give hugs and kisses and tell them I love them and miss them. (Did she not just say twice at the beginning of the email that the kids were there for an hour?) And then they were gone. I would hope we would be able to resolve this in a calm matter, this is not only hurting me but [Son] and [Daughter] and their siblings. Every body here could see that the kids were hurting and upset. (That must be why Daughter's teacher stopped us in the hallway and said this was her best year so far) My daughter [name here] as well. (Again, this is not a complete sentence.) She is old enough, and keeps asking for me to go and pick up [Son] and [Daughter]. This is an example of how your arrangement is upsetting and hurting every one. (An example of how you are upsetting and hurting everyone would be moving in with and marrying an alcoholic. I find our behavior to be the lesser of two evils)
[The Ex]"
Husband replied to this, went through each paragraph and corrected what The Ex had said.
Six days after this email, Husband got a reply to an email he had sent in April. It was blank with the exception of the signature: "Sent from my U.S. Cellular® Android-powered phone" (So now we have proof that The Ex does, in fact, have a smartphone with Internet capability)
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Husband continued to email The Ex; she would not reply, even though she had a smartphone. She called Husband one day and asked if he would bring the kids to her family's Christmas party. Husband asked when and where the party was; The Ex said it was at her sister's house. Husband said he would let her know. A day or two later, The Ex's sister sent Husband a text asking if she could take the kids to the party - this was the same sister that The Ex had said was hosting the party. Husband sent The Ex an email asking what was going on, then texted her and asked her to read his email and reply to it. The Ex emailed Husband for the second time on January 4, 2013 (Exactly one day before her family was having their party):
"I have told you repeatedly that I do not have email and/or texting plan. (Right, that's why Husband got an email from you that said it was sent from an Android) How clearer do I have to be about this. (I don't know, but you could attempt to use proper English and punctuation. That might help you "be clearer") I have to drive across town to my cousins to look at this (With your Android) and she needs to leave to work soon. Nonsense if you ask me.
Being confused is your fault and you need to pay more attention. (It's all my Husband's fault)
[The Ex's sister] only messaged you because who is the one that is not communicating. YOU!!!! (...huh? Husband is emailing The Ex. Husband is texting The Ex. The Ex ignores him, then finally decides to reply and tells Husband that he's not communicating - and she believes this is what's actually going on.)
She said she has emailed you several times (Husband found two emails in his junk folder. Two. They got sent there because the email provider didn't recognize the address. Why? Because Husband has never emailed The Ex's sister or given her his address. The Ex gave it to her sister, rather than just emailed Husband herself) and texted both you and [my name, spelled incorrectly] about trying to get the kids for our Christmas. You wouldn't even let me have them on Sunday, December 23rd. You wanted to meet in [another city that was halfway for both of them] at McDonalds. (So now she acknowledges that Husband was trying to work something out with her. But Husband is not communicating!!!) She only thought since I couldn't have them for my Christmas she was going to try and get them for our Family Christmas. (Because The Ex can't do it. She's got so much going on not having a job, that she can't be bothered to try and make plans to see her own children) But of course you never communicated back to her one way or the other. (Right, because he didn't get the emails and even if he had gotten them, your sister has no say in this. Husband has kids with you, not your sister) She was only stating IF you were bringing the kids she was leaving at 10:30am. There was no communication there. (I think she feels smart if she keeps typing out variations of the word "communicate")
When we did talk on the phone on Monday, I never said the Christmas Party was going to be at [The Ex's sister]. (Lie.) Not listening were we. (Hostility, much? And if this is a question, then it should have a question mark at the end of it instead of a period.) If you remember right you said that you would be staying. (There was no argument about this. Husband told her on the phone that he'd be staying; Husband told her by email that he'd be staying. Now it's "If you remember right....") I said that I figured that and that I'm going to have over 20 people in my house, I only wanted one person here. Not you and [my name, still spelled wrong], You [my name again, wrong for the third time] and your kids, only one person and I didn't care who it was, you or [my name again, still spelled wrong]. (At no point did this conversation take place. Husband said if he brought the kids, he was going to stay with the kids; The Ex said not to bring everybody because there would be a lot of people there. The Ex never said only one person could stay with the kids because that would have been an immediate no from us)
Our Christmas Party will be at MY house [The Ex's address here] (Right, because we don't know where you live)
On Saturday, January 5th, 2013 @ 12pm (noon) (Yes, she actually wrote noon in parentheses after writing 12pm. Good thing, we may have thought the party was at midnight because that makes sense.)
Most of us our (*are) getting together around 11am to finish getting lunch done and ready to eat at noon 12pm. (Noon 12? Does your kid start school at eight 8?)
It would be nice if you didn't let/or stop to eat so the kids eat lunch with my family. (Read that sentence slowly a few times) For [The Ex's son's] party the kids said they were not hungry because they just came from eating McDonalds. Enough said there. (I don't know how to take that. She's mad because we bought them McDonald's? But she buys them McDonald's. She's mad because we fed them? Why is she even mad about this? I don't understand this statement at all...)
So to let you know again please call and talk to me (No.)
