She's kicked it into Crazy Gear
Son asked when The Ex was picking the two of them up this weekend; we tell him that we don't know because honestly, we don't know. Son asked if he was getting picked up on Friday and Daughter was getting picked up on Saturday. Again, we said we don't know. We tell them what we do know: The Ex asked to switch weekends saying it was too much for her to drive here twice in a row, then said the weekends we could switch wouldn't work for her and she'd figure something out. She told us this on April 24th and we heard nothing since then. That is to say, it's been relatively peaceful and quiet over here.
On Sunday, 2houses sent an email to everyone who has an account saying that they were updating the website. They said the mobile apps could also be updated but if the apps weren't working, then you would need to log in using the website; they warned there might be issues but to try again shortly after and the site should be back up. Since Husband got this email, it's easy to assume that The Ex got the same email.
Husband sent a message on Sunday night just to let The Ex know that the school was giving out snacks and drinks after each play performance. He said he wasn't sure what her plans were but wanted to let her know so that she could plan on Daughter being there a little later.
The next morning, the insanity started. First, it came by text message:
"I'm trying to look at your updated play information (It is not "Husband's" information because Husband is not in the play) and it let's (*lets) me get in and said page doesn't exist. (The website creator emailed everyone about this. You were literally told one day prior that this was going to happen.) I don't know what I'm doing with this 2 houses you started. (The only thing she's ever done on 2houses is send messages. It's the same thing as sending an email.) I didn't know how it worked when you guys started it (We did not "start" anything. 2houses existed a long time before Husband signed up for it.) and now it's even more complicated. (They made some changes to the website but everything still works exactly the same. There is nothing complicated about it.) When I call why don't you EVER answer. You NEVER call me back. (She didn't even call Husband, so I have no idea where this is coming from.) What is up with all that. (Um, you're insane and start sending angry text messages after not saying anything to Husband for weeks on end. That might be a good start to understanding "what is up with all that.") Over here there is minimal service. Very hard to look at anything let alone down load (*download) stuff. (Why do I care about your Internet connection? You agreed to check your email once a day; figure something out. Also, Husband didn't send you anything that needed to be downloaded.) Can you please tell me what has changed for [Daughters] play?"
Then came an email:
"Hi [Husband],
I wanted to update you on my current address. It's only temporary.
[Address of her parents' trailer]
Wish you would answer your phone and/call me back. (She wishes that Husband would "and/call her back.") But as usual you haven't. (She literally never called. Husband and I have no idea what she's talking about.)
[The Ex]"
Immediately after she sent the email, she sent another text:
"Since I couldn't get through with 2 houses. (This is not a sentence.) I sent you an email. Please look at it." (Why was this necessary?)
Nine minutes later, she sent the first message on 2houses; it was a reply to the message Husband had sent about Daughter's play:
"Finally was able to get all the way in. Got your message." (Husband gave her information; he didn't ask her anything so no response was required. Why does she reply to this message, but refuses to answer his messages when he asks her questions?)
Six minutes later, she sent a second message on 2houses:
"I did send you an email because I couldn't get through on this 2 houses. I wanted to update you on my new address. It's only temporary.
[Address of her parents' trailer]
[The Ex]"
Fourteen minutes later, she sent a third message on 2houses: (She sure seems to be firing off a lot of messages for someone who "doesn't know what she's doing.")
"Can you please take another look at the placement schedule. Am I picking up the kids on Tuesday this week? I'm very confused. (When the website updated, it glitched and was showing that The Ex had placement all week starting Tuesday. Still don't know how that happened but whatever. Minor detail.)
Also, I have the kids every memorial weekend. That is not updated on the calendar either. Please look at this. Thanks" (The calendar already showed that The Ex had placement that weekend. Husband had already updated the calendar to reflect that she would also have placement that Monday. Again, some issue with the website update changed what he had done. It really wasn't that big of a deal because we know she gets the kids on Memorial Day weekend; nobody was trying to trick her.)
Husband fixed the calendar and replied to the last message saying the calendar changed when the site updated but it should be fixed now. Husband then replied to the second message, asking if he'd be picking up the kids in Another City (Only because she's asked him quite a few times recently if that's where he'd like to meet.); Husband pointed out that her choice to move added an extra hour of drive time that is not part of the court order.
