Because she cares soooooo much....
Remember two Fridays ago, Son got hurt in his football game? Apparently when the coaches and trainer say that Son seems "slightly concussed" and that we also needed to have his arm checked out, The Ex understood that to mean that he needed an x-ray on his arm and absolutely nothing else checked.
Monday rolled around, I pick up Son after football practice. He gets into the vehicle and angrily asks me to pick him up after school ends on Tuesday. I ask why; Son says that he tested at school and they're saying that he has a concussion, he needs to go see a doctor, and they won't let him play in the homecoming game that Friday (I don't blame Son for being upset; I get it. He's a freshman, it's homecoming and he can't even play in the game.)
We got home, ate dinner, Husband was going to email The Ex and update her on the situation. A little while later, The Ex calls Son. Son tells her that he has a concussion. The Ex acts surprised by this (Either she is a complete idiot who literally cannot pay attention while another adult is talking to her about her own child, or she genuinely doesn't give a crap about Son and doesn't want to listen to what people say about him because it doesn't directly affect her.)
They talk for a little while; Son begins to repeatedly say, "Okay." That's it. "Okay," over and over and over again. This is when we realize that The Ex is getting ready to get off of the phone and is telling Son she loves him; Son does not want to say it back but The Ex sits on the phone repeating how much she loves him and won't hang up until he says it back. (She plays this game a lot. A LOT. I wish I was kidding about this, but I am not. Husband and I tell Son that we love him; sometimes he says it back, sometimes he doesn't. We do not force him to say it. Do you know why? Because Husband and I are confident enough in our relationship with Son that we do not have to make him say that he loves us out loud, particularly at an age when your parents are completely "uncool" and it would be the worst thing ever if people at school happened to overhear you say something like that. Anyway....)
I took Son to the doctor who said that yes, it seems Son is exhibiting some signs of concussion; nothing serious or life-altering, but enough that they don't want to throw him right back into the game. Doctor says he wants to talk to the athletic trainer at the school to discuss getting Son re-entered into football.
I have been making phone calls all week; setting up appointments, getting medical records from one doctor to the other, talking to nurses/doctors/athletic trainers/hospital staff, discussing treatment, talking to Son about how and when he'll get back onto the field, etc. I am definitely not saying this to complain because I love Son with all my heart and to me, this isn't "extra" work; it's part of the territory when you're a parent and your kids are involved in physical sports. The reason I mention it is this:
It has now been 7 days since Son told The Ex that he had a concussion. Do you think that The Ex has called or texted Son to ask how he is? Do you think The Ex has contacted Husband in any way to inquire as to Son's overall condition or to ask if/how/when he went to the doctor for this? I know I don't even have to answer, but...no, she has not. The Ex has not called to see how her child is handling his brain injury. I did not give birth to this child and I am jumping through hoops to make things happen for him, because he is just itching to get back onto the field; The Ex can't even be bothered to see how he's feeling.
She's busy, you guys. She has a job and a husband and kids and a dog. She can't be worried about Son, because she is not "with him during the week." Stop hating.
Monday rolled around, I pick up Son after football practice. He gets into the vehicle and angrily asks me to pick him up after school ends on Tuesday. I ask why; Son says that he tested at school and they're saying that he has a concussion, he needs to go see a doctor, and they won't let him play in the homecoming game that Friday (I don't blame Son for being upset; I get it. He's a freshman, it's homecoming and he can't even play in the game.)
We got home, ate dinner, Husband was going to email The Ex and update her on the situation. A little while later, The Ex calls Son. Son tells her that he has a concussion. The Ex acts surprised by this (Either she is a complete idiot who literally cannot pay attention while another adult is talking to her about her own child, or she genuinely doesn't give a crap about Son and doesn't want to listen to what people say about him because it doesn't directly affect her.)
They talk for a little while; Son begins to repeatedly say, "Okay." That's it. "Okay," over and over and over again. This is when we realize that The Ex is getting ready to get off of the phone and is telling Son she loves him; Son does not want to say it back but The Ex sits on the phone repeating how much she loves him and won't hang up until he says it back. (She plays this game a lot. A LOT. I wish I was kidding about this, but I am not. Husband and I tell Son that we love him; sometimes he says it back, sometimes he doesn't. We do not force him to say it. Do you know why? Because Husband and I are confident enough in our relationship with Son that we do not have to make him say that he loves us out loud, particularly at an age when your parents are completely "uncool" and it would be the worst thing ever if people at school happened to overhear you say something like that. Anyway....)
I took Son to the doctor who said that yes, it seems Son is exhibiting some signs of concussion; nothing serious or life-altering, but enough that they don't want to throw him right back into the game. Doctor says he wants to talk to the athletic trainer at the school to discuss getting Son re-entered into football.
I have been making phone calls all week; setting up appointments, getting medical records from one doctor to the other, talking to nurses/doctors/athletic trainers/hospital staff, discussing treatment, talking to Son about how and when he'll get back onto the field, etc. I am definitely not saying this to complain because I love Son with all my heart and to me, this isn't "extra" work; it's part of the territory when you're a parent and your kids are involved in physical sports. The reason I mention it is this:
It has now been 7 days since Son told The Ex that he had a concussion. Do you think that The Ex has called or texted Son to ask how he is? Do you think The Ex has contacted Husband in any way to inquire as to Son's overall condition or to ask if/how/when he went to the doctor for this? I know I don't even have to answer, but...no, she has not. The Ex has not called to see how her child is handling his brain injury. I did not give birth to this child and I am jumping through hoops to make things happen for him, because he is just itching to get back onto the field; The Ex can't even be bothered to see how he's feeling.
She's busy, you guys. She has a job and a husband and kids and a dog. She can't be worried about Son, because she is not "with him during the week." Stop hating.
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