Change in game schedule = Husband's fault
Let's rewind to the beginning of November. Husband emailed The Ex and said that Daughter wanted to play basketball. The Ex didn't object in 48 hours, so according to the court order, that means she agreed to Daughter playing. Husband scanned the schedule and emailed it to The Ex. The Ex replied with a very angry email that included the statement, "I would not say no anyways to [Daughter] playing basketball. I know she likes playing." (Even though last spring, she said she disagreed with having to pay anything for Daughter's basketball shoes because she "didn't agree" to Daughter playing the sport.)
Twelve days later, Husband sent a change request through 2houses asking if they could switch this weekend and next weekend. The Ex replied the next day, asking if he wanted to switch weekends and saying she didn't know what he wanted. (*head against wall*) Husband replied and said yes, he'd like to switch weekends. Three days later, The Ex said she wouldn't mind switching but needed to be at her daughter's school on the Friday that Husband wanted to switch, so could she pick up Son and Daughter earlier? Husband asked what time, they went back and forth a few times and finally agreed on 4:30pm for both of them to pick up the kids next weekend.
After all of that, Daughter brought home an updated basketball schedule. Daughter has her first game this weekend; the majority of her games are on Friday nights. Husband scanned the updated schedule and sent it to The Ex, saying that Daughter's game next week had been changed to 8pm instead of 5pm (So the 4:30pm pickup wouldn't have been a possibility in the first place, but everyone completely forgot about basketball while talking about switching weekends.) Husband said that The Ex could pick up Son on Friday at 4:30pm, pick up both kids after Daughter's game ended on Friday, or pick up both kids on Saturday, and to please let him know what she wanted to do.
A few hours later:
"You have kind of messed up everyone's plans over here. (*Insert blog title here*) I have an obligation at [The Ex's daughter's] school on Friday. (Nothing pertinent to Son and Daughter in this statement, so no reason for her to include it.) The only reason I chose that Friday (*is) because the kids would be with you that weekend. (Then explain why you're always volunteering for bingo at your daughter's school on the weekends that you have Son and Daughter...? And even though it's required for you to volunteer as part of the tuition agreement, Daughter has to go with you and also volunteer?) I only agreed to change weekends because you have said already that I could pick up both kids on Friday the 12th at 4:30pm. (You're right, Husband did say that. Unfortunately, BOTH OF YOU forgot about basketball starting when you agreed to the time change. 4:30pm isn't a possibility. Stop blaming Husband.) I won't be done at her school till 8:30-9. (What does this have to do with anything?)
Saturday. (Pineapple. Koala. Shoebox. No matter how much she wants it to, one random word does not make a sentence.) [The Ex's daughter] has a birthday party she's going to. (Why would we care about this?) Yes . I'm dropping her off (That's exactly what she wrote. "Yes, space, period, space." I've posed the question jokingly, but I'm truly starting to believe that she has no idea what a comma is or how to use it.) but it's only 2 1/2 hours long. (Everything that was just typed has no effect on anything to do with Son or Daughter at all, which means Husband doesn't need to be informed of it and he doesn't care about it.) And if. (I think. I will. Write like. This from. Now on.) If I agree to picking them up on Saturday, it wouldn't be 5:30pm. It would be earlier. (Husband mentioned one time in his message to her: 4:30pm on Friday if she was picking up only Son. Husband never told her what time or day she had to pick up the kids.)
I need to get a hold of the parent throwing the party. (Why does she think we care about any of this?!) I can't answer right now. (Nobody said you needed to "answer right now." The court order says you have until Saturday afternoon to provide Husband with an answer.)
I know you wouldn't drive Friday and Saturday to [New City], so why would you think I would like doing it..."(You know what's funny about this? Husband never asked her to drive on Friday and Saturday. And you know what's even funnier? Last summer, The Ex demanded that Husband drive to New City three times in one week to drop off the kids after his placement and the kids' baseball games had ended. Yet here she is, accusing him of asking her to make the drive twice when he never once implied that she should or that she needed to. And just to nitpick, she's the one who created the distance so you're right, Husband will not make the drive twice.)
Husband replied that he was sorry about the change, he doesn't control the game schedule, and that the game time was changed after they agreed to switch weekends. Husband clarified that he didn't say The Ex needed to pick up the kids on separate days; she has left Daughter here on her weekends in the past when there were games scheduled, and that is the only reason Husband suggested picking up only Son on Friday. Husband clarified that he didn't tell her what time she had to pick up the kids on Saturday; all he said was that there were 3 options for her to get the kids and to let him know what she would like to do.
Quite honestly, I'm laughing. Despite the fact that The Ex is pretty much in contempt of court right now because she's not repaying the variables, she's not replying to messages in 48 hours like she's supposed to, and she's using the kids to communicate with Husband, she cannot manage to contain her hostility. She blames Husband for something that he had no control over and for which she is equally at fault for; she didn't think about Daughter starting basketball, either. She acts as if Husband is telling her when she's allowed to pick up the kids, when all he did was make a suggestion. She closes with the bitter statement about "knowing Husband wouldn't drive Friday and Saturday...so why would he think she would like doing it..." when Husband never once said anything about her having to drive on Friday and Saturday. In fact, this is exactly what Husband wrote:
"You could pick up [Son] at 4:30pm on Friday like we had talked about, you could pick up both kids after [Daughter's] game on Friday night, or you could pick up both kids on Saturday if that would be easier."