I am always calling you and you never answer and very seldom do you return my calls. (Right, because you have nothing to talk about. You call to talk to the kids, we let the kids call you back. We're done trying to verbally communicate with you because you twist everything around and lie about it)
She said she has emailed you several times (Husband found two emails in his junk folder. Two. They got sent there because the email provider didn't recognize the address. Why? Because Husband has never emailed The Ex's sister or given her his address. The Ex gave it to her sister, rather than just emailed Husband herself) and texted both you and [my name, spelled incorrectly] about trying to get the kids for our Christmas. You wouldn't even let me have them on Sunday, December 23rd. You wanted to meet in [another city that was halfway for both of them] at McDonalds. (So now she acknowledges that Husband was trying to work something out with her. But Husband is not communicating!!!) She only thought since I couldn't have them for my Christmas she was going to try and get them for our Family Christmas. (Because The Ex can't do it. She's got so much going on not having a job, that she can't be bothered to try and make plans to see her own children) But of course you never communicated back to her one way or the other. (Right, because he didn't get the emails and even if he had gotten them, your sister has no say in this. Husband has kids with you, not your sister) She was only stating IF you were bringing the kids she was leaving at 10:30am. There was no communication there. (I think she feels smart if she keeps typing out variations of the word "communicate")
When we did talk on the phone on Monday, I never said the Christmas Party was going to be at [The Ex's sister]. (Lie.) Not listening were we. (Hostility, much? And if this is a question, then it should have a question mark at the end of it instead of a period.) If you remember right you said that you would be staying. (There was no argument about this. Husband told her on the phone that he'd be staying; Husband told her by email that he'd be staying. Now it's "If you remember right....") I said that I figured that and that I'm going to have over 20 people in my house, I only wanted one person here. Not you and [my name, still spelled wrong], You [my name again, wrong for the third time] and your kids, only one person and I didn't care who it was, you or [my name again, still spelled wrong]. (At no point did this conversation take place. Husband said if he brought the kids, he was going to stay with the kids; The Ex said not to bring everybody because there would be a lot of people there. The Ex never said only one person could stay with the kids because that would have been an immediate no from us)
Our Christmas Party will be at MY house [The Ex's address here] (Right, because we don't know where you live)
On Saturday, January 5th, 2013 @ 12pm (noon) (Yes, she actually wrote noon in parentheses after writing 12pm. Good thing, we may have thought the party was at midnight because that makes sense.)
Most of us our (*are) getting together around 11am to finish getting lunch done and ready to eat at noon 12pm. (Noon 12? Does your kid start school at eight 8?)
It would be nice if you didn't let/or stop to eat so the kids eat lunch with my family. (Read that sentence slowly a few times) For [The Ex's son's] party the kids said they were not hungry because they just came from eating McDonalds. Enough said there. (I don't know how to take that. She's mad because we bought them McDonald's? But she buys them McDonald's. She's mad because we fed them? Why is she even mad about this? I don't understand this statement at all...)
So to let you know again please call and talk to me (No.)
I am always calling you and you never answer and very seldom do you return my calls. (Right, because you have nothing to talk about. You call to talk to the kids, we let the kids call you back. We're done trying to verbally communicate with you because you twist everything around and lie about it)
I'm very sorry if this sounds bad, but I'm confused and am thinking that you won't be bringing the kids. (We're confused, too. You said the party was at your sister's. The day before the party, you're saying the party is at your house and either Husband or I have to stay alone in your house. Not even close to happening)
All this is so frustrating and very hurtful. I do hope to see the kids on Saturday. [The Ex's niece] and I will be there around 5pm today and we could talk and I can see the kids. I DID call and tell you, but you didn't answer and I DID leave a message that I would be there. (And Husband DID tell you that you are not picking up the kids)
Just incase you are not home again when I get there, It would be very nice if you could call me about tomorrow because [The Ex's cousin] has gifts for the kids and she will have to leave to work shortly after getting here.
[The Ex]"
[The Ex]"
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The Ex did not email Husband for two months after that. Husband emailed her saying that the kids wanted to play baseball and that Son wanted to play football in School City; The Ex didn't reply. Husband emailed The Ex about a class trip and school fundraiser; The Ex didn't reply.
Husband finally got an answer when he told The Ex that Son was not going to be able to use his phone; we found out that he was doing things with it that he shouldn't have been doing, and that some kid who is somehow related to Boyfriend had shown him how to do it. Husband told The Ex that this had happened last year and we found out that Son had done it again the entire weekend he was at The Ex's house. Husband said if The Ex wanted to talk to the kids, she could call Husband's phone. The Ex replied:
"I got your email about [Son]. [Boyfriend] and I will be talking to [the other kid's] mom about this (I didn't understand why Boyfriend had to go talk to the other kid's mom, but then I realized that since The Ex can't speak Spanish, she needed Boyfriend there to translate) and if [Son] does get his phone back he will not be taking it with him any time he is with them.
If [Son] has done this before I suggest he have a regular phone. Not a smart phone were (*where) he can have the internet. (Although it probably shouldn't have, this irritated me. We pay for the phone; we pay for the data whether it's being used or not. If you want to suggest anything, maybe you should suggest to yourself that you keep a little bit better eye on your kids because Son doesn't do this when he's home with us.)
I didn't notice he was on his phone that much. (Son always has his phone with him. ALWAYS.) He must have done that late at night. (What bearing does that have on any of this?) Most of the day on Sat. we were out and I didn't see him on the phone but to answer it. (Yeah, because he's totally going to do this when you're standing next to him. Idiot.)
Call me if you want. (About what, exactly?)
