"Can u answer your phone..."
Husband emailed The Ex last Tuesday telling her that if she was going to keep ignoring his emails and using the kids to communicate, he'd have no choice but to ask the court to find her in contempt.
Exactly 48 hours and one minute after Husband emailed her, The Ex tries calling him and sends a text message:
"I just wanted to know if [Son] has a game or not. (Husband told her in the email that Son wanted to go to the game whether or not he could play.) If he does. (Does she know what a comma is? Does she realize that a period ends the sentence and that indicates the end of that particular thought?) Did you fill out the form from school? (Husband told her in the email that he would do it.) Coach said it had to be handed in before school ends on Friday. (Actually, he said 1-2 days before the game. Unlike you, we don't wait until the last possible second to handle things.) On Monday I sent both you and [Son] a text about this. (This was also addressed in the email.) I sent it to [Son] so he could remember to bring the form home. (Okay, I'm game - let's play pretend and say that's the only reason you sent Son a text message that was addressed to Husband. Now explain why you sent it to Daughter, and then called Daughter on Wednesday and told her to remind both Husband and Son about the "form" that Husband already told you he would hand in on your behalf.)"
And right after:
"You called. Thanks. Please let me know as soon as possible if any thing changes" (Husband broke a huge low-contact rule here and returned her phone call. We had a discussion about this and he realizes his mistake. That aside, this text message is confusing; if Husband called, why does she have to text him to tell him that he called?)
Exactly 48 hours and one minute after Husband emailed her, The Ex tries calling him and sends a text message:
"I just wanted to know if [Son] has a game or not. (Husband told her in the email that Son wanted to go to the game whether or not he could play.) If he does. (Does she know what a comma is? Does she realize that a period ends the sentence and that indicates the end of that particular thought?) Did you fill out the form from school? (Husband told her in the email that he would do it.) Coach said it had to be handed in before school ends on Friday. (Actually, he said 1-2 days before the game. Unlike you, we don't wait until the last possible second to handle things.) On Monday I sent both you and [Son] a text about this. (This was also addressed in the email.) I sent it to [Son] so he could remember to bring the form home. (Okay, I'm game - let's play pretend and say that's the only reason you sent Son a text message that was addressed to Husband. Now explain why you sent it to Daughter, and then called Daughter on Wednesday and told her to remind both Husband and Son about the "form" that Husband already told you he would hand in on your behalf.)"
And right after:
"You called. Thanks. Please let me know as soon as possible if any thing changes" (Husband broke a huge low-contact rule here and returned her phone call. We had a discussion about this and he realizes his mistake. That aside, this text message is confusing; if Husband called, why does she have to text him to tell him that he called?)
On our way to the game, The Ex calls Daughter. Daughter talks to her for a bit, then says, "Mom is coming through [City], so how would she get to the game?" (Honestly.) We tell her we don't know; we're not driving that way so we don't know how to get there from that point. (And why is it a 12-year-old's responsibility to give directions to a 32-year-old?)
We get to the game; Daughter says that The Ex is coming by herself. I ask why (She usually brings a caravan of people because she's completely co-dependent and unable to do anything by herself. I will give you an example in a few more sentences) Daughter says that The Ex & Boyfriend's two kids are "just getting over being sick" and The Ex couldn't get a hold of Boyfriend's sister to see if she would babysit while the two of them went to the game, so Boyfriend stayed home with the kids and The Ex came to the game. (The Ex has had the football schedule since August. Once again, everything is last minute with her; now she can't find a sitter so she has to come alllll by herself, whimper whine sniffle.)
The game starts; The Ex is not around. Daughter continues to check her phone. I think it was around the second quarter, Daughter jumps up and says, "I'll be back." We do not question where she is going because we already know. The Ex has arrived and, as stated earlier, is so horrifically co-dependent that she cannot even walk into a football game by herself. It is easier for her to summon her child, have said child walk all the way across the field alone, meet her at her car, and then the two of them can come all the way back to the bleachers.
The Ex ignores most of the game, as usual. I'm certain she had no idea what the score was, or that Son wasn't even playing. For the entire fourth quarter, she and Daughter stood near the concession stand at what I'm fairly positive was the farthest spot from where Son was standing and his team was playing. Thanks for the support, Mom.