Husband sent one final message to address the ranting messages she had sent, saying that he got five texts from her this morning but did not have any missed calls or voice messages. (We all know how much she loves to leave a voice mail asking/demanding that he return her call. She never called but complained repeatedly that he wasn't answering or calling her back.) Husband repeated he would communicate with her in writing and that the guardian ad litem agreed it was best for both of them. Husband pointed out that he started using 2houses because she claimed she wasn't getting his texts or emails. (This is because she was complaining that she didn't know how to use the site.) Husband told her that if she can get online to send an email, then she should be able to get into a website. (This is referencing her statement that service is "minimal" by her and it's "very hard to look at" anything.) Husband again pointed out that she was not following the court order about communication or about answering questions, and asked her to do what she had agreed to do so that they could avoid court.
Over twelve hours later, she replied to the message about exchanges:
"Since I knew you would throw a fit about this distance, I had aready (Not my typo) Googled distances from your house to this address and it would be the same as driving from your house to [Tourist City]. (Okay, that's all good and fine. Why didn't you just say that to begin with?) If you are not satisfied with this arrangement, then we will just have to pick up at each others houses. (Right, except "your" house is in New City, not Tiny City.) Per court order, it states that pick up will be at each others houses. This is my residence as of now." (I just love when she tries to interpret the court order to suit whatever she's doing at the moment. Makes me laugh every single time.)
Husband replied and agreed that yes, the order does say they will pick up at each other's houses; the order applied to when The Ex lived in New City. Husband said that she made a choice to move which is a substantial change in circumstances so the order needs to be changed. Husband said that they could talk about it themselves or let the court decide; he tried asking her a question only to be told that he's throwing a fit. Husband said he would agree to meet in Tourist City instead of New City for exchanges and let her know where he'd like to meet; he said she could still pick up and drop off the kids at his house like previously agreed. (Wording had to be chosen very carefully here. If we would have said, "Tourist City is okay" then she would have argued that we agreed all placement exchanges would have taken place in Tourist City and insisted that we drive out there every Friday and Sunday.)
I'm trying to figure out what's going on; something had to have pissed her off because nothing else explains this level of unprovoked hostility at 7:30am on a Monday morning. My guess is New Guy broke up with her or she finally realized he's not leaving his wife.
On Sunday, 2houses sent an email to everyone who has an account saying that they were updating the website. They said the mobile apps could also be updated but if the apps weren't working, then you would need to log in using the website; they warned there might be issues but to try again shortly after and the site should be back up. Since Husband got this email, it's easy to assume that The Ex got the same email.
Husband sent a message on Sunday night just to let The Ex know that the school was giving out snacks and drinks after each play performance. He said he wasn't sure what her plans were but wanted to let her know so that she could plan on Daughter being there a little later.
The next morning, the insanity started. First, it came by text message:
"I'm trying to look at your updated play information (It is not "Husband's" information because Husband is not in the play) and it let's (*lets) me get in and said page doesn't exist. (The website creator emailed everyone about this. You were literally told one day prior that this was going to happen.) I don't know what I'm doing with this 2 houses you started. (The only thing she's ever done on 2houses is send messages. It's the same thing as sending an email.) I didn't know how it worked when you guys started it (We did not "start" anything. 2houses existed a long time before Husband signed up for it.) and now it's even more complicated. (They made some changes to the website but everything still works exactly the same. There is nothing complicated about it.) When I call why don't you EVER answer. You NEVER call me back. (She didn't even call Husband, so I have no idea where this is coming from.) What is up with all that. (Um, you're insane and start sending angry text messages after not saying anything to Husband for weeks on end. That might be a good start to understanding "what is up with all that.") Over here there is minimal service. Very hard to look at anything let alone down load (*download) stuff. (Why do I care about your Internet connection? You agreed to check your email once a day; figure something out. Also, Husband didn't send you anything that needed to be downloaded.) Can you please tell me what has changed for [Daughters] play?"
Then came an email:
"Hi [Husband],
I wanted to update you on my current address. It's only temporary.