[The Ex]"
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Three weeks later, Husband and The Ex had worked out a stipulation for her to get make-up days for the days we had withheld placement. Husband emailed The Ex to ask if they could rearrange a pick-up day/time because Baby Girl had her ballet recital; he also let The Ex know about the school play that both Son and Daughter were going to be in. The Ex acknowledged on Husband's voicemail that she got the email, but didn't reply until 5 days after Husband first posed the question:
"Yes we do have plans that day, that is why I was willing to use one of my make up days for this day. I do know how it feels not to have all the kids together for one of the other kids activities that is why I can't change this (This should have been two sentences. Why is this so hard for her?) [The Ex's daughter] has a school play she is in. I believe that [Son and Daughter] has (*have) missed out on a lot of my family get togethers (You have them 67% of their weekends; how have they missed out on "a lot of your family get togethers"? Make plans for the weekends you know that you have them.) and I am willing to work with you on a later date (so long as we don't have plans) (What she was really saying was, "I'm going to write in this email that I'll work with you, just don't expect me to actually do it.") so [Son and Daughter] can see her sister ("Son and Daughter can see her sister." .....sigh.) in ballet. I'm sorry they will be missing her first one. You know I will work with you. (This was inserted just because The Ex wants everyone to believe that she is flexible when in fact, the typical response from her is, "You never work with me so I'm not going to work with you." Now, she writes fourteen thousand times that Husband KNOWS she will work with him.)
Also thanks for letting me know about their play. I had already called the school about it (Yet she can't call the school for anything else. Interesting.) and let Mom and Dad know. We will be there for the play and the kids will leave with me.
On another note the kids sing for church this Friday @ 1:30pm. I would like to go see them. (Then go see them) I am asking if I could please leave with them right after that is over. I don't know what Me (Why is "me" capitalized in the middle of the sentence??) and [The Ex's daughter and Son] would do until 5pm. Please, I want to do more with them and wish you will be ok with this. Please let me know? (Here, she uses a question mark.)
[The Ex]"
Husband emailed her back, said he rather she not pick the kids up early since it was her year for Easter and spring break. Husband said if The Ex wanted to use one of her make-up days for an early pick up that Friday, to let him know. The Ex didn't reply, nor did she come to see the kids sing.
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Husband emailed The Ex for a second time about the kids playing baseball; he had emailed her over a month ago and she had never replied to it. Husband said he wanted to talk about it because the month before, she was arguing over paying for Daughter's basketball shoes claiming that she had never agreed to Daughter playing and was thereby not liable to contribute to the cost. The Ex replied:
"[Husband],
My attorney and I never said [Daughter] couldn't play basketball. (Your attorney's opinion has no bearing. Your attorney is not Daughter's parent.) What you sent me in an email was [Daughter] wants to play basketball and here's the schedule.
As per our court order we are to agree on extra curricular (Still one word) activities for both children. In this case nothing was agreed upon. (Except for the small fact that you were sent the basketball schedule two weeks before the first practice was even held, and you said nothing about objecting to it.)
And for talking to you (English. Please stick to English) about the kids and playing baseball I did try and talk to you at the gas station that one time we exchanged the kids. I was attempting to discuss the children's summer sports schedule (They haven't been signed up for anything so there is no schedule, you moron) and you had walked away. (Husband told her he wasn't going to argue with her in front of the kids and walked away. Husband did not ignore her while she was "attempting to discuss" any type of schedule with him) Since the children will be in my custody during the summer I asked them what sports and where they want to play. [Son] stated he wanted to play in [Hometown] with his cousin [name here]. [Daughter] stated she wanted to play baseball also but didn't care where. (Someone wrote this for her. She does not talk like this. Never has and never will.)
I will enroll them in [Hometown]. It would be more convenient for me to enroll them here in [New City], seeing that I have them primarily in the summer, but it is a half way point for both of us and is [Son's] wishes. (Oh, now she's suddenly worried about what Son wants. Never mind that Son told her he didn't want to move to New City, never mind that Son told her he didn't want her to marry Boyfriend - now, Son wants to play baseball with his cousin, so we need to do it!)
As for [Son] playing football he has stated to me that he would like to play in [Hometown] also with his cousin [name here again]. Which I am stating right now I am ok with this agreement. (This is not a sentence. How does she feel this is a complete sentence?) Again it is a half way point for both of us and it is [Son's] wishes.
[The Ex]"
Husband replied, told her he did not agree to the kids playing in Hometown because we could not get the kids to their games or practices. The Ex replied:
"[Husband]
I sent you an email last night about the kids playing sports. I see you also sent another receipt for lunch money. I just want to make it clear that when the kids have lunch and milk at school it is food and is considered a basic cost not a variable expense. I will not be paying for any school lunch or milk. Would you like to pay 67% of [Son's and Daughter's] lunches on weekends and for the summer? (We pay for 100% of their food regardless of where they are because you have no job and are on food stamps. But I bet you she thought this was extremely clever and that Husband would not have an answer for it.)
[The Ex]"
Husband replied, clarified that he had brought up the kids playing baseball, reminded her what the court order defined as variable expenses, told her again that he did not agree to the kids playing in Hometown and if this was going to be an argument then they would have to go back to court. The Ex replies:
"I have all the information for [Son and Daughter] to play in [Hometown]. (And Husband just emailed you twice, saying he does not agree to them playing there.) We need to sign them up before Sunday or we will have late fees added. ("We" will have nothing, because we're not signing them up in Hometown.)
The children are with me primarily in the summer and I know [Son] wants to play in [Hometown]. The children are with you primarily during the school year so we should allow the children to play sports in [Our City/School City] then. (Four months later, she told Husband by email that he didn't discuss Son playing football with her and that she didn't want him playing in School City)
You have deprived me of the kids for over 6 months (Actually, it was less than 5 months. But this woman told her son's 3rd grade teacher she was unable to help him do his math homework, so I suppose the fact that she got relatively close should count for something) and I know the only reason you want the kids to play closer to you is you want to deprive me of my summer with them. (I'm starting to think you're frequently deprived of oxygen) If the kids sign up over there in [Our City/School City] I won't see them because I can't afford to drive them over there 3-5 times a week if not more for practices and games. The only logical solution would be to enroll them in [Hometown] before it is too late.