Never once did Husband say that The Ex needed to drive on both Friday and Saturday.
I'm sure the courts will love to see how this message played out. Absolutely hilarious.
Twelve days later, Husband sent a change request through 2houses asking if they could switch this weekend and next weekend. The Ex replied the next day, asking if he wanted to switch weekends and saying she didn't know what he wanted. (*head against wall*) Husband replied and said yes, he'd like to switch weekends. Three days later, The Ex said she wouldn't mind switching but needed to be at her daughter's school on the Friday that Husband wanted to switch, so could she pick up Son and Daughter earlier? Husband asked what time, they went back and forth a few times and finally agreed on 4:30pm for both of them to pick up the kids next weekend.
After all of that, Daughter brought home an updated basketball schedule. Daughter has her first game this weekend; the majority of her games are on Friday nights. Husband scanned the updated schedule and sent it to The Ex, saying that Daughter's game next week had been changed to 8pm instead of 5pm (So the 4:30pm pickup wouldn't have been a possibility in the first place, but everyone completely forgot about basketball while talking about switching weekends.) Husband said that The Ex could pick up Son on Friday at 4:30pm, pick up both kids after Daughter's game ended on Friday, or pick up both kids on Saturday, and to please let him know what she wanted to do.
A few hours later:
"You have kind of messed up everyone's plans over here. (*Insert blog title here*) I have an obligation at [The Ex's daughter's] school on Friday. (Nothing pertinent to Son and Daughter in this statement, so no reason for her to include it.) The only reason I chose that Friday (*is) because the kids would be with you that weekend. (Then explain why you're always volunteering for bingo at your daughter's school on the weekends that you have Son and Daughter...? And even though it's required for you to volunteer as part of the tuition agreement, Daughter has to go with you and also volunteer?) I only agreed to change weekends because you have said already that I could pick up both kids on Friday the 12th at 4:30pm. (You're right, Husband did say that. Unfortunately, BOTH OF YOU forgot about basketball starting when you agreed to the time change. 4:30pm isn't a possibility. Stop blaming Husband.) I won't be done at her school till 8:30-9. (What does this have to do with anything?)
Saturday. (Pineapple. Koala. Shoebox. No matter how much she wants it to, one random word does not make a sentence.) [The Ex's daughter] has a birthday party she's going to. (Why would we care about this?) Yes . I'm dropping her off (That's exactly what she wrote. "Yes, space, period, space." I've posed the question jokingly, but I'm truly starting to believe that she has no idea what a comma is or how to use it.) but it's only 2 1/2 hours long. (Everything that was just typed has no effect on anything to do with Son or Daughter at all, which means Husband doesn't need to be informed of it and he doesn't care about it.) And if. (I think. I will. Write like. This from. Now on.) If I agree to picking them up on Saturday, it wouldn't be 5:30pm. It would be earlier. (Husband mentioned one time in his message to her: 4:30pm on Friday if she was picking up only Son. Husband never told her what time or day she had to pick up the kids.)
I need to get a hold of the parent throwing the party. (Why does she think we care about any of this?!) I can't answer right now. (Nobody said you needed to "answer right now." The court order says you have until Saturday afternoon to provide Husband with an answer.)
I know you wouldn't drive Friday and Saturday to [New City], so why would you think I would like doing it..."(You know what's funny about this? Husband never asked her to drive on Friday and Saturday. And you know what's even funnier? Last summer, The Ex demanded that Husband drive to New City three times in one week to drop off the kids after his placement and the kids' baseball games had ended. Yet here she is, accusing him of asking her to make the drive twice when he never once implied that she should or that she needed to. And just to nitpick, she's the one who created the distance so you're right, Husband will not make the drive twice.)
Husband replied that he was sorry about the change, he doesn't control the game schedule, and that the game time was changed after they agreed to switch weekends. Husband clarified that he didn't say The Ex needed to pick up the kids on separate days; she has left Daughter here on her weekends in the past when there were games scheduled, and that is the only reason Husband suggested picking up only Son on Friday. Husband clarified that he didn't tell her what time she had to pick up the kids on Saturday; all he said was that there were 3 options for her to get the kids and to let him know what she would like to do.
Quite honestly, I'm laughing. Despite the fact that The Ex is pretty much in contempt of court right now because she's not repaying the variables, she's not replying to messages in 48 hours like she's supposed to, and she's using the kids to communicate with Husband, she cannot manage to contain her hostility. She blames Husband for something that he had no control over and for which she is equally at fault for; she didn't think about Daughter starting basketball, either. She acts as if Husband is telling her when she's allowed to pick up the kids, when all he did was make a suggestion. She closes with the bitter statement about "knowing Husband wouldn't drive Friday and Saturday...so why would he think she would like doing it..." when Husband never once said anything about her having to drive on Friday and Saturday. In fact, this is exactly what Husband wrote:
"You could pick up [Son] at 4:30pm on Friday like we had talked about, you could pick up both kids after [Daughter's] game on Friday night, or you could pick up both kids on Saturday if that would be easier."
Never once did Husband say that The Ex needed to drive on both Friday and Saturday.
I'm sure the courts will love to see how this message played out. Absolutely hilarious.
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