"Plans were made months ago."
Husband recently filled out the summer schedule for both Son and Daughter on 2houses. (With the kids in two different schools now, we have to figure out who goes where and when; it takes a little extra time and we like to make sure that everything is correct before sending it to The Ex.) At the same time, he sent The Ex a message with a receipt and asked if she had gotten Son covered under her insurance; he reminded her that Son needs braces and the out-of-pocket cost will be a lot less for both of them if Son has two insurances paying for it.
Twenty-eight hours later, The Ex reads and ignores Husband's message and question. The Ex then sends an entirely new message with the subject, "[The Ex's sister's name] Wedding" and she wrote:
"The weekend of June 26th, the kids and I are in [The Ex's sister] and [The Ex's brother-in-law] Wedding. (Yes, "wedding" was capitalized. Daughter already told me that The Ex was standing up and that she had gone with The Ex to get her dress for the occasion; Daughter never said anything about her or Son being in the wedding, which is actually a vow renewal and not a "Wedding.") I will have to change weekends. (...excuse me?) Sorry if thisinconveniences you. But plans were made months ago. (So if we make plans with the kids on Christmas Day when The Ex is supposed to have them, do we just announce to her that we're changing weekends? No, we do not because it doesn't work that way.)"
Husband replied in the required 48 hours and told The Ex that if she is going to make plans specific to a certain weekend involving the kids, then she should have let him know ahead of time; Husband said that their placement schedule is not based on The Ex telling him when he can or can't have their kids. Husband said he would see what we had going on that weekend and if we were able to rearrange our plans; he also pointed out that the weekend The Ex wanted to change was part of a holiday weekend so he would still have placement that Sunday even if they switched weekends. Husband also said he had asked three days prior about Son being covered under The Ex's insurance; 2houses was showing that The Ex read the message but she did not answer. Husband asked The Ex to please respond in 48 hours like she had agreed to do.
The part about all of this that I find so incredibly irritating is The Ex's announcement that she is going to "have" to change weekends. She didn't ask; she didn't request; she didn't say how much this would mean to her family for Son and Daughter to be there at their aunt and uncle's vow renewal. She simply said, "I will have to change weekends." What compounded my frustration was that shortly before this, Husband had asked to switch weekends; The Ex refused to switch claiming that she had plans. Because of her refusal to switch, not only did Son and Daughter miss a very important milestone birthday party for someone on our side of the family, but Husband was forced to miss the party as well because he had to drive almost three hours round trip to pick up Son and Daughter from The Ex's. Half of our family missed something very important because of The Ex's refusal to switch weekends, but nineteen days later she is going to send Husband a message telling him when he'll be able to have placement?? Nope. Not even close to happening.
Eighty-eight hours ago, the message had been read. Husband is still waiting for a response as to whether or not Son has insurance coverage.
Twenty-eight hours later, The Ex reads and ignores Husband's message and question. The Ex then sends an entirely new message with the subject, "[The Ex's sister's name] Wedding" and she wrote:
"The weekend of June 26th, the kids and I are in [The Ex's sister] and [The Ex's brother-in-law] Wedding. (Yes, "wedding" was capitalized. Daughter already told me that The Ex was standing up and that she had gone with The Ex to get her dress for the occasion; Daughter never said anything about her or Son being in the wedding, which is actually a vow renewal and not a "Wedding.") I will have to change weekends. (...excuse me?) Sorry if thisinconveniences you. But plans were made months ago. (So if we make plans with the kids on Christmas Day when The Ex is supposed to have them, do we just announce to her that we're changing weekends? No, we do not because it doesn't work that way.)"
Husband replied in the required 48 hours and told The Ex that if she is going to make plans specific to a certain weekend involving the kids, then she should have let him know ahead of time; Husband said that their placement schedule is not based on The Ex telling him when he can or can't have their kids. Husband said he would see what we had going on that weekend and if we were able to rearrange our plans; he also pointed out that the weekend The Ex wanted to change was part of a holiday weekend so he would still have placement that Sunday even if they switched weekends. Husband also said he had asked three days prior about Son being covered under The Ex's insurance; 2houses was showing that The Ex read the message but she did not answer. Husband asked The Ex to please respond in 48 hours like she had agreed to do.
The part about all of this that I find so incredibly irritating is The Ex's announcement that she is going to "have" to change weekends. She didn't ask; she didn't request; she didn't say how much this would mean to her family for Son and Daughter to be there at their aunt and uncle's vow renewal. She simply said, "I will have to change weekends." What compounded my frustration was that shortly before this, Husband had asked to switch weekends; The Ex refused to switch claiming that she had plans. Because of her refusal to switch, not only did Son and Daughter miss a very important milestone birthday party for someone on our side of the family, but Husband was forced to miss the party as well because he had to drive almost three hours round trip to pick up Son and Daughter from The Ex's. Half of our family missed something very important because of The Ex's refusal to switch weekends, but nineteen days later she is going to send Husband a message telling him when he'll be able to have placement?? Nope. Not even close to happening.
Eighty-eight hours ago, the message had been read. Husband is still waiting for a response as to whether or not Son has insurance coverage.
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