I'm sending over what I have. [The Ex's sister] has been in contact with the league President and they do know we are planning to enroll both kids. (Why does she keep saying "we" when Husband has made it very clear he does not agree to this?)
I will be there to pick the kids up at 5pm
[The Ex]"
This was followed by a blank forward. Husband replied and told The Ex for the gazillionth time that he does not agree to the kids playing in Hometown, going through all the reasons why yet again because maybe she really wasn't understanding. Husband pointed out it was a 20-minute difference if she drove the kids to Hometown versus driving them to School City; if she could afford one, why not the other? The Ex ignored him.
Husband emailed The Ex four days later about the school play and sent another email about the kids playing baseball in School City. Husband said if he did not hear from her by the end of the week, he would assume this means she agreed to them playing in School City; this email was sent on a Tuesday.
The Ex waited until the following Monday and sent:
"[Husband],
I still think I should be the one to sign the kids up for the summer sports being that I have them primarily in the summer. Baseball didn't even come up for the kids until I mentioned if they wanted to play in [Hometown]. That is why the kids asked you if they could play baseball. (Actually, baseball came up when the kids got done with school on a Wednesday in early March, handed me a sheet for baseball sign up and they both said they wanted to play. You were never a part of it when "baseball came up.")
Don't get me wrong but I want the kids to play baseball. (But only on your terms) We do have a problem with agreeing where the kids should play. You want the kids to play closer to you because it would be convenient for you. (Never mind that their family, friends, school and life are here. Nope, only reason is because it's easier for Husband. Yuuup, you've got him pegged) I would like the kids to play in [Hometown] because [Son] won't only be playing with [cousin's name again] but it is a half way point for both of us. Yes you have a job and I don't but then you have money for gas and traveling and I don't.
If the kids are to play where you want them to play,
1. Do not expect me to take them to practices that interfere with my placement time. Due to the fact that I would not be able to drive them to all of their practices
2. I will drive them to their games. (Attorney 4 later claimed that The Ex did not want to pay for baseball expenses because nothing was agreed upon. I reminded her about this email; she dropped that argument.)
I believe this is fair for the children and for both of us (It's fair to The Ex. That's it.) The kids already told me [my name, incorrectly spelled once again] took them to sign up for baseball and took them another day to pick out uniforms. (None of this ever happened. I have no idea where she comes up with this crap) You should never assume anything because look at where we are now because of your assuming (Actually, we're "here" because of your lack of communication)
[The Ex]"
The Ex did not email Husband for another six weeks after this.
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After that last email, Husband emailed The Ex nine more times - asking for confirmation about baseball, giving her baseball schedules, asking about exchange times/places, giving her info about the school play, etc. The Ex didn't say a word. Then Husband emailed about baseball games; he wanted to know what The Ex wanted to do about getting the kids back and forth. The kids were supposed to go back to The Ex on Sunday night but Daughter had games Monday and Tuesday the following week, Son had games Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. Husband said if The Ex wanted, he could keep the kids through Wednesday and bring them back to The Ex that night. The Ex replies:
"[Husband],
I think you should bring the kids back to me Sunday and I will take the kids to [School City] on Monday so I can see one of the kids play. (Okay, that makes sense.) If I have to work late Monday then I can see you keeping them on Sunday being I would most likely have the kids there late. (Wait, what? You do or you don't have to work late on Monday? Why are the kids coming back to you Sunday night if you're working late on Monday?) I do believe I should have another make-up day in substitute for this coming Sunday, June 9th. (She says bring the kids back Sunday, then says she could see him keeping the kids Sunday if she had to work late Monday, then says she wants a make-up day for Sunday. What the actual hell just happened here??) Think about this and talk to me at the game (I can't, because I have absolutely no idea what you're talking about anymore. You've changed your mind three times in one email) I also think since [Daughter] is done on Tuesday you should bring her back to me then and [Son] should come home to me on Wednesday. (She literally just wrote in this email that she expects Husband to drive over 400 miles in one week) We are busy Thursday so if the kids have plans like practice they will be missing it. I can not (*cannot) again change this date for what we are doing (You didn't have to change anything. We always give you plenty of notice if something changes.) And the kids will be at your house Sunday morning at 9am for fathers day.
I will talk to you at the game today. See you there. (Daughter was supposed to get dropped off at 5pm. The Ex didn't come to the game until after 6pm; Daughter said they were waiting for Boyfriend to get done with work.)
Husband replied, asked for clarification on what exactly she wanted done on Sunday. Husband said if she wanted Daughter back on Tuesday and Son back on Wednesday, then she could pick up one kid and he would bring back the other - otherwise he was going to return both kids on Wednesday night. Husband also asked for The Ex's work schedule. The Ex replied:
"[Husband]-
I will agree to let you keep the kids on June 9th as long as I am able to have a make up day. Also regarding Tuesday and Wednesday I feel we have two options-
1. You keep [Daughter] until Wednesday and bring both kids back on Wednesday at one time and I will also receive a make up day for Tuesday because [Daughter] should be with me that day but this arrangement will help keep you from driving twice. (Aww, wasn't that sweet of The Ex to be so considerate of Husband's drive time? Except for the fact that Husband had no intention of driving twice, so she can blow it out her backside)
2. You bring [Daughter] Tuesday and bring [Son] Wednesday. I feel that because you went against the court agreement about sports sign up you are responsible for the extra driving and my time lost with the kids. In our court order you are responsible for returning the children to me during the summer placement. (Again, she wants the order followed down to every letter, unless she's getting something out of it. And Husband already told her he wasn't going to do this, so it was a waste of her time to type this all out.)
