And it continues...
The Ex has been using 2houses, which is great. However, the court order says she agrees to check her email and text messages daily. There's nothing requiring her to use 2houses so The Ex could just decide to stop using it, which is why Husband wants her to sign a stipulation saying that they'll both use it. Husband sent her a copy of this stipulation on November 10th.
Among other things, Husband sent a placement change request through 2houses asking if they could switch weekends in December. The day after Husband sent the switch request, he gets a message with the subject "switch weekend":
"[Husband]
Not understanding what you want to do. You want to have the kids the weekend of December 5th? Are we switching with your weekend of the 12th? I'm not understanding what you want.
[The Ex]"
Husband replied and said that yes, he would like to switch those two weekends. He also asked if she would be signing the stipulation saying they both agree to use 2houses to communicate.
Three days later, a new message with the subject "switching weekends":
"I wouldn't mind switching weekends but [The Ex & Boyfriend's daughter] school is having their fish fry and I need to be there. Is there anyway I could pick up the kids a little bit earlier on Friday? Let me know then?"
Husband replies and asks what time she's thinking of; asks again about the stipulation and points out that this is the fourth time he's asked and has not received a response from her.
"If at all possible around 4. I'll still be a little late for serving. But her teacher said that would be fine. (None of this has any pertinence to Son or Daughter.)
Please let me know.
I would like some wording changed. (This was fifteen days after she received the stipulation. It took her over two weeks to say she wanted something changed in it.) Then yes I'll sign it. On top of that. (On top of what? On top of wanting wording changed? On top of spaghetti, all covered with cheese?) I need help on how to get in. (Um........what?) Can you help me." (I am so lost right now.)
Husband replies and says he'll see if he can get out of work a little earlier, otherwise the earliest he can get the kids home for pickup is 4:30. Husband asks what wording she would like changed, says he'll change it and send her an updated copy. Husband says he doesn't know what she needs help with and asks what she's trying to "get in to." Husband also says that he had to pay the bill for Son's stitches because she didn't; she had said 5 weeks ago she'd try to make a payment and did not make one. Husband said the hospital sent a letter saying it had to be paid in full or was going to collections, so she now owed him $200. Husband also says to let him know if 4:30 will work and if it does, then he'll pick up the kids that Sunday at the same time she picked them up on Friday.
Three and a half hours later, she replies:
"4:30 pm on December 12th will be fine with picking up [Son and Daughter]. Thanks. I suppose since I'm asking for the kids early, you'll want to pick them up earlier than? (*then) Right?" (This is, word for word, what Husband wrote to her: "If that time works, then I'll pick the kids up from you on the 14th at the same time." The Ex somehow didn't understand this.)
Husband replies that yes, he'll pick up the kids at the same time she picks them up. Husband asks again what wording she wants changed in the stipulation and if she'll have a check on Sunday for the variable expenses.
But the following, ladies and gentlemen, is my favorite correspondence through 2houses thus far. Let me rewind for a moment and say that The Ex picked up the kids on 11/21 at 5:30pm; Husband picked up the kids on 11/23 at 5:30pm; The Ex picked up the kids again on 11/25 at 5:30pm. The kids were exchanged three different times and she had nothing to say to Husband. Three different exchanges, plenty of opportunity for her to let Husband know that she needed some type of information from him.
At 7:45pm on 11/25, she sends this message through 2houses with the subject "insurance":
"I'm working on insurance from my work and I need [Son] social security number. Tomorrow is the last day. Can you please send it or text it to me."
At 8:23pm, Husband gets a text message:
"Sent you a message in 2 houses. Don't know if you got it yet. (2houses tells you if the other parent read your message or not) Anyway. I need [Son] social security number. Tomorrow is the last day for it. Don't need the card. Just the number. Otherwise I can't have him covered under my insurance. Please send it on 2 houses or text it to me please."
Husband replied at 8:36pm, said that both kids' numbers were in the divorce paperwork and that he did not want to send that information over the Internet.
The following day at 7:04am:
"I'm at work already. (Great, Husband was also at work. What does this have to do with Son or Daughter?) Still don't have [Son] social security number. (I believe that she is trying to set this up to make it appear that Husband is not working with her for when we go back to court; her only defense has ever been that whatever she did/didn't do was somehow Husband's fault. However, when you demand information at almost 8pm at night and reply 12 hours later that you "still don't have" the information, Husband is not going to be the one who looks like an idiot in front of the judge.) Not sure what will happen. (Considering that child support already sent the information to your employer, I'm sure we'll be just fine.) This site says it's a secure site." (Well, guess what? Target said their credit card machines were secure. Home Depot said their credit card machines were secure. There are these people called "hackers" and they like to get into places that they're not supposed to be. Son and Daughter's personal information will not be getting sent over the Internet - period.)
Husband sent a new message saying he is not comfortable sending the kids' information over the Internet, and repeated that she already had both kids' information so he didn't know why she was sending him a message saying that she "still didn't have" the number. Husband reminded her about her comment in October about the "lady in the office having things messed up" so he would assume this means she already had the paperwork turned in back in October. Husband said he was still waiting to hear what she would like changed in the stipulation, and asked again if she would have a check for variable expenses.
The Ex read the message on Saturday night. When Husband picked up the kids last night, she sent a check for $15. We still don't know what "wording" she wants changed in the stipulation because after being asked three times, she still hasn't replied.
Honestly, I think it's funny. Husband told her over a month ago that if she continued to ignore the court order about replying to emails, he'd file for contempt; her response to that was to claim that she wasn't getting any emails from him. Now we use 2houses, we can see that she's reading the messages but she's still not replying, so that should really help her argument that she "wasn't getting" Husband's emails.
