Stupid is as stupid does
Eighteen days after Husband first sent the stipulation to The Ex, she finally responded:
"In the event that child support is resumed the petitioner asks that the respondent resumes his half of the transportation in placement exchanges. (She definitely did not write this. I am assuming that she finally coughed up the money to pay her lawyer to read it and give her a valid opinion rather than relying on her friends and family to tell her what to do. And really, why couldn't she just have said, "Can you write in there that if I start paying child support again, you'll start doing half the driving?") The petitioner will not be held responsible for all past debts of the variable expenses. (Could have just said that too. This response didn't need to take almost three weeks.) All other terms as listed are accepted by the petitioner, please add these stipulations and reply for a final agreement. (Again, "she" is referring to herself in the third party as the petitioner. Absolutely no way that she wrote this up.)"
Within 12 hours, Husband made the changes and sent it back to her, asking her to please sign it and send it back as soon as possible so that we could get it filed. We were leaving for vacation and would have preferred to get it filed prior to leaving, but whatever. The Ex didn't mail it to us before we left, so we just figured we'd do it when we got back.
Saturday night at 10:05pm, Husband gets a message on 2houses with the subject "pick up on monday":
"I was wondering if I could pick up the kids at 5 pm at the same gas station in [Tourist City]? please let me know if that's ok." (Um...no that's not okay, because you agreed to do all the transportation.)
Husband replied the next day, asking if she had signed and returned the stipulation that the two of them had already agreed to. Exactly twenty minutes later(That has to be some type of record for her; she never responds that fast.), The Ex replies:
"I did send it back to you. I haven't received a signed copy from the judge/court house as of yet. When I receive a signed copy of the order then I will start all the transportation." (Never mind that she waited eighteen days to ask for amendments to the stipulation; never mind that it took a full month from the time she was sent the stipulation until we received a signed copy. It hasn't been signed by a judge so she thinks she's going to force Husband to drive the kids to her one last time.)
Husband sent back a reply that they already had a written agreement through 2houses and she already stated two weeks ago that she agreed to the terms of the stipulation, which means transportation is now her responsibility (This is precisely why we communicate with her in writing. It's not court ordered but she said that she agreed to it; she doesn't get to announce 43 hours before placement exchange that she decided she suddenly changed her mind and all bets are off.) Husband told her that if she had responded in a timely manner, then it would be signed. Husband told her that if it was in our mail the following day, he would take it to the courthouse and give her a copy when she came to pick up the kids.
Sure enough, it was in the mail the next day with a postmark of July 8th. The same day that she mailed out the stipulation, she asked Son and Daughter how their vacation was going; she mailed it back when she knew we weren't home. That's what makes me laugh the most about this. Even if we had been home, by the time we would have received the stipulation it would have been too late to get it filed that week anyway.
It's times like these that I honestly can't tell if her behavior is intentionally malicious and vindictive, or if she truly is just that plain stupid.
"In the event that child support is resumed the petitioner asks that the respondent resumes his half of the transportation in placement exchanges. (She definitely did not write this. I am assuming that she finally coughed up the money to pay her lawyer to read it and give her a valid opinion rather than relying on her friends and family to tell her what to do. And really, why couldn't she just have said, "Can you write in there that if I start paying child support again, you'll start doing half the driving?") The petitioner will not be held responsible for all past debts of the variable expenses. (Could have just said that too. This response didn't need to take almost three weeks.) All other terms as listed are accepted by the petitioner, please add these stipulations and reply for a final agreement. (Again, "she" is referring to herself in the third party as the petitioner. Absolutely no way that she wrote this up.)"
Within 12 hours, Husband made the changes and sent it back to her, asking her to please sign it and send it back as soon as possible so that we could get it filed. We were leaving for vacation and would have preferred to get it filed prior to leaving, but whatever. The Ex didn't mail it to us before we left, so we just figured we'd do it when we got back.
Saturday night at 10:05pm, Husband gets a message on 2houses with the subject "pick up on monday":
"I was wondering if I could pick up the kids at 5 pm at the same gas station in [Tourist City]? please let me know if that's ok." (Um...no that's not okay, because you agreed to do all the transportation.)
Husband replied the next day, asking if she had signed and returned the stipulation that the two of them had already agreed to. Exactly twenty minutes later(That has to be some type of record for her; she never responds that fast.), The Ex replies:
"I did send it back to you. I haven't received a signed copy from the judge/court house as of yet. When I receive a signed copy of the order then I will start all the transportation." (Never mind that she waited eighteen days to ask for amendments to the stipulation; never mind that it took a full month from the time she was sent the stipulation until we received a signed copy. It hasn't been signed by a judge so she thinks she's going to force Husband to drive the kids to her one last time.)
Husband sent back a reply that they already had a written agreement through 2houses and she already stated two weeks ago that she agreed to the terms of the stipulation, which means transportation is now her responsibility (This is precisely why we communicate with her in writing. It's not court ordered but she said that she agreed to it; she doesn't get to announce 43 hours before placement exchange that she decided she suddenly changed her mind and all bets are off.) Husband told her that if she had responded in a timely manner, then it would be signed. Husband told her that if it was in our mail the following day, he would take it to the courthouse and give her a copy when she came to pick up the kids.
Sure enough, it was in the mail the next day with a postmark of July 8th. The same day that she mailed out the stipulation, she asked Son and Daughter how their vacation was going; she mailed it back when she knew we weren't home. That's what makes me laugh the most about this. Even if we had been home, by the time we would have received the stipulation it would have been too late to get it filed that week anyway.
It's times like these that I honestly can't tell if her behavior is intentionally malicious and vindictive, or if she truly is just that plain stupid.
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