I wish we could have came to an agreement about the kids playing in [Hometown] because we both would have been able to drive equal distance and I would have had more chances to see the kids play. (Right, like all the games you didn't come to in 2009 because you didn't feel like driving to Hometown even though that was where you chose to enroll them)
[The Ex]"
Husband emailed back, said he'd give her a make-up day for Sunday but not Tuesday, reminded her that she emailed him and said she'd bring the kids to their games in School City so he did not go against the court agreement, and asked again for her work schedule. Four days later:
"[Husband],
I am replying to your email about who takes care of the kids. When [Son] is here, he is taking care of the kids any where from 2 hours to 4 hours with a 3 and a half hour gap in between where someone is here with them. Otherwise when it will be just [Daughter] here they will be going over to [some relative of Boyfriend's] and her # is XXX-XXX-XXXX."
Husband emailed again, asked what days and hours Son would be babysitting, asked about the following week's baseball games. The Ex didn't reply.
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About three weeks later came the incident with Daughter's cancelled game - The Ex called me at 11am, asked if the 5pm game was cancelled; I told her as far as I knew, it was still on but we'd let her know if we heard different; The Ex said she'd call me at 2pm. I got a text at 2:45pm saying the game was cancelled, I sent a text to The Ex to let her know the same thing. The Ex says she never got the text, drove up here, left a very angry voicemail for Husband. Husband emailed her and apologized, sent a screen cap from my phone showing that I did text her; also asked for her work schedule because she still had not given it to him.
A week later, Husband emailed about the following week's baseball games and said he hadn't gotten the information yet about Son's football but would send it when he had it; this was also the night that The Ex decided she was going to leave Son with us and not discuss anything. Two days later, we got the first email from her:
"[Husband]
For your information (Well, good evening to you as well) I didn't get any text message until 7:56pm when we were all ready (*already) home from [School City]. I made a long tiring trip for nothing. (You doubled the distance between our homes. I don't want to hear about how long and tiring your trip was.) As for [my name, spelled wrong yet again] showing up at the field were (*where) I was, at 5:22pm for 20 minutes waiting she knew I had not received that message that [Daughter's] game was cancelled. (How in heaven's name would I know if you got my text or not? I don't have your phone. You said you were going to call me and you did not; don't try to pin this on me. That aside, this last sentence is so poorly constructed that I think a small part of me just died.) Why else would she just show up. (I would "just show up" because I just finished work at 5pm and realized you never answered my text, so I wanted to make sure you hadn't driven over here. Next time I won't bother; sorry for trying to be nice.) Like I said, I had to request to leave work early so I could get her there on time. (And you also insisted that Daughter come back to New City on Sunday night rather than leaving her here, knowing you were scheduled to work on Monday. It's not my fault you had to leave work early; you did this to yourself.) I called [my name, still wrong] @ 11:15am because we were having bad weather that day and I wanted to know if her game was cancelled. (At 11:15am, the game was not cancelled.) I would have called the coach if I had his number, which I don't have neither ("Which I don't have neither." SIGH.) [Son] or [Daughter's] coaches numbers. I have told you numerous times that I would like to have their numbers but you refuse to give them to me. (She asked Husband for the coaches' numbers once, as she was driving up to a baseball game; this was after the season was two-thirds finished. Husband told her he could give them to her when she got there. She arrived, everyone forgot, she never approached the coach and asked for his number. But now it's all Husband's fault, because she said so.)
For your information (Well, good evening to you as well) I didn't get any text message until 7:56pm when we were all ready (*already) home from [School City]. I made a long tiring trip for nothing. (You doubled the distance between our homes. I don't want to hear about how long and tiring your trip was.) As for [my name, spelled wrong yet again] showing up at the field were (*where) I was, at 5:22pm for 20 minutes waiting she knew I had not received that message that [Daughter's] game was cancelled. (How in heaven's name would I know if you got my text or not? I don't have your phone. You said you were going to call me and you did not; don't try to pin this on me. That aside, this last sentence is so poorly constructed that I think a small part of me just died.) Why else would she just show up. (I would "just show up" because I just finished work at 5pm and realized you never answered my text, so I wanted to make sure you hadn't driven over here. Next time I won't bother; sorry for trying to be nice.) Like I said, I had to request to leave work early so I could get her there on time. (And you also insisted that Daughter come back to New City on Sunday night rather than leaving her here, knowing you were scheduled to work on Monday. It's not my fault you had to leave work early; you did this to yourself.) I called [my name, still wrong] @ 11:15am because we were having bad weather that day and I wanted to know if her game was cancelled. (At 11:15am, the game was not cancelled.) I would have called the coach if I had his number, which I don't have neither ("Which I don't have neither." SIGH.) [Son] or [Daughter's] coaches numbers. I have told you numerous times that I would like to have their numbers but you refuse to give them to me. (She asked Husband for the coaches' numbers once, as she was driving up to a baseball game; this was after the season was two-thirds finished. Husband told her he could give them to her when she got there. She arrived, everyone forgot, she never approached the coach and asked for his number. But now it's all Husband's fault, because she said so.)
