Shoes
There always seems to be some form of contention over shoes. In 2005 while the divorce was pending, The Ex requested that her child support be increased. Her reason: Husband had bought new shoes for himself.
In 2012, we got a court order requiring The Ex to contribute to Son and Daughter's variable expenses. One month after this, The Ex took the kids shoe shopping right before Husband was supposed to pick them up. The Ex typically would not allow the kids to wear any of "her" clothing or shoes to our house but if they did, she would call Husband and ask him to make sure it was returned on her next visitation weekend. But since there was now an order that they split the cost of the kids' variable items, The Ex handed Husband a receipt for almost $95 under the impression that he was going to owe her around $64. Despite showing her the court order saying that shoes are not covered and that expenses over $75 needed to be discussed prior to being incurred, The Ex still argued that Husband needed to pay her back.
Now in 2015, we're dealing with another "shoe issue."
We went to pick up the kids on Monday evening; I took Baby Girl and Baby Boy to the bathroom while we were waiting. Naturally, The Ex arrived while I was inside. She got out of her vehicle, walked up to ours and told Husband something about them running out of time but her dad had given her some money to buy shoes for Son, so she wanted to know if she could pick Son up and take him shopping. Husband told her to message him on 2houses. The Ex kept trying to talk to him; Husband repeated that she could message him on 2houses. When I came back outside, The Ex was already in her car and pulled away very quickly; it was very obvious that she was irritated and after talking to Husband about what happened, I understood why.
About an hour later, this came through on 2houses:
"I tried talking to you outside the gas station about picking up [Son] and [Daughter] right after school tomorrow. (She always has to say something like this - "I tried talking to you," "I called you," "You're not answering my phone calls." We know you did. Husband has made it very apparent, both in and out of court, that he wants to communicate in writing but I think she's under the impression that she's somehow "catching" Husband at....something. Either way, it's pointless because Husband KNOWS she tried talking to him; he's the one who asked her to send the message.) You wanted me to have this in writing. (I think what she meant was, "You wanted me to put this in writing." Husband doesn't care what she has or does not have.) Mom and dad noticed (Not "I noticed...") that the kids need (*a) new pair of shoes so we ("We"? I didn't realize that Son and Daughter's parents were Husband, The Ex, The Ex's mom and The Ex's dad. Interesting.) would like to take them to [City name] and get them a pair. Only [Son] needs a pair (You literally just that both kids need shoes and you want to buy shoes for both kids, and are now saying that only Son needs a pair.) but [Daughter] would like to tag along also. It would only be for a few hours or so and I will drop them off at home when we're done. (She literally just had the kids for three days. During those three days, The Ex bought new shoes for herself and Daughter, but did not buy any for Son. Now, she wants to pick up Son after school to buy him shoes when she lives almost 2 hours away.) Please let me know."
Husband replied that Son has been asking us to buy him shoes and we haven't because he's got plenty of shoes here that he chooses not to wear. He then said he doesn't understand why she's willing to spend the money on gas for a 5-hour road trip for shoes that aren't needed, yet she refuses to pay him for the variable expenses that are now over 6 months old and total over $500. (Just for the fun of it, I looked up this route on Google Maps. It's over 200 miles and is probably going to cost at least $20 in gas. The Ex hasn't paid anything toward variable expenses for two and a half months, and we haven't gotten any child support in four weeks. But she's going to come all the way down here to buy Son a pair of shoes that he doesn't need in the first place, after she just had him for three freaking days.)
The Ex read his message but didn't reply to it, and then texted both kids saying she was "sorry...but shoes from grandma and grandpa aren't happening" and that she would "explain more later."
Because once again: it's all my husband's fault.
In 2012, we got a court order requiring The Ex to contribute to Son and Daughter's variable expenses. One month after this, The Ex took the kids shoe shopping right before Husband was supposed to pick them up. The Ex typically would not allow the kids to wear any of "her" clothing or shoes to our house but if they did, she would call Husband and ask him to make sure it was returned on her next visitation weekend. But since there was now an order that they split the cost of the kids' variable items, The Ex handed Husband a receipt for almost $95 under the impression that he was going to owe her around $64. Despite showing her the court order saying that shoes are not covered and that expenses over $75 needed to be discussed prior to being incurred, The Ex still argued that Husband needed to pay her back.
Now in 2015, we're dealing with another "shoe issue."
We went to pick up the kids on Monday evening; I took Baby Girl and Baby Boy to the bathroom while we were waiting. Naturally, The Ex arrived while I was inside. She got out of her vehicle, walked up to ours and told Husband something about them running out of time but her dad had given her some money to buy shoes for Son, so she wanted to know if she could pick Son up and take him shopping. Husband told her to message him on 2houses. The Ex kept trying to talk to him; Husband repeated that she could message him on 2houses. When I came back outside, The Ex was already in her car and pulled away very quickly; it was very obvious that she was irritated and after talking to Husband about what happened, I understood why.
About an hour later, this came through on 2houses:
"I tried talking to you outside the gas station about picking up [Son] and [Daughter] right after school tomorrow. (She always has to say something like this - "I tried talking to you," "I called you," "You're not answering my phone calls." We know you did. Husband has made it very apparent, both in and out of court, that he wants to communicate in writing but I think she's under the impression that she's somehow "catching" Husband at....something. Either way, it's pointless because Husband KNOWS she tried talking to him; he's the one who asked her to send the message.) You wanted me to have this in writing. (I think what she meant was, "You wanted me to put this in writing." Husband doesn't care what she has or does not have.) Mom and dad noticed (Not "I noticed...") that the kids need (*a) new pair of shoes so we ("We"? I didn't realize that Son and Daughter's parents were Husband, The Ex, The Ex's mom and The Ex's dad. Interesting.) would like to take them to [City name] and get them a pair. Only [Son] needs a pair (You literally just that both kids need shoes and you want to buy shoes for both kids, and are now saying that only Son needs a pair.) but [Daughter] would like to tag along also. It would only be for a few hours or so and I will drop them off at home when we're done. (She literally just had the kids for three days. During those three days, The Ex bought new shoes for herself and Daughter, but did not buy any for Son. Now, she wants to pick up Son after school to buy him shoes when she lives almost 2 hours away.) Please let me know."
Husband replied that Son has been asking us to buy him shoes and we haven't because he's got plenty of shoes here that he chooses not to wear. He then said he doesn't understand why she's willing to spend the money on gas for a 5-hour road trip for shoes that aren't needed, yet she refuses to pay him for the variable expenses that are now over 6 months old and total over $500. (Just for the fun of it, I looked up this route on Google Maps. It's over 200 miles and is probably going to cost at least $20 in gas. The Ex hasn't paid anything toward variable expenses for two and a half months, and we haven't gotten any child support in four weeks. But she's going to come all the way down here to buy Son a pair of shoes that he doesn't need in the first place, after she just had him for three freaking days.)
The Ex read his message but didn't reply to it, and then texted both kids saying she was "sorry...but shoes from grandma and grandpa aren't happening" and that she would "explain more later."
Because once again: it's all my husband's fault.
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