"I'm glad he's going through with it."
Son told me last month that he was considering signing up for wrestling; he said the downside is that there are a lot of tournaments on Saturdays, which meant he wouldn't be spending time with The Ex. I asked if there was any other reason he wouldn't want to join and he said no, that was the only one. I told him that even if he joined, he'd still see The Ex; if Daughter had a basketball game on a Saturday, The Ex would come to the game and take them home with her after the game ended. I told him that participating didn't mean he wouldn't see The Ex at all, it would just delay it a few hours.
That same night, Son mentioned that his cousin on The Ex's side had told him he'd pick Son up during the summer. Son said he wouldn't mind staying a week or more at his aunt and uncle's, helping out on the farm, and spending time with his cousins. I told Son that I wasn't trying to aggravate him or make fun of him, but I had an honest question: why would he be willing to spend a week or more with his cousins in the summer, but wouldn't sign up for wrestling? Either way, he wouldn't be spending time with The Ex. Son thought about it, then said, "I don't like you," and started laughing. I told both him and Daughter that if they wanted to participate in a certain sport, then they should do it. They are only going to be this age once and they have zero responsibilities and obligations at this point; as they get older, they'll have less time and eventually less energy to do that things that they want to do. I told them I understood that they wanted to spend time with their mom, but this was only a few days a month; it wasn't permanent, it wasn't all day, and I'm sure that The Ex would love to watch them do these things (Fine, I lied when I said that last part but only because it was beneficial to them.) Son said he'd think about it.
Well, yesterday Son decided to participate in wrestling practice. (Which I didn't know about until we were ready to go home and couldn't find him at the school.) I asked if he was going to sign up; he said yes and I needed to fill out some paperwork at the office.
Just to cover all the bases, Husband sent The Ex a message saying that Son told us he'd like to join the wrestling team and would send more information to her once he had it.
An hour later:
"I'm glad he's going through with it. (I find it interesting that she didn't agree to Daughter playing basketball two years ago, she didn't agree to either of the kids playing baseball two years ago, she tried to convince Son not to play football both this past year and the year before, she sent home some BS article about concussions two months after football had ended...yet now she's "glad" that Son is signing up for wrestling?) [Son] and I have discussed wrestling actually this last week. (See what she did there? "Son told you tonight; he told ME last week. I win!" I take great pleasure in knowing that while The Ex thinks she's proving a point by saying that she already talked to Son about this, he chose to talk to me about it two weeks before he even brought it up to his biological mother.) Please send me the information when you get it. (Yes, that's exactly what Husband said he was going to do. You don't have to ask him.)"
Granted, it has been quite a few years since I was in high school so things may have changed. However, when I had friends in high school, their meets/tournaments were almost always on Saturdays. And they traveled. They traveled over an hour. The Ex already whines about the poor weather for Daughter's basketball games; I cannot wait to hear her complain about this.
That same night, Son mentioned that his cousin on The Ex's side had told him he'd pick Son up during the summer. Son said he wouldn't mind staying a week or more at his aunt and uncle's, helping out on the farm, and spending time with his cousins. I told Son that I wasn't trying to aggravate him or make fun of him, but I had an honest question: why would he be willing to spend a week or more with his cousins in the summer, but wouldn't sign up for wrestling? Either way, he wouldn't be spending time with The Ex. Son thought about it, then said, "I don't like you," and started laughing. I told both him and Daughter that if they wanted to participate in a certain sport, then they should do it. They are only going to be this age once and they have zero responsibilities and obligations at this point; as they get older, they'll have less time and eventually less energy to do that things that they want to do. I told them I understood that they wanted to spend time with their mom, but this was only a few days a month; it wasn't permanent, it wasn't all day, and I'm sure that The Ex would love to watch them do these things (Fine, I lied when I said that last part but only because it was beneficial to them.) Son said he'd think about it.
Well, yesterday Son decided to participate in wrestling practice. (Which I didn't know about until we were ready to go home and couldn't find him at the school.) I asked if he was going to sign up; he said yes and I needed to fill out some paperwork at the office.
Just to cover all the bases, Husband sent The Ex a message saying that Son told us he'd like to join the wrestling team and would send more information to her once he had it.
An hour later:
"I'm glad he's going through with it. (I find it interesting that she didn't agree to Daughter playing basketball two years ago, she didn't agree to either of the kids playing baseball two years ago, she tried to convince Son not to play football both this past year and the year before, she sent home some BS article about concussions two months after football had ended...yet now she's "glad" that Son is signing up for wrestling?) [Son] and I have discussed wrestling actually this last week. (See what she did there? "Son told you tonight; he told ME last week. I win!" I take great pleasure in knowing that while The Ex thinks she's proving a point by saying that she already talked to Son about this, he chose to talk to me about it two weeks before he even brought it up to his biological mother.) Please send me the information when you get it. (Yes, that's exactly what Husband said he was going to do. You don't have to ask him.)"
Granted, it has been quite a few years since I was in high school so things may have changed. However, when I had friends in high school, their meets/tournaments were almost always on Saturdays. And they traveled. They traveled over an hour. The Ex already whines about the poor weather for Daughter's basketball games; I cannot wait to hear her complain about this.
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