All this would have been better for all (All = The Ex) if the kids were signed up here or in [Hometown] for baseball. I would have had family help with transportation. (And THAT is why she objected the entire time. Her family could/would take them to practices or games in Hometown, but not School City. The Ex has to be responsible for her own children and it's driving her crazy.) I have them for the summer and again I will tell you, I should have signed them up were (*where) I wanted them to play. (But as she so eloquently pointed out before, the court order says the parents have to agree. So no, you don't get to sign them up wherever you feel like it.) There is too much driving and wasted money on gas that I don't have. (Yeah, she has 2 car payments to keep up with. How dare you expect the kids to enjoy their summer doing anything fun. What are you, a good dad or something?!) I think maybe you should be paying my expenses on gas every time they have a game that way I can see them play more often. (This should have been two sentences. And also, YOU moved away. I'm not paying you for diddly squat.)
I did talk to [Daughter's] coach on Monday, July 15th, and he indicated to me that he didn't have my information. (I talked to Daughter's coach. He said, "I told her I had her info, I just didn't have it with me right that minute. I know [you and Husband] gave it to me at the beginning of the season.") He does remember calling [my name]. (He never said this because he never called me. He sent everyone a text that said the game got cancelled. And yes, my name was spelled incorrectly for the third time. I think she thinks it irritates me but it just makes us giggle) He felt really bad about the situation. (He told her he was sorry she drove up for nothing. He never said he "felt really bad.") I did give him my information. (You gave him information he already had? Aren't you a clever little one!)
This miss communication needs to stop. (Someone really needs to have a talk with Mister Communication, as well.) Some how I feel you both did not call me on purpose to see if I would show. (Is that why you didn't call me when you said you would? Were you also trying to see if you would show? Boy, you got yourself good, didn't you?!) How hard would it have been to call and say, "No game for [Daughter] today." (How hard would it have been to call closer to game time and say, "Is the game still on?")"
Seven minutes later:
"To talk about our visitation [Son] should be coming home today. He doesn't have any more games this week so I think you need to bring him home to me. I will be bringing him home on Friday that way I could see [Daughter] play another game of hers that day. (This, after she left the game two days prior before the first inning had even ended. Daughter hadn't even gone out onto the field yet when The Ex left. Now, she's suddenly interested in watching Daughter's game.) If it is ok, I will be arriving at 6pm and will meet at [Daughter's] game with [Son]. (Exchange time was 5pm; she wanted to show up at 6pm because the game started at 6pm. But Husband has to follow the court order and bring Son back to her that night, because that's what the court order says. She's okay with bending the court order but never in our favor.) Please let me know???
As for returning the kids back to me on Sunday, Yes bring them home. (I hated English in school, but this is just getting ridiculous. Even I can do better than this.) I will take the kids back on Monday for their games and [Daughter] will come home with me since her next game is not scheduled until Thursday."
After Daughter's game ended, Husband emailed The Ex and told her he was not going to bring Son back because plans had already been made - she had left him here without any discussion as to what she wanted done, so Husband would bring both kids back on Sunday. Almost 2 hours later:
"[Husband]--
"To talk about our visitation [Son] should be coming home today. He doesn't have any more games this week so I think you need to bring him home to me. I will be bringing him home on Friday that way I could see [Daughter] play another game of hers that day. (This, after she left the game two days prior before the first inning had even ended. Daughter hadn't even gone out onto the field yet when The Ex left. Now, she's suddenly interested in watching Daughter's game.) If it is ok, I will be arriving at 6pm and will meet at [Daughter's] game with [Son]. (Exchange time was 5pm; she wanted to show up at 6pm because the game started at 6pm. But Husband has to follow the court order and bring Son back to her that night, because that's what the court order says. She's okay with bending the court order but never in our favor.) Please let me know???
As for returning the kids back to me on Sunday, Yes bring them home. (I hated English in school, but this is just getting ridiculous. Even I can do better than this.) I will take the kids back on Monday for their games and [Daughter] will come home with me since her next game is not scheduled until Thursday."
After Daughter's game ended, Husband emailed The Ex and told her he was not going to bring Son back because plans had already been made - she had left him here without any discussion as to what she wanted done, so Husband would bring both kids back on Sunday. Almost 2 hours later:
"[Husband]--
I think not bringing [Son] home today is very selfish on your part. (This woman is lecturing other people on being selfish. Hi-freaking-larious.) I don't care if you have plans. You shouldn't make plans during the week when you know [Son] should be home with me. (Then don't leave Son here without talking to us. It's not our job to "know" what you want done.) He doesn't have any more games during the week. You are the one again breaking court order by not returning the [Son] to me. (English, because things and such as.) You also say that [Son] said to you that he was staying all week with you and you know that's a lie and your (*you're) just making that up. (Why would we make this up?) He had plans on Thursday with other relatives here in [New City]. (We found out later that The Ex worked all day Thursday. She was demanding that Son come home because she needed a babysitter.) He didn't even want to stay on Monday, ("Because he wants to live with me because I'm an amazing person and my life is perfect, and you and your new wife are stupid and evil") and like I told him numerous times on Monday and just before I left that he would be coming back home on Wednesday. I did tell him that I couldn't drive there 3 times this week. (Nobody told you to drive here 3 times, but you have no problem telling Husband to drive 3 times in one week. Ironic.) Monday for [Daughter] - Wednesday for him - Friday to return him. He knew what day. You scare the kids all the time and they always tell me they can't talk to you. (We talked to the kids about this. They both said they know they can talk to us about anything, and that they are not scared of Husband.) So don't tell me he told you anything. (Okay, fine. I won't.)"