Sunday morning rolls around. We go to church. The Ex calls Husband twice in a row and then sends this:
"U don't want to answer your phone????"(Or maybe - juuuust maybe - Husband has something going on Sunday morning that wouldn't allow for him to answer your call? Maybe that's the case? And yes, she literally typed out four questions marks.)
Followed by this:
"Just wanted to know if you wanted to pickup ("Pickup" means a truck. "Pick up" means you will be acquiring someone/something. Spaces make a difference.) [Son and Daughter] in [Hometown] earlier? Can u call me back (No, but Husband can text you.)"
A few minutes later:
"If not we may be a little late getting back. I'm helping with [her cousin]'s gifts. (Her cousin got married the night before. Why this would cause her to be late getting home is beyond me; she sent this text SIX HOURS before we were supposed to pick up the kids.) Please call me back (See, Husband? This is why you don't make "one" phone call, because it will never be sufficient at just one. The Ex now expects you to continue verbal communication with her.)
Husband replies and asks what time and where. She says:
"At [her uncle]s house or [gas station]?
4:45ish or 5.
I'll let u pick which" (WOW. A 15-minute window, can you believe her flexibility?)
Husband replies that he'll meet her at her uncle's and asks for confirmation where he lives. The Ex asks which time; Husband says 5. The Ex says:
"Yeah. Off Main. (I assume this is in response to the question about where her uncle lives.) Otherwise at [gas station] to is okay. (Why do you give Husband the option, let him pick, and then try to change it?)"
"I can leave and go back. 4:30 is okay. [The Ex's sisters] r helping to(*Too. And exactly when did 4:30 become an option?)"
Husband says the gas station at 5 is perfect and says thanks. She says:
"K. Thanks to you"
Two hours later:
"We are actually all done with gift opening (Oh, look at that; it didn't take six hours) just pick up kids from [The Ex's sister]'s (Wait, what? What happened to her uncle's or the gas station?) heading Back to [Hometown] have to pick up [The Ex brother]'s dog in [other city] do u just want to meet me there."
"I need to know ASAP I need to know (Okay thanks for letting us know okay.) U did not answer your phone again." (Right - because we were at a birthday party; sorry we didn't knock over any small children to make sure we got your phone call. I just absolutely love how she changes everything at 11:30 in the morning, changes it a second time two hours later and suddenly she needs an immediate answer because HUSBAND IS NOT ANSWERING HIS PHONE, HOW DARE HE.)
Husband replies and asks where she wants the kids picked up - at her sister's? And what time? She replies:
"Can u answer your phone or Call because you are miss reading my texts" (No, Husband is not "miss reading" your texts, nor is he "mister reading" or "missus reading" your texts. You wrote, "Just pick up kids from my sisters" so he asked if you wanted them picked up from your sister's. Somehow that translates to Husband not reading messages properly...?)
Husband went to the bathroom; The Ex calls again. I answer. (I would have loved to see the look on her face.) We have a conversation about when and where to get the kids; she says to give her 45 minutes because "she'd rather be waiting than us waiting." (Um...okay. Since when does she care about anything that inconveniences us?) She says there's some place to meet, she'll let us know when she gets there. I tell her to text the address to Husband and we'll find it; we hang up.
So when it was all said and done, we picked up the kids two and a half hours early and less than half an hour from our house. This is the same woman who previously stayed at her parents all weekend long, then drove home on Sunday afternoon just to force us to drive twice as far to pick up the kids. The same woman who asked us to drive the kids to her sister's house to drop off the kids and pick them up on Sunday. The same woman who said that Husband had to drive to New City three separate times in one week to drop off the kids. Now she's meeting us early and driving halfway to our house to give us the kids??
I'm left wondering what was going on at her house that she didn't want us there.
We get to the game; Daughter says that The Ex is coming by herself. I ask why (She usually brings a caravan of people because she's completely co-dependent and unable to do anything by herself. I will give you an example in a few more sentences) Daughter says that The Ex & Boyfriend's two kids are "just getting over being sick" and The Ex couldn't get a hold of Boyfriend's sister to see if she would babysit while the two of them went to the game, so Boyfriend stayed home with the kids and The Ex came to the game. (The Ex has had the football schedule since August. Once again, everything is last minute with her; now she can't find a sitter so she has to come alllll by herself, whimper whine sniffle.)