Among other things, Husband sent a placement change request through 2houses asking if they could switch weekends in December. The day after Husband sent the switch request, he gets a message with the subject "switch weekend":
"[Husband]
Not understanding what you want to do. You want to have the kids the weekend of December 5th? Are we switching with your weekend of the 12th? I'm not understanding what you want.
[The Ex]"
Husband replied and said that yes, he would like to switch those two weekends. He also asked if she would be signing the stipulation saying they both agree to use 2houses to communicate.
Three days later, a new message with the subject "switching weekends":
"I wouldn't mind switching weekends but [The Ex & Boyfriend's daughter] school is having their fish fry and I need to be there. Is there anyway I could pick up the kids a little bit earlier on Friday? Let me know then?"
Husband replies and asks what time she's thinking of; asks again about the stipulation and points out that this is the fourth time he's asked and has not received a response from her.
"If at all possible around 4. I'll still be a little late for serving. But her teacher said that would be fine. (None of this has any pertinence to Son or Daughter.)
Please let me know.
I would like some wording changed. (This was fifteen days after she received the stipulation. It took her over two weeks to say she wanted something changed in it.) Then yes I'll sign it. On top of that. (On top of what? On top of wanting wording changed? On top of spaghetti, all covered with cheese?) I need help on how to get in. (Um........what?) Can you help me." (I am so lost right now.)
Husband replies and says he'll see if he can get out of work a little earlier, otherwise the earliest he can get the kids home for pickup is 4:30. Husband asks what wording she would like changed, says he'll change it and send her an updated copy. Husband says he doesn't know what she needs help with and asks what she's trying to "get in to." Husband also says that he had to pay the bill for Son's stitches because she didn't; she had said 5 weeks ago she'd try to make a payment and did not make one. Husband said the hospital sent a letter saying it had to be paid in full or was going to collections, so she now owed him $200. Husband also says to let him know if 4:30 will work and if it does, then he'll pick up the kids that Sunday at the same time she picked them up on Friday.
Three and a half hours later, she replies:
"4:30 pm on December 12th will be fine with picking up [Son and Daughter]. Thanks. I suppose since I'm asking for the kids early, you'll want to pick them up earlier than? (*then) Right?" (This is, word for word, what Husband wrote to her: "If that time works, then I'll pick the kids up from you on the 14th at the same time." The Ex somehow didn't understand this.)
Husband replies that yes, he'll pick up the kids at the same time she picks them up. Husband asks again what wording she wants changed in the stipulation and if she'll have a check on Sunday for the variable expenses.
But the following, ladies and gentlemen, is my favorite correspondence through 2houses thus far. Let me rewind for a moment and say that The Ex picked up the kids on 11/21 at 5:30pm; Husband picked up the kids on 11/23 at 5:30pm; The Ex picked up the kids again on 11/25 at 5:30pm. The kids were exchanged three different times and she had nothing to say to Husband. Three different exchanges, plenty of opportunity for her to let Husband know that she needed some type of information from him.
At 7:45pm on 11/25, she sends this message through 2houses with the subject "insurance":
"I'm working on insurance from my work and I need [Son] social security number. Tomorrow is the last day. Can you please send it or text it to me."
At 8:23pm, Husband gets a text message:
"Sent you a message in 2 houses. Don't know if you got it yet. (2houses tells you if the other parent read your message or not) Anyway. I need [Son] social security number. Tomorrow is the last day for it. Don't need the card. Just the number. Otherwise I can't have him covered under my insurance. Please send it on 2 houses or text it to me please."
Husband replied at 8:36pm, said that both kids' numbers were in the divorce paperwork and that he did not want to send that information over the Internet.
The following day at 7:04am:
"I'm at work already. (Great, Husband was also at work. What does this have to do with Son or Daughter?) Still don't have [Son] social security number. (I believe that she is trying to set this up to make it appear that Husband is not working with her for when we go back to court; her only defense has ever been that whatever she did/didn't do was somehow Husband's fault. However, when you demand information at almost 8pm at night and reply 12 hours later that you "still don't have" the information, Husband is not going to be the one who looks like an idiot in front of the judge.) Not sure what will happen. (Considering that child support already sent the information to your employer, I'm sure we'll be just fine.) This site says it's a secure site." (Well, guess what? Target said their credit card machines were secure. Home Depot said their credit card machines were secure. There are these people called "hackers" and they like to get into places that they're not supposed to be. Son and Daughter's personal information will not be getting sent over the Internet - period.)
Husband sent a new message saying he is not comfortable sending the kids' information over the Internet, and repeated that she already had both kids' information so he didn't know why she was sending him a message saying that she "still didn't have" the number. Husband reminded her about her comment in October about the "lady in the office having things messed up" so he would assume this means she already had the paperwork turned in back in October. Husband said he was still waiting to hear what she would like changed in the stipulation, and asked again if she would have a check for variable expenses.
The Ex read the message on Saturday night. When Husband picked up the kids last night, she sent a check for $15. We still don't know what "wording" she wants changed in the stipulation because after being asked three times, she still hasn't replied.
Honestly, I think it's funny. Husband told her over a month ago that if she continued to ignore the court order about replying to emails, he'd file for contempt; her response to that was to claim that she wasn't getting any emails from him. Now we use 2houses, we can see that she's reading the messages but she's still not replying, so that should really help her argument that she "wasn't getting" Husband's emails.
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