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Husband emailed 4 more times before The Ex replied. The last one was about Son's football practices and getting contact lenses. The Ex did not reply and showed up at our house on Friday to drop the kids off; Husband asked her what was going on for Monday. The Ex's response was, "He don't wanna play for [School City], where's he playing?" (So she very clearly read the email and chose not to answer.) The Ex also said if Husband got Son contacts lenses then she was going to be his cost because "that's an extra expense I don't have." (I think she meant, "That's an extra expense I can't afford.") Two days later, The Ex emails just before 11pm:
"[Husband],
I know we talked about [Son] and about contact lenses when I dropped off the kids on Friday. Like I had said to you outside of your house, having contact lenses is a big responsibility. (She never once said this. Husband recorded it.) That would be an extra expense I can not afford. (She must have had someone else draft this because now she can suddenly speak proper English.) If I went most of my life with glasses so can [Son]. (She tried getting contacts when she and Husband were still together; she wasn't able to put them in so she stayed with glasses the remaining years before her $4,000 laser eye surgery. But contacts for her child are too expensive.) I also states to you that if you wish to get him contact lenses that would be all your responsibility, none on my part. (Court order reads that medical bills are to be split 50/50. You don't get to exempt yourself from paying bills just because you're too cheap to take care of your kids.) I did talk to [Son] about this and he does understand I can not (*cannot. Why does she not know this??) afford for him to get contact lenses at this time.
Summer sports just got over with and now another sport has just began that which we didn't agree to. (Read that again. Read it a third time, very slowly. Hell, read it out loud. Now tell me you're not laughing.) Again you say you just got a phone call but what about asking me if [Son] can play and where. (Should have been a question mark, but at least she remembered that "where" has the letter "h" in it. Also, this was discussed by email in April and twice in July; you're now emailing in August and claiming it wasn't discussed with you.) There was no agreeing to this. (Except for that email you sent that said sports during the school year should be played here. You wrote that, not me.)
About [Son] playing football in [School City], I strongly disagree [Son] playing there. (Read it again and don't laugh.) Look what happened when he played baseball in [School City], he was left out. (Son's team had a total of 19 games played; Son played in 17 of them.) [Son] did state to me he does not want to play any sports in [School City]. Do you blame him??? (No, but I blame you for lighting a fire and continuing to dump gasoline on it.) He was very hurt by coaches in [School City] this summer and I don't want that to happen again. [League director's name] and I did talk a while and he would suggest [Son] play in a different city due to [School City] coaches leaving children out a lot. (I talked to the league director; he didn't "suggest" this, he said it was an option if she was unhappy with the coaches.) You do know [Son] wants to play with his cousin [name here] in [Hometown]. I know this will cause a huge disagreement between us and I don't want that. (This is the equivalent of stabbing someone repeatedly while telling them you don't want them to bleed anymore.) I do know I want to be there to see [Son] and [Daughter] playing sports (Actions speak louder than words, cupcake.) but you do have to remember the gas and my time lost from work I can't afford to lose either. (And you do have to remember that you're the one who created the distance, so I don't care what it costs you.) There is no communication between us about games being cancelled and then I drive one hour and a half to get there missing work or leaving early so I can get the kids to their games on time. (No one cares except for you. No, honestly.) You have to realize I needed a two hour notice and not by text, being I got the last text message six hours too late. (I gave you a two-hour notice. And stop trying to sound educated by using the word "being" because you sound ridiculous.)
Please sit and think about all this.
[The Ex]"
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Five emails, no answer. Then Husband sent a receipt for school supplies.
"[Husband],
When school had ended just this last year we had agreed at your house we would do the school supply shopping together. (She brought it up once in March and things got very hostile afterward. Husband never agreed to go anywhere with her.) That same day I told you I had stuff for them already (She didn't say this.) and probably wouldn't need to buy much. You said that was fine and you would like to do the school shopping together. (HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!)
I have stuff for [Son] and [Daughter] here they will be taking home with them before school starts. You will just have to take back the school supplies you have and minus what I owe you. ("Minus what I owe you.")
I have never once gotten a school supply list from you and you want to have me pay for things I don't know if the kids need or don't need them. (If you have no idea what the kids do or don't need, how on earth did you already buy "stuff" for them and come to the determination that we "probably wouldn't need to buy much"???) How do I know if I am paying for your daughters supplies also? (Yeah, because the less than $21 that I'm asking you to reimburse me is really going to go a long way.) Where's the list? Please send me the list or give it to [Son] tonight when you drop him off after practice.
[The Ex]"
Ten minutes later:
"[Husband],
"[Husband],
My supervisor had told me from now on if I needed to leave early for any thing I would have to have that day off. I can't work three to four days a week and still make ends meet. (Then you probably shouldn't have gotten fired last year.) I don't even make ends meet now working 5 days a week. (I fail to see how she is unable to make ends meet considering her job, Boyfriend's job and the welfare system she's raping by not reporting Boyfriend or his income in their household.)
Even though I would love to see [Son] practice you will have to bring [Daughter] home on Sunday and bring [Son] on Thursday after practice. Mom and Dad and I were hoping to get together the last week of August those few days I have them. (Why is sentence structure so difficult for this woman???) [Son] would be missing practice that week if we do anything that day. It's still up in the air. I will let you know and I will notify his coach also.
[The Ex]"
Husband emailed her back, told her that Son was not going to miss any practices. Practice was mandatory, and The Ex had agreed to Son playing in School City. Husband told The Ex that if she forced Son to miss his practices and thereby forced him to miss playing time, he would file for contempt.
Husband emailed her back, told her that Son was not going to miss any practices. Practice was mandatory, and The Ex had agreed to Son playing in School City. Husband told The Ex that if she forced Son to miss his practices and thereby forced him to miss playing time, he would file for contempt.
