I'm not understanding her level of confusion.
After the drama on Monday night when The Ex very predictably blamed Husband for her lack of coverage, Husband sent another message on Wednesday. He said that Daughter's coach had let us know that her game was moved back an hour; Husband said he updated the calendar on 2houses. Husband said he looked through our papers and didn't have the kids' birth certificates (The ones that The Ex needs him to give her copies of, because God forbid she should have to take any initiative whatsoever and request a copy from the states they were born in. No no, this is Husband's responsibility.) Husband said that this was now the seventh (Yup, you read that correctly) and final time he'd be asking for her insurance info. He said Daughter should be covered even if Son was not, and that if The Ex continued to refuse to provide her information, Husband would have no choice but to request that the court take action.
I'd like to take a minute and post a picture for all of you devoted readers. This is a screen capture of the 2houses calendar. The only edits have been to remove names and locations. Otherwise, this is exactly what both Husband and The Ex see when they log in to the website and view the calendar:
That's pretty clear, isn't it? States the location, date and time of Daughter's basketball game. Not to mention that Husband sent The Ex the schedule months ago, and he literally just told her what time the game would be.
The Ex replies:
"[Daughters] game starts at 7pm? In [city name]? Right? (Husband wrote, "[Daughter's] coach...said her game this Friday was moved back from 8pm to 7pm." The calendar says, "7:00pm." I am unable to comprehend what is so confusing about this.)
Ionly have 1 copy of the insurance card. (I call bullsh*t on this and will outline below this paragraph.) I have a copy of it and will be giving it to you on Friday. (So...she's going to provide us with a photocopy of her insurance card? Husband is getting a copy of a copy? Is that what she's saying?)"
I'd like to give The Ex the benefit of the doubt. The problem is that she's completely predictable, and she played this exact game four years ago. Husband asked for an insurance card for something like 2-3 weeks; The Ex claimed she only had one insurance card and didn't have any extras to give to him. (Husband's insurance always sends out two copies immediately. Every single year, we only get one copy with a letter addressed to Husband stating that The Ex was mailed one of our two copies because he's court-ordered to provide insurance.) I called the HR rep at her company, who said she was given more than one card at the beginning of the year and could always order more if she needed them. Husband asked again for a card. The Ex said she only had one and she needed it for her daughter. Husband repeated to her what her HR rep stated; The Ex got defensive, accused Husband of "snooping around her work" and hung up on him. Husband had to send a physical letter threatening court action if she kept refusing to give him a card. A few days later, The Ex left him a voicemail saying she had called her insurance and ordered extra cards. Because, you know...don't just do that right away. Lie about how many cards you have, hang up in the middle of a conversation, ignore repeated civil requests, and only react when you're threatened with court. THAT is how cool people do it.
The last time we went through this, Husband got a card two months after he first requested it. The Ex had scratched off Boyfriend's name, in what we assumed was an attempt to hide that they were married; she was not smart enough to realize that her last name on the insurance card was Boyfriend's last name, so she really wasn't "hiding" anything. Plus we had found out three months prior that they had gotten married.
Just to cover the bases, Husband sent a message telling The Ex that she could enter her insurance information on 2houses. (She hasn't yet.) He then sent another message, asking her to please bring the letter from her insurance company and the paperwork she was provided to fax in Son's birth certificate. (The reason for this is two-fold. This first is that these documents should have dates on them, which can make or break The Ex's story. The second reason this is being requested is because The Ex is getting called out on all of her lies. She claimed that she provided Husband with the fax number to submit Son's birth certificate; she did not. I spoke to an HR rep at her current job, who stated that if The Ex was supposed to submit additional information, she would have been given a fax cover sheet that would need to accompany any documents being submitted; The Ex never provided this cover sheet so even if she had given Husband the fax number, it wouldn't have done any good because the insurance company would have no way to reference the submission.) Husband said he would make copies and return the items to her on Sunday.
So I am anxiously awaiting to see what Husband gets tomorrow night. Twenty bucks says this "copy" of her insurance card has information crossed off or missing, like she covered half of it with a sheet of paper and then photo-copied it. And you can rest assured, I will inform all of you as to what happens ;)
I'd like to take a minute and post a picture for all of you devoted readers. This is a screen capture of the 2houses calendar. The only edits have been to remove names and locations. Otherwise, this is exactly what both Husband and The Ex see when they log in to the website and view the calendar:
The Ex replies:
"[Daughters] game starts at 7pm? In [city name]? Right? (Husband wrote, "[Daughter's] coach...said her game this Friday was moved back from 8pm to 7pm." The calendar says, "7:00pm." I am unable to comprehend what is so confusing about this.)
Ionly have 1 copy of the insurance card. (I call bullsh*t on this and will outline below this paragraph.) I have a copy of it and will be giving it to you on Friday. (So...she's going to provide us with a photocopy of her insurance card? Husband is getting a copy of a copy? Is that what she's saying?)"
I'd like to give The Ex the benefit of the doubt. The problem is that she's completely predictable, and she played this exact game four years ago. Husband asked for an insurance card for something like 2-3 weeks; The Ex claimed she only had one insurance card and didn't have any extras to give to him. (Husband's insurance always sends out two copies immediately. Every single year, we only get one copy with a letter addressed to Husband stating that The Ex was mailed one of our two copies because he's court-ordered to provide insurance.) I called the HR rep at her company, who said she was given more than one card at the beginning of the year and could always order more if she needed them. Husband asked again for a card. The Ex said she only had one and she needed it for her daughter. Husband repeated to her what her HR rep stated; The Ex got defensive, accused Husband of "snooping around her work" and hung up on him. Husband had to send a physical letter threatening court action if she kept refusing to give him a card. A few days later, The Ex left him a voicemail saying she had called her insurance and ordered extra cards. Because, you know...don't just do that right away. Lie about how many cards you have, hang up in the middle of a conversation, ignore repeated civil requests, and only react when you're threatened with court. THAT is how cool people do it.
The last time we went through this, Husband got a card two months after he first requested it. The Ex had scratched off Boyfriend's name, in what we assumed was an attempt to hide that they were married; she was not smart enough to realize that her last name on the insurance card was Boyfriend's last name, so she really wasn't "hiding" anything. Plus we had found out three months prior that they had gotten married.
Just to cover the bases, Husband sent a message telling The Ex that she could enter her insurance information on 2houses. (She hasn't yet.) He then sent another message, asking her to please bring the letter from her insurance company and the paperwork she was provided to fax in Son's birth certificate. (The reason for this is two-fold. This first is that these documents should have dates on them, which can make or break The Ex's story. The second reason this is being requested is because The Ex is getting called out on all of her lies. She claimed that she provided Husband with the fax number to submit Son's birth certificate; she did not. I spoke to an HR rep at her current job, who stated that if The Ex was supposed to submit additional information, she would have been given a fax cover sheet that would need to accompany any documents being submitted; The Ex never provided this cover sheet so even if she had given Husband the fax number, it wouldn't have done any good because the insurance company would have no way to reference the submission.) Husband said he would make copies and return the items to her on Sunday.
So I am anxiously awaiting to see what Husband gets tomorrow night. Twenty bucks says this "copy" of her insurance card has information crossed off or missing, like she covered half of it with a sheet of paper and then photo-copied it. And you can rest assured, I will inform all of you as to what happens ;)
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