[Address of her parents' trailer]
Wish you would answer your phone and/call me back. (She wishes that Husband would "and/call her back.") But as usual you haven't. (She literally never called. Husband and I have no idea what she's talking about.)
[The Ex]"
Immediately after she sent the email, she sent another text:
"Since I couldn't get through with 2 houses. (This is not a sentence.) I sent you an email. Please look at it." (Why was this necessary?)
Nine minutes later, she sent the first message on 2houses; it was a reply to the message Husband had sent about Daughter's play:
"Finally was able to get all the way in. Got your message." (Husband gave her information; he didn't ask her anything so no response was required. Why does she reply to this message, but refuses to answer his messages when he asks her questions?)
Six minutes later, she sent a second message on 2houses:
"I did send you an email because I couldn't get through on this 2 houses. I wanted to update you on my new address. It's only temporary.
[Address of her parents' trailer]
[The Ex]"
Fourteen minutes later, she sent a third message on 2houses: (She sure seems to be firing off a lot of messages for someone who "doesn't know what she's doing.")
"Can you please take another look at the placement schedule. Am I picking up the kids on Tuesday this week? I'm very confused. (When the website updated, it glitched and was showing that The Ex had placement all week starting Tuesday. Still don't know how that happened but whatever. Minor detail.)
Also, I have the kids every memorial weekend. That is not updated on the calendar either. Please look at this. Thanks" (The calendar already showed that The Ex had placement that weekend. Husband had already updated the calendar to reflect that she would also have placement that Monday. Again, some issue with the website update changed what he had done. It really wasn't that big of a deal because we know she gets the kids on Memorial Day weekend; nobody was trying to trick her.)
Husband fixed the calendar and replied to the last message saying the calendar changed when the site updated but it should be fixed now. Husband then replied to the second message, asking if he'd be picking up the kids in Another City (Only because she's asked him quite a few times recently if that's where he'd like to meet.); Husband pointed out that her choice to move added an extra hour of drive time that is not part of the court order.
Husband sent one final message to address the ranting messages she had sent, saying that he got five texts from her this morning but did not have any missed calls or voice messages. (We all know how much she loves to leave a voice mail asking/demanding that he return her call. She never called but complained repeatedly that he wasn't answering or calling her back.) Husband repeated he would communicate with her in writing and that the guardian ad litem agreed it was best for both of them. Husband pointed out that he started using 2houses because she claimed she wasn't getting his texts or emails. (This is because she was complaining that she didn't know how to use the site.) Husband told her that if she can get online to send an email, then she should be able to get into a website. (This is referencing her statement that service is "minimal" by her and it's "very hard to look at" anything.) Husband again pointed out that she was not following the court order about communication or about answering questions, and asked her to do what she had agreed to do so that they could avoid court.
Over twelve hours later, she replied to the message about exchanges:
"Since I knew you would throw a fit about this distance, I had aready (Not my typo) Googled distances from your house to this address and it would be the same as driving from your house to [Tourist City]. (Okay, that's all good and fine. Why didn't you just say that to begin with?) If you are not satisfied with this arrangement, then we will just have to pick up at each others houses. (Right, except "your" house is in New City, not Tiny City.) Per court order, it states that pick up will be at each others houses. This is my residence as of now." (I just love when she tries to interpret the court order to suit whatever she's doing at the moment. Makes me laugh every single time.)
Husband replied and agreed that yes, the order does say they will pick up at each other's houses; the order applied to when The Ex lived in New City. Husband said that she made a choice to move which is a substantial change in circumstances so the order needs to be changed. Husband said that they could talk about it themselves or let the court decide; he tried asking her a question only to be told that he's throwing a fit. Husband said he would agree to meet in Tourist City instead of New City for exchanges and let her know where he'd like to meet; he said she could still pick up and drop off the kids at his house like previously agreed. (Wording had to be chosen very carefully here. If we would have said, "Tourist City is okay" then she would have argued that we agreed all placement exchanges would have taken place in Tourist City and insisted that we drive out there every Friday and Sunday.)
I'm trying to figure out what's going on; something had to have pissed her off because nothing else explains this level of unprovoked hostility at 7:30am on a Monday morning. My guess is New Guy broke up with her or she finally realized he's not leaving his wife.
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