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Three emails, Husband asked in one if The Ex wanted him to pick up Son on Sunday night or Monday morning to save her an extra drive. The Ex doesn't email him back until that Sunday at 10:35pm:
"[Husband],
I appreciate you asking to pick up [Son]. Where have you been all these years. (Husband has been doing the exact same thing he's doing now, but you're such a complete and utter bitch that you never appreciate any of it.) Thank You! (Why is "you" capitalized??) I only ask you pick him up @ noon or call me and let me know. (........huh?) I do work and want to make sure someone is here for the other children. (A big part of why The Ex lost physical custody was the fact the both kids told the GAL that they were being left home alone with a baby while The Ex and Boyfriend went to work. But now, years down the road, she is concerned with ensuring that her kids with Boyfriend have someone to watch them. I think I'm going to address this in my next blog...)
I am going to ask if I could drop [Daughter] off on Thursday if that would be ok. I was hoping to use one of the make up days for this. I would like to see [Son] play his first game and am willing to drive her to his game on Thursday. Please take this into consideration. I don't work on Thursday so this would work out very good for me. Not sure exactly were (*where) he plays or how to get there, so I would need an address to go by. (I'll work on getting you an address. In the meantime, use the one that's printed on the football schedule.) I have a 10am meeting so if you can call me or if I can call you right after the meeting to discuss this, it would be appreciated. (She can't get away from phone contact. It's like she absolutely has to talk to him or she's going to freak out.) Thank you [Husband].
[The Ex]"
Husband emailed and said he couldn't do noon, he could do 11am at the latest; said he would agree to Daughter coming back on Thursday at 5pm.
"[Husband],
11am will be fine. You do know [Son's] game starts at 6pm. (Yes.) What is one more hour. (Sixty minutes. That is one more hour.) Thanks for agreeing for ("agreeing for"...) [Daughter] to stay with me one more day. We will see you around 5pm in [School City] on Thursday, August 29th. (She was late)
[The Ex]"
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Husband sent 10 more emails over the next two months, none of which were responded to. Then six minutes after sending her a receipt for lunch tickets:
"[Husband],
I would like to pick up the kids early this weekend. The kids don't have school and since you still owe me 2 make-up days (No, we didn't) I would like to use one of them. The kids tell me you are taking them to go and see a movie in [another city] on Thursday (The kids did not tell her this.) and I was wondering if I could pick them up from the movie. (She sent this on Wednesday. She gave us 24 hours notice she wanted to change the schedule, and then complains if we don't work with her.) Please let me know, or call me please. (Husband does not want to have phone conversations with you. Please accept that and move on.) I did try asking you at the kids school but you just kept walking away when I mentioned to you the kids don't have school. (The Ex never once tried talking to Husband at the school; they had just left mediation and neither of them was in the greatest mood. The Ex asked Son about them having off and Son told her, "I have plans already.") I have talked to both kids and they would like to come. (They said they didn't care. They weren't jumping for joy at the thought of spending an extra day with you.)
I don't work Thursday, Friday, or Saturday this week so it would be really nice to have them. (Husband and I had already taken off of work that Friday to spend the day with them. Too bad.)
Please consider it. (Please consider getting your head out of your ass.)
[The Ex]"
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Following the ordeal with the soccer dance, Husband picked up the kids and got them back to our house by exchange time. The Ex didn't show up, so he emailed her shortly after 6pm and told her he did not want her later claiming he had interfered with her placement. Three days later:
"[Husband],
I'm sorry you thought that we switched for this weekend. Yes, we did talk on the phone about the kids going to a soccer dance and we did agree if they did miss my weekend I would have a make-up weekend. (No, what you said was "switch weekends." That's why Husband thought you switched, because you said you wanted to switch.) We never did discuss which weekend I wanted to switch with you. Why would you just assume I would make-up that weekend this time. (Because you said "switch") I was waiting to use one day at Thanksgiving and another day in December.
I would never intentionally not pick our kids up. I am the one that wants to spend more time with them. (Soooo...Husband does not want to spend more time with them?) If I would have known you wanted to use this last weekend, I would have loved to take them. (She was playing this whole thing out. She told someone else that she was planning on taking them if she could get off of work; if she couldn't, she was going to play stupid and just claim she wanted a different weekend. Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that.)
You sent me an email on November 2nd at 8:10. (No, he sent you an email on November 1st at 6:21pm. Learn how to adjust your time zone settings in your email.) Why, if we agreed, didn't you call me around 5:15pm on Friday and ask why I was running late. (Because you are a grown-ass woman. I shouldn't have to babysit you.) If you would have called me, I would have dropped what I was doing and would have picked up the kids. Like I have told you plenty of times, I want to spend more time with [Son] and [Daughter]. (Yeah, that's why you took a job that requires you to work most of your hours on weekends - so you can have them in your house while you're at work. Sounds like you're really dedicated to spending more time with them.) If I knew I was getting the kids I wouldn't have signed up to work the weekend. (It wasn't overtime; this was her regular shift. How many of you "sign up" for your regular shift? Oh, that's right - you don't.) I will not work any weekend that I have [Son] and [Daughter], like I have stated to you numerous times. (She never once said this.)
Since there was no communication about the switch on either end, I am still entitled to a make-up weekend and will let you know in advance as I can which weekend I choose. (She tries and comes close to almost sounding intelligent. Poor thing...)
[The Ex]"
Husband replied, told her they switched and she didn't exercise her weekend so that was it. Also asked if she would not work on the weekends she had Son and Daughter, was she willing to forfeit the weekends she was scheduled to work? He also asked if she was willing to send him her work schedule. As expected, she did not reply.
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The Ex has been very quiet since then. I'm sure something will set her off though and we'll be back at it again.
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