It's All My Husband's Fault

  There always seems to be some form of contention over shoes.  In 2005 while the divorce was pending, The Ex requested that her child support be increased.  Her reason:  Husband had bought new shoes for himself.   In 2012, we got a court order requiring The Ex to contribute to Son and Daughter's variable expenses.  One month after this, The Ex took the kids shoe shopping right before Husband was supposed to pick them up.  The Ex typically would not allow the kids to wear any of "her" clothing or shoes to our house but if they did, she would call Husband and ask him to make sure it was returned on her next visitation weekend.  But since there was now an order that they split the cost of the kids' variable items, The Ex handed Husband a receipt for almost $95 under the impression that he was going to owe her around $64.  Despite showing her the court order saying that shoes are not covered and that expenses over $75 needed to be discuss...

  Sunday afternoon, Boyfriend showed up at The Ex's "temporary" residence despite the restraining order telling him he is not allowed there; someone there called the police and he was arrested.   Monday afternoon, Boyfriend posted bond and was released around 3pm.  Within 40 minutes, the police were called back to The Ex's residence because Boyfriend showed up again after getting out of jail.   As I type this, Boyfriend is still  in jail.  He also got another ticket for operating after revocation and has court tomorrow morning; I don't know how he'll attend if he's in jail in another county.   My assumption at this point is that The Ex and her parents are keeping him away from his kids and he's desperate.  I just can't understand what he's thinking...

  The Ex had a job for almost 6 years until she was fired for "attendance issues."  This was 2 years after she was required to start paying child support.   From March 2012 until April 2013, she collected unemployment and didn't work at all; Boyfriend supported her and their kids.   Once she ran it of unemployment benefits, she got a part-time job cleaning hotel rooms. Around the time she decided to be an adult and actually attempt to support herself, child support filed for contempt against her because she wasn't paying as ordered and wasn't completing work searches as required.  The Ex filed a motion asking for her child support to be reduced.    At the hearing in August 2013, The Ex was ordered to complete no less than 10 job searches per week until she found a job that would give her at least 40 hours per week and pay at least $10 per hour.   The Ex finally got a full-time job through a temp agency in January 2014 and was hired ...

  I got copies of the petition for the restraining order filed against Boyfriend.  The petition itself was relatively boring.  What was interesting was the written statement that The Ex attached to it explaining why she was asking for the order.  After reading it, I'll go right ahead and admit it:  I'm angry. "I met [Boyfriend] in March of 2007 and at that time he was a heavy drinker( But you still chose to uproot your two children and move in with him?  Thank you for admitting that in writing. ) and over time the drinking progressively has gotten worse. ( But you chose to marry him and have two kids with him. )  He has an order from immigration that states he is not allowed to drink, which he still does on a regular basis (a minimum of 2-3 days a week). ( You are also ordered by the family court not to allow Boyfriend to drink while the kids are in your placement.  Again, thank you for admitting in writing that you are not following the court o...

  The week started with The Ex sending angry texts to Husband, yelling about him not answering his phone or returning her calls even though she hasn't called him for over a month.  That was followed by another message on 2houses wherein The Ex replied that she "knew [Husband] would throw a fit" in response to him asking one single question.  To summarize, Husband received on Monday a total of five text messages, one email and four messages on 2houses; the majority of them were hostile and/or accusatory.   Tuesday afternoon: "Hi.  You said you fixed/updated the Memorial weekend. ( Actually, what he said was the calendar changed when the site updated and that it should be fixed as of the time he sent the reply message. )  It is still not fixed. ( Wait until you hear why! ) Pick up that weekend should be Monday at 5:30pm" ( That's her reason.  The exchange time is not listed so the calendar is "still not fixed." )   The calendar primarily shows ...

  Son asked when The Ex was picking the two of them up this weekend; we tell him that we don't know because honestly, we don't know.  Son asked if he was getting picked up on Friday and Daughter was getting picked up on Saturday.  Again, we said we don't know.  We tell them what we do know:  The Ex asked to switch weekends saying it was too much for her to drive here twice in a row, then said the weekends we could switch wouldn't work for her and she'd figure something out.  She told us this on April 24th and we heard nothing since then.  That is to say, it's been relatively peaceful and quiet over here.   On Sunday, 2houses sent an email to everyone who has an account saying that they were updating the website.  They said the mobile apps could also be updated but if the apps weren't working, then you would need to log in using the website; they warned there might be issues but to try again shortly after and the site should be back up. ...