"People do get bihind..."

  Placement exchange has kind of always been an issue for The Ex.  When she had custody, she'd frequently drop the kids off late; if Husband said anything about it, she'd swear at him and hang up.  Now that we have custody, she always wants to pick them up early or wants Husband to pick them up late.  The Ex never tries to make arrangements in advance; typically she calls when she's half an hour away from our house and asks to pick the kids up early.  Then if Husband wants to pick them up at the same time on Sunday, The Ex acts offended that Husband wants them "early."

  For almost a full year now, placement exchange time has been at 5:30pm.  Yes, there is the occasional rearranging of the place or time but Husband typically discusses it beforehand.  Most of the time, the exchanges take place at 5:30pm at the home of the parent ending custody.

  Yesterday, Husband drove to New City.  He got there early, like he usually does; he finds ways to occupy himself until it's exchange time. (The kids have told us before that even if Husband is only a couple of minutes early, The Ex will not let them walk out the door until the clock reads exactly 5:30pm.)

  Then he starts getting text messages.  At 4:55pm:
"Your not answering my phone calls." (*you're)
  At 4:56pm:
"I'm running a little bit behind.  We were up north." (Both kids' phones have apps to locate them if they get lost.  The phones showed both kids were in New City on Friday and Saturday.  But here is The Ex, claiming that they were "up north.")
  At 4:57pm:
"Just wanted to ask if you wanted to pick up in [other city].  We'll just be entering [Hometown] in a few minutes." (According to Google Maps, Hometown is 52 minutes away from The Ex's house; assuming she was driving exactly the speed limit, The Ex should have been at her house at 5:50pm at the latest.)
  At 4:58pm:
"Otherwise you'll just have to wait" (....excuse me?!)
  At 5:09pm:
"Since you did not answer I am going through [another city] (I don't care where you go.  You're supposed to be here in 21 minutes.) we will just meet at the house sorry I will be late"

  At 5:15pm, Husband looked at his phone and saw these texts.  He replied that he was already in New City, exchange time was 5:30pm and he would see her then.

  At 5:19pm:
"Well if it helps I can meet you at Walmart. (How does that help?  Will meeting at Walmart make you not be late?) People do get bihind (Twenty-three minutes ago, she spelled "behind" the correct way.  I have no idea how she made this error.), today was one of those days. (You are chronically late.  Today is not special.) Let me know I am going to be getting into [another city]." (Let you know what, exactly?  You're late.  You're not supposed to be.  What is there for Husband to "let you know"?)

  At 5:45pm, Husband sent her a text saying he was still waiting at her house and she was now 15 minutes late for the exchange.  At 6:03pm, Husband sent her a text saying she was now half an hour late for the exchange.  At 6:09pm, Husband sent her another text saying she was forty minutes late for the exchange; The Ex showed up shortly after.

  It's roughly a 2-hour drive from The Ex's parents house "up north" to her house in New City.  Daughter told me last night that she was eating pizza around 4pm.  If we're giving The Ex the benefit of the doubt and trusting that they actually were up north, Daughter was eating half an hour after they should have already been on the road.  But Husband should just get over it; he'll "just have to wait" because "people do get bihind."

  The only "apology" The Ex offered was when she announced 20 minutes before exchange time that she was going to be late.