The game starts; The Ex is not around. Daughter continues to check her phone. I think it was around the second quarter, Daughter jumps up and says, "I'll be back." We do not question where she is going because we already know. The Ex has arrived and, as stated earlier, is so horrifically co-dependent that she cannot even walk into a football game by herself. It is easier for her to summon her child, have said child walk all the way across the field alone, meet her at her car, and then the two of them can come all the way back to the bleachers.
The Ex ignores most of the game, as usual. I'm certain she had no idea what the score was, or that Son wasn't even playing. For the entire fourth quarter, she and Daughter stood near the concession stand at what I'm fairly positive was the farthest spot from where Son was standing and his team was playing. Thanks for the support, Mom.
Sunday morning rolls around. We go to church. The Ex calls Husband twice in a row and then sends this:
"U don't want to answer your phone????"(Or maybe - juuuust maybe - Husband has something going on Sunday morning that wouldn't allow for him to answer your call? Maybe that's the case? And yes, she literally typed out four questions marks.)
Followed by this:
"Just wanted to know if you wanted to pickup ("Pickup" means a truck. "Pick up" means you will be acquiring someone/something. Spaces make a difference.) [Son and Daughter] in [Hometown] earlier? Can u call me back (No, but Husband can text you.)"
A few minutes later:
"If not we may be a little late getting back. I'm helping with [her cousin]'s gifts. (Her cousin got married the night before. Why this would cause her to be late getting home is beyond me; she sent this text SIX HOURS before we were supposed to pick up the kids.) Please call me back (See, Husband? This is why you don't make "one" phone call, because it will never be sufficient at just one. The Ex now expects you to continue verbal communication with her.)
Husband replies and asks what time and where. She says:
"At [her uncle]s house or [gas station]?
4:45ish or 5.
I'll let u pick which" (WOW. A 15-minute window, can you believe her flexibility?)
Husband replies that he'll meet her at her uncle's and asks for confirmation where he lives. The Ex asks which time; Husband says 5. The Ex says:
"Yeah. Off Main. (I assume this is in response to the question about where her uncle lives.) Otherwise at [gas station] to is okay. (Why do you give Husband the option, let him pick, and then try to change it?)"
"I can leave and go back. 4:30 is okay. [The Ex's sisters] r helping to(*Too. And exactly when did 4:30 become an option?)"
Husband says the gas station at 5 is perfect and says thanks. She says:
"K. Thanks to you"
Two hours later:
"We are actually all done with gift opening (Oh, look at that; it didn't take six hours) just pick up kids from [The Ex's sister]'s (Wait, what? What happened to her uncle's or the gas station?) heading Back to [Hometown] have to pick up [The Ex brother]'s dog in [other city] do u just want to meet me there."
"I need to know ASAP I need to know (Okay thanks for letting us know okay.) U did not answer your phone again." (Right - because we were at a birthday party; sorry we didn't knock over any small children to make sure we got your phone call. I just absolutely love how she changes everything at 11:30 in the morning, changes it a second time two hours later and suddenly she needs an immediate answer because HUSBAND IS NOT ANSWERING HIS PHONE, HOW DARE HE.)
Husband replies and asks where she wants the kids picked up - at her sister's? And what time? She replies:
"Can u answer your phone or Call because you are miss reading my texts" (No, Husband is not "miss reading" your texts, nor is he "mister reading" or "missus reading" your texts. You wrote, "Just pick up kids from my sisters" so he asked if you wanted them picked up from your sister's. Somehow that translates to Husband not reading messages properly...?)
Husband went to the bathroom; The Ex calls again. I answer. (I would have loved to see the look on her face.) We have a conversation about when and where to get the kids; she says to give her 45 minutes because "she'd rather be waiting than us waiting." (Um...okay. Since when does she care about anything that inconveniences us?) She says there's some place to meet, she'll let us know when she gets there. I tell her to text the address to Husband and we'll find it; we hang up.
So when it was all said and done, we picked up the kids two and a half hours early and less than half an hour from our house. This is the same woman who previously stayed at her parents all weekend long, then drove home on Sunday afternoon just to force us to drive twice as far to pick up the kids. The same woman who asked us to drive the kids to her sister's house to drop off the kids and pick them up on Sunday. The same woman who said that Husband had to drive to New City three separate times in one week to drop off the kids. Now she's meeting us early and driving halfway to our house to give us the kids??
I'm left wondering what was going on at her house that she didn't want us there.
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